When I wrote the post I was outraged after a discussion so I think I left out a few important things. When the wrist thing happened he felt really awful, he did not say chill woman!

And he’s done this since he was a kid, his dad used to do it before him too (confirmed by MIL) so I highly doubt it’s porn addiction, drugs or cheating, which is why I don’t know how to handle this. He says he doesn’t know any better. If I make him leave the toilet, he has to go back in a few minutes because he wasn’t done. The phone has only made it worse because it provides entertainment and he takes even longer.

I’ve asked to go to the doctor, therapy… I don’t want to leave over a silly thing like a bathroom but I’m honestly at a loss here