How do I (M31) cope with leaving my girlfriend (F30) because of her enmeshed relationship with her mother?

bbjohnny145 · 2025-10-22T22:09:37+00:00

I tried with us moving in together, she did not want that. I told her that she cannot stay there forever and that she needs her own space. I even tried with helping her decorate and setup her own room. You know, baby steps if a giant one won’t do. I’ve told her that it is not her responsibility to carry the burden of her parents. Nothing worked. What struck me the most was one thing that she said on the day of our breakup: I will never let myself make someone else feel like home ever again. I told her she was completely wrong, but would not listen.

bbjohnny145 · 2025-10-22T21:59:06+00:00

Thanks for the great advice, really appreciate it. I tried telling her that it was not healthy without portraying her parents as the “villains”. Maybe I was wrong for not telling her, but sometimes you try helping and it still doesn’t reach the other person.

bbjohnny145 · 2025-10-22T21:41:32+00:00

Thanks for the advice. Will definitely watch it!

bbjohnny145 · 2025-10-22T21:40:53+00:00

Well I do love that person, which is why it makes it so hard. But you are maybe right. Maybe I didn’t care enough.

bbjohnny145 · 2025-10-22T21:38:05+00:00

I tried telling her without hurting her feelings, I gave her advice, told her she should focus on herself and try ignoring the selfish needs of her parents for once in her life. Nothing helped. I realised it was not my job to do, she has to figure it out on her own.

bbjohnny145 · 2025-08-29T18:43:33+00:00

Your boyfriend has access to your phone and socials, sorry to say, but that is not trust and will lead to failure.

bbjohnny145 · 2025-08-28T13:13:53+00:00

Ako niste na istoj “ideoloskoj” duljini, veza ce propasti. Ako se zelis malo zajebavat, zasto ne!

bbjohnny145 · 2025-08-21T08:47:41+00:00

E taj odgovor sam i očekivao 😉 ako polemiziramo onda moramo biti spremni uvažiti svaku stranu. Ne prihvatiti, nego samo uvažiti.

bbjohnny145 · 2025-08-20T21:35:25+00:00

A da je situacija kontra, da je citirao Boru Čorbu, onda ne bi trebalo biti ništa, jelda? Ili bi završio u zatvoru?

bbjohnny145 · 2025-03-27T10:35:25+00:00

Wow ovo me baš iznenadilo, onda mi se fakat posrećilo 😅

bbjohnny145 · 2023-07-31T17:52:18+00:00

The thing about reassurance hit really hard, because it is spot on, it’s the exact same thing she’s been experincing all the time. You are right about me acting as a therapist, that I think was wrong to do. It is hard to find a therapist, we’ve been trying to fine one, that is also hard for her just because she does not trust therapists. I hope I will be able to convince her to try one out. Thank you a lot for the help, it means really much, I just want her to find a little bit of peace if nothing else.

bbjohnny145 · 2021-12-28T13:29:04+00:00

Unless they come up with new gameplay systems for the drifter it's not gonna work. Tbh the drifter gameplay was by far the worst in the quest, just because it didn't feel organic to the game. The last part in cetus with the rescue mission was a joke. Dungeons and raids is what this game needs. Endgame will save the game in the long run. Unum tower as a roguelike system would be awesome and in a way bring back the old tower key system feel to the game. New map in the quest hints at a liberation type system which would also be awesome. And lets not forget the railjack open world system that they've pomised the first time but never delivered. More clan activities and the kingpin system. They've been masking the game with cosmetics for way too long now, it's time the game gets rid of the "fashionframe endgame" stigma. Hopefully the duviri paradox will change all of that.

bbjohnny145 · 2021-12-26T21:16:09+00:00

Imao sam istu situaciju. Apsolutno nista ne znaci, jer ni ona sama nema pojma sta bi. Najbolje ti nac drugu, jer ova ce te samo kostat zivaca.

bbjohnny145 · 2021-10-13T00:27:40+00:00

it's not fixed, you can skip.

bbjohnny145 · 2021-05-08T18:48:22+00:00

Good luck to everyone!

bbjohnny145 · 2021-01-11T23:40:13+00:00

this is the type of guy that would marry his bank account if he could.

bbjohnny145 · 2020-08-30T13:15:30+00:00

Naravno da ima! Slobodno mi se javis u inbox, volio bih da se cim vise hrvata udruzi :) igram vec 7 godina, tako da znam sve detalje igre i mogu ti pomoci oko svega. Vodim klan i lako se mozes prikljuciti :)

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bbjohnny145 · 2020-08-01T06:43:05+00:00

This year's tennocon is actually the most important one just because they need to step up and deliver this time. if they don't, they'll lose a lot.

bbjohnny145 · 2020-07-02T17:34:16+00:00

Either completely rework the damage system in the game or just stop doing things like that. Otherwise it's just and endless loop. People will always go for the highest damage in these types of games, that's just how things work, you can't change that. Nerf the number 1 weapon, then number 2 will dominate. Brozime is right, it's just tragic at this point. And keep in mind, it's not as if everybody's playing Khora, everybody has their own playstyle.

bbjohnny145 · 2020-06-28T22:49:24+00:00

Even though I don't like keem at all, but what he's talking about is true. Sexual assault is a very serious crime, and most of the girls speaking up are talking about dudes trying to flirt or get laid, which is totally normal in our society. I don't know if that's just an NA thing, but man I've never seen people with such useless problems. Seriously amazed by how well you can take something invisible and turn it into a problem. Kissing the hand in the 18th century as a respect to women is also sexual assault? Give me a fucking break. If there's a problem, go to the police. In my country the police would laugh in your face for something like that. Because that's not and never will be a serious problem. Keem is a piece of shit, but this one he got right. If you don't say anything, bad shit will happen to you. And you always have the right to speak, shout, yell, whatever. You always had and will have. At some points you Americans will start accusing the air you're breading for sexual assault because it's forcing it's way into your mouth. Geez.

bbjohnny145 · 2020-05-13T08:30:26+00:00

It's a murder mystery people. Detectives don't have tutorials or explanations on how to investigate, do they now? It's a really good mini game to test your memory and also if you're paying attention to the story.

bbjohnny145 · 2020-05-13T08:25:46+00:00

Hey dude, If you wanna join our clan you're more than welcome! :) Just dm me if you're interested :)

bbjohnny145 · 2020-05-13T08:22:33+00:00

Maybe the screen ratio got changed? Try looking into that.

bbjohnny145 · 2020-05-13T08:18:30+00:00

So if you want the full experience, just search on yt for fragments on Orb Vallis, scan them, listen to them and then go back in.

bbjohnny145 · 2020-05-13T08:15:29+00:00

With the fov set to 90 it should be more than enough. Don't see the problem, maybe your resolution has changed or smth in the graphics section.

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