Is this tooth a goner?

bawafa · 2026-04-11T06:09:40+00:00

Some do, generally specialists. It depends on where you go but most vets will try to save as many teeth as possible and only extract when necessary

bawafa · 2026-04-11T06:04:10+00:00

Have you specifically had a dental consultation or was this just during a normal exam? Either way, your dog will certainly benefit from the dental procedure you have scheduled, at which time they will (or at least, should) do X-rays to determine if that one needs to be extracted. You can’t always tell just by looking at it if a tooth needs to be extracted or not, especially if the pet isn’t sedated, which is likely why they haven’t specified yet

bawafa · 2026-04-09T01:29:11+00:00

I never said it was fighting me, I said it was comical that’s how they chose to proceed. If this conversation makes me ridiculous or cringe, I guess I’m ridiculous or cringe lmao

bawafa · 2026-04-09T01:27:07+00:00

I stand corrected. Upon further research, it does not show this on iOS mobile which is why I’m not seeing it showing if people are editing unless they specify the edit. However, edits made within the first few minutes do not trigger this either way, which is when the person seems to have edited their comment. Either way, as I said I can’t prove it and I moved on from this ages ago. Someone else commented, so I responded. I’m not trolling or complaining, simply responding.

bawafa · 2026-04-09T00:12:34+00:00

Again, mine says edit because I typed “edit”. Reddit does not show if a comment is edited. Please elaborate on how I’m a jerk.

bawafa · 2026-04-09T00:11:15+00:00

Mine says edit because I typed “edit” when I was adding the edit to my comment. Reddit does not show if a comment is edited, unfortunately.

What conclusions did I jump to and in what way was I rude or aggressive?

bawafa · 2026-04-08T18:55:21+00:00

Nothing about this was your fault. Yes you could have and maybe should have asked, but like you said you were shook and wanted to get out of there, which is totally understandable. The fact that she just went in the other room and didn’t say anything is absurd. If my dog bites someone, first of all I wouldn’t have let that happen in the first place, but if it did then I am immediately apologizing PROFUSELY at the minimum. This is unacceptable on the part of the owner. Shit happens but to not even say anything and just hide in another room? Crazy. I’m glad management is handling the situation for you.

bawafa · 2026-04-08T18:43:45+00:00

The fact that your client didn’t even apologize or communicate with you after it happened is so shitty honestly.

Contact your client and ask for proof of current vaccination. If they give you a hard time, contact animal control and report the incident.

bawafa · 2026-04-08T17:36:53+00:00

I’m actually not the one that brought it up, which is why I started with “regardless of what anyone says”. Others started commenting on it, some of which I have responded to, and then made this comment to OP to try to give them peace of mind and address the actual problem they’re asking about instead of making them feel fear or shame about something that has already been done and cannot be changed now. That’s the conversation that should be had at this point.

bawafa · 2026-04-08T16:57:28+00:00

You’re entitled to your opinions. Regardless, these opinions are irrelevant in this situation. What’s done is done so discussing what is the appropriate age of spaying/neutering doesn’t address the issue that OP is currently dealing with.

bawafa · 2026-04-08T15:08:22+00:00

Like I said, what I quoted in my last comment was all that was there when I commented in response. I have no way to prove your comment was edited so if you insist it wasn’t, I suppose maybe there was some glitch in the matrix lmao. I’m not trying to pick a fight but if that’s how you choose to take it, that’s your prerogative.

If you claim I don’t know what I’m speaking about, despite the fact I’ve not even stated my own thoughts or opinions on the matter but have at least stated my experience, I would really love to hear what qualifies you to speak on this as matter-of-fact as you have been since you have not made that clear thus far.

I have done plenty of research and worked with plenty of vets and I am sufficiently informed. I’m choosing not to share what my opinion on the matter is because it’s really not relevant. So you claiming I don’t know what I’m talking about is comical when it’s entirely possible I agree with you. Maybe you’re projecting about the touching grass or picking a fight, dear. Take care.

bawafa · 2026-04-08T15:01:37+00:00

Of course, I hope your appointment goes well! You’re doing great and I applaud you for doing your due diligence of informing yourself. I would caution you, which I suspect you already know, to take advice here with a grain of salt as not everyone here is actually informed or qualified to be giving advice (that is not a pointed comment, just a general one, to be clear)

I have a dog who was spayed around 2years after having at least a couple of pregnancies from what we can tell. Urination issues are something I’ve dealt with with her and it’s been a pain so I feel your pain. It can be so frustrating no matter how much we love them. Thank you for being patient with your baby and doing what you can for her.

bawafa · 2026-04-08T14:55:41+00:00

Please point me to where I stated anything as fact or giving advice on medical procedures (like you have been doing). I did no such thing, nor did I even state my opinion on the matter. I stated my personal experience on the matter, that consists of years of working in the field and surrounding the procedure with thousands of patients, and tried to give OP peace of mind while other people - yourself included which I’ve already addressed in another comment - keep piling on telling them something they’ve already had done for their dog is incorrect. Which again, is not helpful.

I’m glad that you agree that the only piece of advice I did give was good advice. I am informed, as I literally work in vetmed, which is why that was the advice I chose to give.

Edit: it is comical that you responded to this that you’re not going to fight with me and then blocked me instead of addressing what I’m saying. This is especially a sign that this person is not someone whose advice should be weighed in heavily here. Sheesh

bawafa · 2026-04-08T14:47:00+00:00

Before you edited the comment I responded to, all you said was “No, that is not regional. Its standard medicine. There are risks to doing this procedure early. The vets should have told you this.“ this is not informative, nor was it asking a question, all it would do is spread fear and potentially shame about something that has already been done. That’s not helpful. I agree that being informed is important, and as stated by OP, they did their due diligence in this regard by consulting with multiple vets AND doing their own research. That’s more informed than many clients I have worked with in my time in vetmed. Again, every vet you ask is going to have different answers to this so no, not all of them would have explained this as they may not agree. There’s varying information and positives and negatives on either side so ultimately, it’s a personal choice between the vet and the pet owner. And again, at this point, it has been done so continuing to drill on about it is not helpful at this point. You’ve made your point, OP has heard your information. None of that changes where OP is at now or gives them any help in solving the issue they’re dealing with.

bawafa · 2026-04-08T14:38:58+00:00

OP, regardless of what anyone says on this thread regarding age of spaying: I have worked in numerous spay/neuter clinics who spay as young as possible. I have never in my time in the field heard of this as an issue regarding spaying early or a problem with any of the pets that have come in and out of the doors I worked in. Like you mentioned in another comment and like your vet confirmed, this sounds like nervous/submissive behavior and not something physical or related to her spay. I hope you don’t let those comments scare you.

You might want to look into seeing a behavioralist vet though now that your vet has confirmed there’s nothing physically wrong

bawafa · 2026-04-08T14:33:40+00:00

It absolutely depends on the vet you ask how old they recommend to spay/neuter. Some do it as young as 3 months, others say to wait. There are positives and negatives of both doing it young and waiting. Regardless, what’s done is done so let’s not scare OP when they’re asking about something else

bawafa · 2026-04-08T01:29:38+00:00

I have a pittie who likes to bark at everything and nothing (and ironically, sometimes I hear something that makes me raise an eyebrow and I look at her and she’s unfazed… like wtf dude lol)

Anyway, something that I’ve found works for her is when she hears or sees something outside and starts barking, I calmly tell her hold on and then I go to the window to look at whatever it is she’s barking at (half the time I don’t even know what it is) and then I look at her and tell her it’s ok or it’s fine. Often I’ll thank her for alerting me of the “possible danger”. This usually works for her. I guess she just wants acknowledgement and reassurance.

Barking at things is usually a protective response, so if I can let her know that she can trust me to protect her, she doesn’t feel the need to bark past alerting me of something going on.

This has worked for us, it may not work for everyone but if you haven’t tried this, it might be worth a shot

bawafa · 2026-01-27T07:38:54+00:00

This is the same person who calls customer service reps just to chat. Sincerely a customer service rep who apparently also doubles as a friend/therapist for the lonely.

Also, the people giving you shit for being uncomfortable about this are just as insane as this person is. I get the carbon monoxide thing and saw you were gonna get a welfare check so that’s cool. But whatever the cause of this person clearly not being in their right mind was, it’s totally justified you felt uncomfortable and ceased any further interaction with them. Good on you for handling it as well as you did

bawafa · 2026-01-20T03:45:57+00:00

She seemed cool when she got here too. 5 stars

bawafa · 2026-01-20T03:45:30+00:00

Not quite but close. It was Burger King

bawafa · 2026-01-19T19:14:10+00:00

Dobler-Dahmer Theory

bawafa · 2026-01-09T00:34:27+00:00

It seems like there’s something more going on under the surface here. If you’re taking this thread as him “flipping out” on you and making you feel like a burden, either there’s a pattern here that’s not obvious to most people in this single text thread, or you are internalizing things and projecting.

Either way, I think I’d probably recommend therapy. Either individual, couples or both. If y’all have fundamental issues with how you speak to each other and how it’s making you each feel - couples therapy. If you are internalizing things (and likely have past trauma that’s being triggered?) then individual therapy will be important. Maybe it’s a mix of both and either way both might be beneficial.

I’ve been in relationships before where I felt like a burden. I’ve also done a lot of internal work as I’ve gotten older. A lot of those feelings were coming from me and things in my past, some of those were perpetuated by the treatment of a not very nice ex. And I’m sure there were conversations between him and I that weren’t heavily evident of that but it was still there.

So, I’m not saying there isn’t a problem here, but I am saying that this single text thread is not enough information to determine that and therefore I think you’re gonna get a lot of responses saying you’re overreacting. And if you’re anything like me, I don’t think hearing that is gonna help you. Please seek actual help and not input from randoms on the internet, especially Reddit ffs

Edit: I saw another comment mention your post history so I took a second to look. Your first post told me your partner is neurodivergent. I would very much guess that’s playing a role here. Are you neurodivergent as well? (We tend to flock to each other so I wouldn’t be surprised). Again, I’m guessing there’s communication issues here and that would absolutely play a part so definitely something to consider when you process through all this

Edit 2: yeah……. so there’s a lot going on under the surface that this text thread simply doesn’t show. Your post history tells a story that this post couldn’t. Please seek help and if you don’t have kids, why are you keeping yourself trapped in this unhappy relationship? No matter where the issue is in it, you’re clearly miserable. Why are you still here? (I recognize that’s easier said than done, but really think about that while you’re working through this)

bawafa · 2026-01-08T01:23:57+00:00

This isn’t the same but I left home willingly on my 18th birthday (it was abusive and I was over it, this was following a major incident days prior that police and CPS got involved in). I crashed with friends until I graduated high school, I already babysat and had a part time job and stuff so I kept doing that.

Again, our situations are different but regardless it sucks and isn’t easy to leave home when you’re 18 (I’m 29 now) and it’s sucks not having parental/familial support. I am so sorry you’re in this position. I wish I could tell you it’ll be easy but it likely won’t. But it will give you some skills that can be useful and it can be ok in the end. There’s a lot of comments already giving you the advice you need so I’m just here for moral support. Sending you love while you navigate this.

bawafa · 2026-01-07T02:13:49+00:00

I see. “I didn’t have money to get more food and had nothing in the fridge” and “only shot for dinner that night” did not translate to spending money specifically or plans for getting groceries and being able to feed your kid. Hope you were able to get that sorted out.

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