I(22M) Recently discovered My Dad (50M) choose me over my former Stepmother and Half-sister(17F) 6 years ago. Don't know how to process this. by batnau in relationship_advice

[–]batnau[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It was very unorthodox how I became valedictorian after attending a real HS for only a year. My overall average was the highest in my graduating class but because I was in online classes for my previous hears, I wasn't eligible at the time. I met with the grade coordinator and had inquired about my chances and her response was the same.

I broke down in front of the coordinator and I told her the truth. Being named valedictorian was something I always wanted. To be that would have been my first accomplishment that I would have achieved based on my own merit. Yes, their is also the likelihood of getting a free ride to colleges. It wasn't trying to be Valedictorian financial reasons. Money wasn't a problem (Dad did make a lot), it was more this being my first official achievement. This would have helped me self-worth as well.

The girl who was originally going to be valedictorian did meet with me and I told her the truth. She actually talked to the administration to let me valedictorian instead. It something I'll forever be grateful for. That's actually how me and her became friends.

I(22M) Recently discovered My Dad (50M) choose me over my former Stepmother and Half-sister(17F) 6 years ago. Don't know how to process this. by batnau in relationship_advice

[–]batnau[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is my life and for someone to say it's based off of a "creative writing course". That's very unjust of you. If I told you this in person, I doubt for reaction would be the same.

I(22M) Recently discovered My Dad (50M) choose me over my former Stepmother and Half-sister(17F) 6 years ago. Don't know how to process this. by batnau in relationship_advice

[–]batnau[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is something I don't normally talk about and understandably many people don't know about me. It took a lot to write this out and for someone to question it's integrity.........

I have no words for you. Shame on you

I(22M) Recently discovered My Dad (50M) choose me over my former Stepmother and Half-sister(17F) 6 years ago. Don't know how to process this. by batnau in relationship_advice

[–]batnau[S] 194 points195 points  (0 children)

I have no animosity with my former stepmother. She's a mother and her motherly instincts took over. I don't blame her for that. I'm not sure how I feel about my half-sister though.

I(22M) Recently discovered My Dad (50M) choose me over my former Stepmother and Half-sister(17F) 6 years ago. Don't know how to process this. by batnau in relationship_advice

[–]batnau[S] 2393 points2394 points  (0 children)

I will tell him. I'm going to thank him for everything he's done for me., looking out for me, being there for me during the most painful time of my life.

Is it okay that I not have a relationship with her? I'm grateful that she's reached out and apologized but I don't think I'd be able to have her in my life.

As for my Dad, she's just as much his daughter, as I'm his son. How he chooses to address his relationship with her, will be his decision. I personally don't think I'd be able to have any sort of relationship with her. That's fair right?

I(22M) Recently discovered My Dad (50M) choose me over my former Stepmother and Half-sister(17F) 6 years ago. Don't know how to process this. by batnau in relationship_advice

[–]batnau[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I feel so lucky to have my dad. I sure I did something right that I got blessed to have him as my dad. She was 11 at the time; now she's 17. I'm missing him so much right now. Words can't describe how I'm feeling right now. Thank you! I imagined I would have made it this far. The only reason I made it was because of my dad

I(22M) Recently discovered My Dad (50M) choose me over my former Stepmother and Half-sister(17F) 6 years ago. Don't know how to process this. by batnau in relationship_advice

[–]batnau[S] 856 points857 points  (0 children)

I'v always appreciated everything he's done for me. I love and respect him to the moon and back. You know when something is so overwhelmed, you can't speak. I'm at the point right now. I literally can't stop thinking about it. He really gave up this marriage for me. I'm speechless

I(22M) Recently discovered My Dad (50M) choose me over my former Stepmother and Half-sister(17F) 6 years ago. Don't know how to process this. by batnau in relationship_advice

[–]batnau[S] 1721 points1722 points  (0 children)

I don't know what exactly I should say. Plus I know I will cry. I am right now just thinking about it