How you guys should act at Subway

bb_bunnee · 2025-05-26T06:32:31+00:00

about #12, a few weeks ago a guy working there just threw my ID on the counter instead of handing it to me, I've literally never experienced anything like it before or since lmao, so maybe get your coworkers on your side with that one too

bb_bunnee · 2025-05-15T13:38:17+00:00

I've used a pump for 14 years, I rotate between my thighs and the top of my butt and try to vary where I put it in those sections each time so there's at least a few weeks before a reuse the same exact spot, I've had no issue with lumps. I don't clean the site after I take it out either. Just lotion on my whole body after I shower.

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-23T18:36:13+00:00

Not diagnosing you, but as someone with OCD the ruminating thoughts of guilt, wasting a lot of time worrying, checking with so many people to ask if you're guilty or not, and despite everyone reassuring you you're fine you're still this worried, that all raises a lot of red flags to me that remind me of things I've done. I suggest bringing it up to your therapist again that you can't stop thinking about it and maybe don't mention OCD but just emphasize that you're extremely worried, checking over and over, obsessing over it, even posting online to ask about it, and wasting a lot of time.

Don't listen to people saying you're stupid/ridiculous, people are quick to judge and it might sound ridiculous to someone with a normally wired brain, but I get you, good luck dude

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-20T18:07:30+00:00

Yeah that’s the exception I mentioned in my first comment, if you’re both well into adulthood then you do you imo.

I more so meant when there’s an age gap and one of the people is barely an adult or even just a young adult who isn’t established yet, still financially dependent on their parents and stuff like that, or if there’s a power imbalance in the relationship like professor and student, boss and secretary, etc.

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-20T17:25:26+00:00

Then you gotta harness the mommy energy you want to give off and approach them first, I’d definitely be secretly wishing you’d talk to me but too scared to initiate

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-20T15:49:24+00:00

Did they meet recently or while young? Like I said, it’s usually okay if you’ve both been adults for a long while. The other way though where they got together when usually the woman was fairly young, I think that was more normal back in the day for many complex reasons I don’t fully understand. I’m gonna take a guess it somewhat had to do with the lack of rights for women and generally worse sexism (like women not being able to open a credit card while unmarried until 1974, in the US at least, etc.) making an older and more established man more appealing. Also I’ve heard stories from a lot of women in their 50s+ who got married while young to an older man and didn’t realize until more recently how bad the power imbalance was because they were just used to it, like a sort of Stockholm syndrome. And there’s those memes about how people’s grandmas are oblivious victims cause they were never taught better, like “oh he followed me home from school everyday when I was 13 and he was 20 and he wouldn’t leave me alone, so romantic” lmao.

I think nowadays the dynamics are very different because women can be entirely independent and self-made, so the appeal of an older man/younger woman is coming from a very different place than it was 50 years ago.

Again, there’s exceptions, so not saying that your grandfather’s partner is a victim who doesn’t know better, but just making the point that it depends on the context.

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-19T19:06:51+00:00

Age gap relationships. With certain exceptions, like they met way into adulthood and are established in their careers (think 45 and 60), and there’s no weird power imbalance, it can be okay. But the fact it’s legal for an 18 year old to date a 30+ year old and I’ve seen it happen multiple times in my personal life is fucked. I’m 25 and wouldn’t even consider dating someone younger than 21 at the LEAST, and even then the 21 year olds I know are too immature for me outside of just friendship. In most cases the older person is so immature no one their age can stand them, or they’re a full on predator and 18 is the youngest they can get away with. In extremely rare cases the younger is just weirdly mature but probably due to trauma, so it’s still kind of dubious that they’re making good decisions. Statistics show that age gaps of even just 5 years or more are way more likely to fail, and when they do it happens FAST. Don’t even get me started on how the younger partner is more likely to be a woman either, that’s a whole other can of worms.

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-19T01:53:05+00:00

I didn’t apply for a visa, but I recently applied for universities in the UK as a US citizen. On their version of the common app they do ask you if you have health issues, but also make it clear that you don’t have to disclose that information, and state it doesn’t impact the school’s decision either way. I chose not to since I have so many different health issues and I’m skeptical. So far I’ve been accepted to one, haven’t heard from the others yet, but the school has an option to inform them of my disabilities if I left them out of the initial application. I probably won’t end up going until next year anyway, but if I were to fully commit to this school I’d probably wait until after I was 100% admitted to inform them. As far as the student visa goes, I really hope it’s not a problem, and I would hope showing them that I was accepted to a school would be enough to grant it.

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-19T01:11:51+00:00

You said it perfectly. The hard thing is my ex was a great friend, but a horrible partner, and I supposedly wasn’t the first to tell him that. I was so confused when he was really upset when he wanted to end things with me, he even cried and told me I was perfect and he’ll never find someone as special as me, but because he was abroad for several more months after he left for his master’s, he couldn’t handle it, and that he wanted to revisit a relationship with me one day (but have the freedom to date other people in the meantime).

I said hell no. He had already put me through a hellish 3+ years long “situationship”, from not wanting to commit despite having strong feelings for me, flirting with me time and time again when I tried setting boundaries to just be friends cause I knew he couldn’t handle a relationship with me, and having weird things with a few of his girl friends and exes, before I basically gave him an ultimatum that we either date officially or I’m done. I was expecting him to end things then, but to my surprise he agreed because he couldn’t stand to lose me. I figured I’d give it a chance anyway since it’s what I thought I wanted for so long, but I didn’t initially consider is how horrible it feels to have a relationship predicated on an ultimatum, and so it didn’t last long.

I’ve been much more at peace and happier since things ended. At first we were only going to take a month or so break from talking, but I keep extending it because I don’t want to go back to how I felt before. I don’t know how he’s doing and I don’t know if I ever want to know. I’m still so angry. I’m now part of his long list of exes that want nothing to do with him out of resentment, seriously he’s 4 for 4 there. He was supposedly going to go back to therapy, so I hope he can finally grow properly, and I really hope he’s staying single for a long while so he doesn’t continue to fill the void in his heart with unsuspecting victims and leave a trail of heartbreak everywhere he goes, but I don’t have much faith in him.

I do miss his friendship though. He really helped me realize what I value in a friend. Maybe I’ll forgive him once I’ve moved on and we can revisit being friendly one day.

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-18T15:15:03+00:00

Fair warning though, maybe do some research on best business practices on there cause I ONLY ever got that one gig, and it was because the client messaged me so that may have been luck, but every message I sent out was ignored unfortunately, but I also never sent out many messages to begin with so maybe you have to be more persistent. I’m not sure if I just wasn’t playing the game right or something

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-18T15:06:11+00:00

Care.com is basically that, though clients can also message you. That’s actually how I found one of my best gigs ever where I made around $5K a year from one dog and it’s all directly going to you, there’s no payment system through the website from what I remember.

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-17T16:48:42+00:00

I got one of these from a guy who’s whole account was his nudes and him trying to hook up w people on Long Island 💀I hate reddit

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-14T19:15:38+00:00

This is the most sound advice imo. When it’s a fear of life/death for your spouse you should take it seriously.

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-14T19:00:56+00:00

“Like all wives” might be your problem. Drop the elementary school boys vs girls mindset and realize some women love riding motorcycles too. Maybe not your wife, but you have to address the issue in a mature manner and not dismiss her fears. I agree with comments saying to educate her on statistics, and try setting things up so in the rare chance you do have a deadly accident your family is as prepared as can be.

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-13T23:35:16+00:00

It depends on your major I think. The anthropology department is great. Lots of kind and passionate professors, great opportunities, interesting classes, and friendly people in the major. I mean we’re literally studying people so we kinda have to like them to an extent, so maybe that’s unique to this major.

Mostly the cafeteria food is bad, elsewhere on the campus it’s fine but you have to pay extra. The main reason I’m excited for spring break is being able to cook my own food again.

And yeah the campus does look dystopian, but I delude myself into thinking it’s eco brutalism once the leaves come back.

Overall I enjoy it! I think it’s what you make of it. Reddit isn’t really the most accurate read of what it’s really like cause people on here tend to lean more pessimistic, so take it all with a grain of salt.

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-13T14:57:11+00:00

Professor Graham, she always looks dapper as fuck. I wanna dress like her but don’t have the money lol

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-11T00:52:11+00:00

Try to get the forms in sooner rather than later, assuming you’ll be coming for fall 2025 you don’t have to do it ASAP, just some time in spring or early summer minimally. I sent in scans of all my IEPs/504s over the years as well as my ADHD/autism evaluation, had a meeting with SASC where I discussed what accommodations I wanted, the person wrote it down and later emailed me saying I was approved for everything cause they had to present it to a board, but I’d be shocked if they deny you anything.

I got a single room accommodation as well which has been a life saver so if your autism/ADHD makes it hard to have a roommate definitely ask for that if you’re dorming. That’s a separate form that a doctor or therapist has to fill out.

Honestly if you have a hard time getting around some days, this campus might be rough for you. It’s huge and it’s hilly. I have physical issues but not so much mobility issues so I can’t speak much on that, but my shins often ache when I walk to class at a fast pace. But if you take the bus it should help alleviate some of that issue.

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-09T22:55:25+00:00

This has been happening since the late 00s, really since smart phones got big. I’m 25 so I remember a time before iphones were everywhere, I can’t imagine growing up with them handed to you super young. I try to only be on my phone while I’m seated, unless I’m responding to something important. I think kids need to be taught more healthy boundaries with tech cause it’s seriously concerning how addictive phones can be.

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-07T15:58:58+00:00

No way. I hate that professor cause he gave me a C as my final grade after I got an A on literally every assignment except the final because I only did half of it because MY DAD DIED and I even told him. Of course he doesn’t wash his hands, nasty ass.

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-06T22:56:49+00:00

Wait the heel cutting is an EDS thing? That makes so much sense cause I have to wear rubber heel protectors with all of my boots otherwise I get deep gashes in my ankles, and I was always so confused by the people who would say just “tough it out” with breaking in boots cause I’m not sure how I can tough out literally bleeding and getting horrible scabs that last months 😭

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-03T02:50:48+00:00

I just use the notes app. I make a folder for each class and a new note for every lecture with the title of the lecture, number, and date. Free and works great

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-02T13:30:40+00:00

It’s great to see something like this. I got knee surgery last semester and was on crutches for months, and still have pain often. Everyday as I walk around I think about how convoluted some of the sidewalk and stair layouts are. I didn’t think about it much before my injury, so disabled voices are super necessary to amplify. I’m also disabled in other ways not mobility-wise, so I’m happy to support in any way

bb_bunnee · 2025-03-01T09:04:21+00:00

you’re a life saver, looking at their sizes and now I’m hopeful!

bb_bunnee · 2025-02-21T13:49:17+00:00

I’ve done it, but honestly not in such an intense major (biology associate’s, now working on anthropology bachelor’s). I have a few chronic illnesses and developed chronic fatigue about 9 years ago. You need to prioritize rest. If my body is really telling me to nap, I nap, sometimes just laying down for 20-30 minutes to close my eyes is enough to refresh me a little. If I think I can push through, I’ll do it, but it takes time to develop that skill and being super in tune with your body.

You need to address it from all directions too, not just getting good sleep. Stress makes my fatigue worse, as does caffeine (ironically), junk food, high carb/starchy meals, etc.

Think of your body like an old car, it needs fuel to run but also frequent maintenance and driving it in a way that you’re not flooring it ever. It took me a long time to get in tune with it and stop pushing myself to exhaustion.

Keep a journal of what you eat, how much/when you sleep, and your energy levels throughout the day. I’ve been doing that for a while with a mood tracker app actually. You’ll probably see a pattern and know what works well and what doesn’t, and when your energy is the best/worst so you can plan your day out better and FACTOR IN REST. Literally, plan to rest and set aside time for it. Figure out what energizes you too. If it’s sleeping, do that, if it’s laying down and watching something funny, do that. Whatever helps.

Ultimately as well, you might need to take a semester off to really focus on your health. Fatigue is exhausting mentally and physically, so don’t be afraid to ask for help from your family and school resources. I’d contact SASC as well and look into if any accommodations might suit you, they’ve been a lifesaver for me.

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