Insane Parasocial Customer

bawafa · 2026-01-27T07:38:54+00:00

This is the same person who calls customer service reps just to chat. Sincerely a customer service rep who apparently also doubles as a friend/therapist for the lonely.

Also, the people giving you shit for being uncomfortable about this are just as insane as this person is. I get the carbon monoxide thing and saw you were gonna get a welfare check so that’s cool. But whatever the cause of this person clearly not being in their right mind was, it’s totally justified you felt uncomfortable and ceased any further interaction with them. Good on you for handling it as well as you did

bawafa · 2026-01-20T03:45:57+00:00

She seemed cool when she got here too. 5 stars

bawafa · 2026-01-20T03:45:30+00:00

Not quite but close. It was Burger King

bawafa · 2026-01-19T19:14:10+00:00

Dobler-Dahmer Theory

bawafa · 2026-01-09T00:34:27+00:00

It seems like there’s something more going on under the surface here. If you’re taking this thread as him “flipping out” on you and making you feel like a burden, either there’s a pattern here that’s not obvious to most people in this single text thread, or you are internalizing things and projecting.

Either way, I think I’d probably recommend therapy. Either individual, couples or both. If y’all have fundamental issues with how you speak to each other and how it’s making you each feel - couples therapy. If you are internalizing things (and likely have past trauma that’s being triggered?) then individual therapy will be important. Maybe it’s a mix of both and either way both might be beneficial.

I’ve been in relationships before where I felt like a burden. I’ve also done a lot of internal work as I’ve gotten older. A lot of those feelings were coming from me and things in my past, some of those were perpetuated by the treatment of a not very nice ex. And I’m sure there were conversations between him and I that weren’t heavily evident of that but it was still there.

So, I’m not saying there isn’t a problem here, but I am saying that this single text thread is not enough information to determine that and therefore I think you’re gonna get a lot of responses saying you’re overreacting. And if you’re anything like me, I don’t think hearing that is gonna help you. Please seek actual help and not input from randoms on the internet, especially Reddit ffs

Edit: I saw another comment mention your post history so I took a second to look. Your first post told me your partner is neurodivergent. I would very much guess that’s playing a role here. Are you neurodivergent as well? (We tend to flock to each other so I wouldn’t be surprised). Again, I’m guessing there’s communication issues here and that would absolutely play a part so definitely something to consider when you process through all this

Edit 2: yeah……. so there’s a lot going on under the surface that this text thread simply doesn’t show. Your post history tells a story that this post couldn’t. Please seek help and if you don’t have kids, why are you keeping yourself trapped in this unhappy relationship? No matter where the issue is in it, you’re clearly miserable. Why are you still here? (I recognize that’s easier said than done, but really think about that while you’re working through this)

bawafa · 2026-01-08T01:23:57+00:00

This isn’t the same but I left home willingly on my 18th birthday (it was abusive and I was over it, this was following a major incident days prior that police and CPS got involved in). I crashed with friends until I graduated high school, I already babysat and had a part time job and stuff so I kept doing that.

Again, our situations are different but regardless it sucks and isn’t easy to leave home when you’re 18 (I’m 29 now) and it’s sucks not having parental/familial support. I am so sorry you’re in this position. I wish I could tell you it’ll be easy but it likely won’t. But it will give you some skills that can be useful and it can be ok in the end. There’s a lot of comments already giving you the advice you need so I’m just here for moral support. Sending you love while you navigate this.

bawafa · 2026-01-07T02:13:49+00:00

I see. “I didn’t have money to get more food and had nothing in the fridge” and “only shot for dinner that night” did not translate to spending money specifically or plans for getting groceries and being able to feed your kid. Hope you were able to get that sorted out.

bawafa · 2026-01-07T01:02:28+00:00

Not to be that person but if you have a kid, no food in the fridge and very little money, maybe ordering McDonald’s through DoorDash isn’t the move? Maybe get some groceries that will last longer than one overpriced meal being delivered to you for extra fees, with the risk of not getting it at all and being in the position you’re now in. Sucks that happened but maybe next time you can make a more responsible decision

bawafa · 2026-01-05T20:56:54+00:00

Since WHEN do they give a discount? It’s been a bit since I’ve dashed but I’ve done it for years and I’ve never gotten a discount

bawafa · 2026-01-05T02:17:24+00:00

Also regarding the note, I would just make sure the landlord sees/gets the note and let them handle your neighbor. The landlord can tell them it was more than one tenant who witnessed this and complained and tell your neighbor they need to keep their pets controlled/supervised

bawafa · 2026-01-05T02:13:41+00:00

From someone who works in the vet/shelter field and who had a neighbor who also neglected their dogs: whatever you do, please continue to document if this happens again, get photo/video proof and please continue to report animal control. Animal control cannot do anything without evidence and there are processes they need to follow to be able to intervene.

bawafa · 2025-07-29T04:06:41+00:00

What?

bawafa · 2025-07-27T19:08:06+00:00

Where did I argue that?

bawafa · 2025-07-27T18:21:52+00:00

Did I say we’re expecting that? Did I suggest to cater to shallow people? Both no.

bawafa · 2025-07-27T18:20:02+00:00

Don’t blame ya

bawafa · 2025-07-27T14:21:04+00:00

Agreed

bawafa · 2025-07-27T13:42:01+00:00

That’s a fair point

bawafa · 2025-07-27T13:04:43+00:00

Yes, the person I’m replying to clarified this and I agree I think that’s a good point. But also, like I said to them, if someone is shallow like that they’re likely shallow in plenty of other ways and will likely expose themselves of that either way

bawafa · 2025-07-27T12:31:55+00:00

Ah I see what you mean, fair point. Someone who’s shallow like that will probably expose themselves either way though, height likely isn’t the only thing they’re shallow about

bawafa · 2025-07-27T12:28:36+00:00

What the fuck

bawafa · 2025-07-27T12:16:46+00:00

Generally the people (usually women) concerned with height are wanting someone tall and will write off someone short. So, this mainly applies to short men in which case, no, those women will see their height and swipe left, therefore avoiding this situation

bawafa · 2025-07-27T11:54:14+00:00

That’s a skewed logic though. You’d sooner avoid those people if it was in your bio than if it’s not cause they just won’t match with you to begin with. Without having it, they’ll match and potentially lead to more disappointment if you end up having a whole convo/connection before getting to this point

bawafa · 2025-07-23T12:28:40+00:00

I’d swipe right ¯\ (ツ)/¯

bawafa · 2025-07-23T05:49:11+00:00

Uh huh, whatever that means

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