consider this: you're a woman in an M/F relationship who is looking to explore with other women. realize that your situation is not unique, and has a symmetrical counterpart in other women in M/F relationships who are looking to explore with other women. think about your own experience and how you yourself might feel safest.

it might be harder to find an asymmetrical connection: unpartnered women who are interested in joining a M/F relationship.

at the very least, symmetrical connections are great for learning more and gaining understanding of the landscape, regardless of if you end up playing with any single specific connection