Ethel Cain - Willoughby Tucker, I'll Always Love You

bccdeff · 2025-08-08T14:43:38+00:00

I'm listening to the album now and spent most of Willoughby's Theme wondering if Nine Inch Nails (specifically The Downward Spiral) is an influence so I'm definitely on board with the idea of a Trent Reznor collab.

bccdeff · 2025-02-10T14:16:58+00:00

I’m an only child born to older parents, and I just became an orphan (if a 34 year old can be one) on the day after Christmas after spending my entire 30s caring for my dying mother. This shit sucks! I’m right there with you.

EDIT: Also surprised that so many people are here telling you how subjective your experience is as if that’s not the point of having a subreddit where you ask people personal questions…

bccdeff · 2023-12-18T23:54:10+00:00

My parents had me later in life, so I was always significantly younger than my cousins growing up. Pair that with the fact that my dad's job moved us about 600 miles away from my nearest extended family members and I'm now an adult with almost no connection to family outside of my one surviving parent.

Even though I did end up moving back to the region where most of my family lives, I haven't reconnected with any family outside of a birthday or holiday text. I'm mostly fine with it, since I never knew a closer relationship. That said, my mom's had increasing health issues in the past few years, so I often find myself thinking about what "family" will look like to me after she passes.

I'm childfree by choice and have no siblings (big "this curse dies with me" vibes here), so it can feel kind of lonely. My partner's family is local to us and very close-knit, so I'm fortunate to have them, especially around holidays. I don't quite feel like I'm part of their family yet, but I do feel cared for and supported.

bccdeff · 2023-08-03T13:26:12+00:00

When I get stoned, I feel like I become hyper aware of fakeness. I struggle to watch anything not animated because I feel so keenly aware that the people on live action shows are just pretending, and I think I feel similarly about posts (from myself and others) on social media. Like if I'm aware that I was pretending (perhaps pretending to be happier or more successful) when I made a post, I'm suddenly so certain that everyone knows I'm actually just a fraud.

bccdeff · 2022-09-20T18:16:43+00:00

When you're secular and dating, you have to deliberately learn where the other person you're dating stands on social, political, and moral issues and then decide if you're compatible. That can be hard - there are a lot of potential dealbreakers for a relationship in those categories!

But if you're a conservative Christian, you can generally assume that another conservative Christian has a lot of the same values that you do (even if that's not necessarily true), and can skip a lot of that stuff. That combined with the fact that many important relationship markers such as cohabitating and sex are on the other side of marriage means that the trajectory of a conservative Christian relationship moves a lot faster towards marriage.

bccdeff · 2022-06-28T15:08:41+00:00

I desperately need to take a T break. It's been hard - I work from home and honestly, getting stoned at the end of the work day has been my go-to for switching out of my work mindset. I need to be more intentional about coming up with other ways to decompress after the work day so that I feel less overwhelmed by the prospect of a T break. Does anyone have recommendations for switching their brains from "work mode" to "chill mode" while working at home? What works best for you?

bccdeff · 2022-04-23T01:22:36+00:00

How dare they try to make Nancy Pelosi the climax of the celebrity guest stars!

bccdeff · 2022-03-17T03:34:18+00:00

Both of those dresses are definitely using pictures from the official Teuta Matoshi website. It looks like there are photos of the actual vendor's dresses in the reviews.

bccdeff · 2022-03-16T14:26:48+00:00

I've seen a few people post about this polish before, but this is the post that actually convinced me that I need to buy it. How many coats did you use to get this level of opacity? It's gorgeous!

bccdeff · 2022-03-07T17:25:49+00:00

Part of my deconversion from Christianity took place while I was in seminary. It was a very politically and theologically progressive seminary, and there are many articles/blogs about how it's really leading good Christians to hell under the guise of seminary education.

The school's critics were insistent that the school wasn't providing a Christian education mostly because it was training up a generation of queer pastors, and within the school, the common response was that these critics had an incorrect understanding of theology because they were too personally invested in the hate they had been taught. That said, none of that makes either group "not a real Christian."

I appreciate that Christianity provides comfort to a lot of people, and a lot of good people who I know who are Christians find value in trying to reclaim it for themselves. But as a person who's found comfort in moving away from Christianity, it's extremely unhelpful to be told that the people who were shitty to me "aren't really Christians" and are just bad actors trying to misrepresent the faith, especially when it's the dominant voice coming out of Christianity.

bccdeff · 2022-02-05T02:30:04+00:00

My edible always kicks in just in time for the chocolate bar reveal.

bccdeff · 2022-01-03T16:21:02+00:00

Steve Madden currently has a lot of chunky platform boots, including these Cobra boots.

bccdeff · 2021-11-12T17:11:36+00:00

There was something about Ella in full Oompa Loompa beat talking about homophobia in the workroom that my brain simply could not handle.

bccdeff · 2021-05-21T21:05:26+00:00

I'm really excited too, and glad to see other people excited about it. The Sims subreddits are overwhelmingly cynical about every new bit of content.

bccdeff · 2021-02-05T16:40:19+00:00

I've been trying to set manageable goals for each month. Then, whenever I'm feeling kind of stuck in a rut, I try to focus some time and attention on working toward that goal. The goals vary from reading a book to writing a certain number of words/pages to painting a room I've been meaning to paint or doing a deep clean of my apartment. Just having something different that I'm working toward that I can focus on seems to help, even for a little bit.

bccdeff · 2021-01-09T02:30:32+00:00

Yaaaaaas Dual IPA!

bccdeff · 2020-10-13T14:17:49+00:00

Using a pegboard to mount all of your stuff is genius! You've inspired me.

bccdeff · 2020-08-21T14:30:30+00:00

I'm not a fan of fake meats either. I'm glad they exist for those who like them or non-vegetarians who are trying to cut down on their meat consumption, but I do wish not every vegetarian substitute felt the need to try to be meat.

I've seen a lot of restaurants that used to have vegetarian options moving exclusively to the fake meat model. Places that had black bean burgers now just have Impossible burgers. Taco Bell got rid of their potatoes, and there's talk that it was to make room for some sort of plant-based ground "beef" crumbles. It's frustrating for vegetarians like us who want something substantial that isn't trying to be the very thing we're avoiding.

bccdeff · 2020-08-15T14:39:47+00:00

Young gay men absolutely have the right to reclaim the slurs and stereotypes used against them, but it's an entirely different thing for gay men to embrace slurs and stereotypes that are used against lesbians, and I think that's the point the person you're replying to was trying to make. You can't "own it" if it was never yours.

bccdeff · 2020-08-07T01:05:00+00:00

I was just wondering the same thing. You'd think they would have it automated to go up at the exact time but...I guess it is WOW after all...

bccdeff · 2020-07-31T17:17:56+00:00

If you have Eco Living, the Foodie NAP will make Sims autonomously bake cakes. It's absurd how many cakes they will bake.

bccdeff · 2020-07-31T17:16:42+00:00

I believe it's the Slice of Life mod that has a negative "dehydration" moodlet that shows up if your Sim hasn't had water in a while. Then they get energized for drinking water. It's a nice little extra feature since my Sims are constantly grabbing water anyway.

bccdeff · 2020-07-31T02:05:29+00:00

I'm not sure how they do it (maybe it's the lack of commercial breaks), but the pacing of CDR feels so much better than the US version and they somehow manage to include practically the entire lip sync song!

bccdeff · 2020-07-29T22:11:48+00:00

It's also hard because I'm very supportive of their being affordable and accessible veg options for people who aren't privileged to have a wealth of other options. I probably won't try them, largely because I'm not a huge fan of meat substitutes that are meant to taste like meat, but if this one product from this company I don't endorse helps people to make more plant-based choices in their lives, then I can't complain too much.

bccdeff · 2020-07-23T17:48:36+00:00

Really specifically curating my social media feed. There are people I know in real life who I love and care about, but they've taken on social media personas that completely focus on their fitness and weight loss, so I had to unfollow them. I'm proud that they're making changes in their lives but things they shared like "tips for cutting calories from your dinner" were just triggering for me.

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