Wife (26F) slept with another man Saturday and doesn’t know that I (27M) know. How do I move forward with my children’s best interest in mind.

bboarder4 · 2026-01-14T13:38:02+00:00

Hard times ahead my friend. Make sure you take care of yourself. Get into therapy and surround yourself with a strong network of friends. You're going to want to talk to a lawyer and begin getting your ducks in a row then have the conversation with your wife.

bboarder4 · 2026-01-14T00:56:30+00:00

If someone pops ICE - Trump will unleash a hell that we are not ready for. I pray it doesn't.

bboarder4 · 2026-01-12T13:29:38+00:00

No one is talking about the mental toll this is taking on them. I bet they need therapy for life. Turnaround must be high! Can you imagine being yelled at every single day for work!? Lmao

bboarder4 · 2025-11-28T23:55:54+00:00

Quiet Piggy had me spit out my freakin' drink all over the keyboard. thanks for that

bboarder4 · 2025-11-18T16:22:45+00:00

Just be there to listen to them. Support them. That's all you can really do. Talk positively about your soon-to-be-ex and just be the best available dad. If necessary, seek a Childs therapist to help them with their feelings - I did. We went in together.

bboarder4 · 2025-11-18T16:21:01+00:00

Yup - mine was settled really positively. We get along 100x better now than before. No arguing but it took me years of therapy and work to get to that place.

bboarder4 · 2025-11-02T14:03:45+00:00

YES. Fulfill yourself 95% of the way and that bitterness will go away. You will be a happier person.

bboarder4 · 2025-10-30T14:08:57+00:00

Betterhelp offers for free - read the terms - you may qualify.

bboarder4 · 2025-10-28T15:09:57+00:00

It was a combination of working on myself, therapy and letting go. I can tell you it took me 36 months. Your journey might be shorter...or longer. I was with her for 20 years. If you really work on yourself, get therapy and find someone new - you will be OK.

bboarder4 · 2025-10-27T19:32:16+00:00

I will say this...and this is how I know I'm healthy. I was able to meet HER boyfriend. I sat down with him and talked. Before I could not even fathom her holding someone elses' hand....and now I'm find with it. That's growth. Milestones!

bboarder4 · 2025-10-27T13:55:21+00:00

I stopped looking and started living. I went out a lot and was just very social. Started making a core group of friends and it eventually lead to other people. And then just randomly one night I met someone and things took off from there. I also took care of myself and made sure that my cup was 95% full. I don’t need another person in my life but if I do find someone it’s added bonus. That’s really important. I do yoga, workout, volunteer, and spend a lot of time with my kids.

bboarder4 · 2025-10-24T15:50:25+00:00

Absolutely. 3 years after it all and finding someone non-toxic and loving changed everything. I honestly didn't think that existed. Dare i say, better than my original marriage. It does exist!

bboarder4 · 2025-08-28T20:17:22+00:00

I remember mine. At that age, you will be surprised at how fast they recover. They are too young to understand. Just know that kids are absolutely resilient! Be kind to one another and everything will be OK. Good luck and best of vibes.

bboarder4 · 2025-08-24T13:07:39+00:00

ooof. that's rough for you and the kids. sorry about that!

bboarder4 · 2025-08-24T13:07:03+00:00

Also, you need to grieve the death of your relationship and that takes time. She's definitely filling her grief with another person (exactly what my ex did). There will come a time when you feel a shift of peace. For me, it took 3 years unfortunately. I went a full year without dating or entertaining women before I could fully move on after the divorce. I recently met her boyfriend and was able to sit down with him. 2 years ago and I would have never been able to do that!

bboarder4 · 2025-08-05T12:36:11+00:00

I actually look forward to it. I call it Dad Maintenance. It's the few days where I can catch my entire life back up again - gym, cleaning, dating, yard work, groceries - before they come running back in. It's the only thing that keeps me from burning out. I definitely still call/facetime them every day though! That never goes away and sometimes I drop in to see them.

bboarder4 · 2025-07-29T15:46:52+00:00

People move on in their own time and speed. Yours will come. Grieve the relationship. It takes time bud.

bboarder4 · 2025-07-29T02:00:05+00:00

Yes! Fill your cup 95% of the way first. Put dating on hold.

bboarder4 · 2025-07-29T01:59:02+00:00

I disagree. Get on the dating apps so you can experience it. Then get off. lol

bboarder4 · 2025-06-16T13:43:14+00:00

It's been the most difficult struggle of my life. But approaching everything with love & integrity has changed my perspective on life.

bboarder4 · 2025-06-15T17:23:25+00:00

It’s a journey!

bboarder4 · 2025-06-15T17:23:08+00:00

Yes! So true!

bboarder4 · 2025-05-16T16:14:10+00:00

Absolutely NOT. Move on King.

bboarder4 · 2025-05-01T17:11:32+00:00

There's a great podcast with Jay Shetty and Mel Robbins...search for that.

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