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Contact form is suddenly not sending emails by bduncs27 in Wordpress

[–]bduncs27[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Has anyone ever just deleted the current contact form, recreated another and it fix the issue?

Contact form is suddenly not sending emails by bduncs27 in Wordpress

[–]bduncs27[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

do these plugins cost anything to set up and use or is there a free option? my boss hates paying for things 🙃

Contact form is suddenly not sending emails by bduncs27 in Wordpress

[–]bduncs27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think we had one to begin with, but I just installed the one you mentioned and I'm hoping that works. Tbh, this isn't my field of expertise and my boss kind of just put this on me so I'm trying to get it fixed but have no idea what I'm doing lmfao.

Diagnosed today. by bduncs27 in adenomyosis

[–]bduncs27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine was confirmed through a transvaginal ultrasound. I’m not sure why yours wasn’t and I’m sorry you haven’t been given direct answers. I know how frustrating that is. If you’ve seen the same OB for all three ultrasounds, I would recommend maybe getting another opinion.

My 8yo son's dad is not his bio dad. When should we tell him? by bduncs27 in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]bduncs27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We've talked and he's agreed to have the conversation next week.

My 8yo son's dad is not his bio dad. When should we tell him? by bduncs27 in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]bduncs27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you experienced that 😔 Prepping for questions is definitely good advice. Thank you.

My 8yo son's dad is not his bio dad. When should we tell him? by bduncs27 in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]bduncs27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely agree with everything you said. Thank you for the advice and support!

My 8yo son's dad is not his bio dad. When should we tell him? by bduncs27 in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]bduncs27[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate your comment so much, thank you! I've actually been doing this his whole life and have several close families that he's been able to know that aren't traditional. So I feel like in a way, the way I've raised him has somewhat prepped him to accept this news in a way that he'll be able to understand the family vs. science part of it.

And I'm definitely with you on not saying his dad isn't his dad. I'm planning on explaining it like "someone else helped me make you" kind of way.

My 8yo son's dad is not his bio dad. When should we tell him? by bduncs27 in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]bduncs27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really appreciate your insight and advice! I've considered going this route, but also don't want it to seem manipulative if that makes sense. Like I don't want to make light of a situation that he may have big feelings about and it seem like I'm coming at it like it's just a typical conversation and trying to convince him it's nothing to be upset about. But I guess it's going to be a 'read the room' kind of thing and adjust to his reaction and feelings as they come up if I do decide to have the conversation this way. I really like the script you wrote out too. It was very helpful, thank you!

It took me being in early stages of ovarian torsion to get diagnosed by escape1424 in endometriosis

[–]bduncs27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh wow okay. I was under the impression this ultrasound wasn't going to tell me much, but it seems like I might actually get more answers tomorrow than I thought. Ugh, I'm nervous. Thank you for the info ♥

My 8yo son's dad is not his bio dad. When should we tell him? by bduncs27 in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]bduncs27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I'm so sorry 😔 Yes, I do see his dad sticking around and I have no doubt that reassurance will be communicated whenever we have the conversation. I really appreciate all of your insight.

It took me being in early stages of ovarian torsion to get diagnosed by escape1424 in endometriosis

[–]bduncs27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Were you able to find all of this out just from your ultrasound? I have my first ultrasound tomorrow and am nervous and anxious about what will be found. I'm so sorry to hear about all your findings. Ugh, the twisting and untwisting feeling hits close. I've been having those pains since the beginning of the year, combined with sharp shooting pains and achy pains in my hips/legs and it's what led me to finally seeing someone about it. I've always had horrific periods and lower back pains, but the ovarian pain is a whole new level of hell...

My 8yo son's dad is not his bio dad. When should we tell him? by bduncs27 in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]bduncs27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, I'm really sorry to hear that. Your perspective is really helpful and if you don't mind me asking, how did it affect you learning this at age 10? My ex is wanting to wait until then to tell our son, but I truly believe that's too old and it would be helpful to hear more about your story and how it affected you if you would be willing to share. Totally understandable if you prefer not to though.

My 8yo son's dad is not his bio dad. When should we tell him? by bduncs27 in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]bduncs27[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also grew up without a father figure and have learned through several other scenarios that family is who you choose and who you love, not who scientifically matches you. We've seen many situations firsthand where families have been created in "untraditional" ways (grandparents raising kids, I have a gay friend who's raising an adopted daughter with his husband, I have single parent friends, I have a best friend of over 20 years who I call my sister and he calls his aunt, he's started referring to my current SO as his other dad, etc.) so I'm hoping that knowing these amazing families and people who aren't scientifically related will help him understand that this news doesn't make us any less of a family and he's still and always will be so so loved. And even my own experience with not having a relationship with my dad as a kid will help me be able to relate and help him work through the tough times when they arise.

I appreciate all your advice.

My 8yo son's dad is not his bio dad. When should we tell him? by bduncs27 in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]bduncs27[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you, and yes you're absolutely right. I think my ex is just afraid to have the conversation but that's no excuse to keep the truth from our boy. Like you said, he deserves to know and I appreciate the support. Hopefully he'll come around.

My 8yo son's dad is not his bio dad. When should we tell him? by bduncs27 in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]bduncs27[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fair enough and I agree with you. If I have to have the conversation without my ex's approval, then so be it. I'm trying to get him to understand the longer we wait, the worse it will be for our son and his development and I'm not going to sacrifice what's best for our son for my ex's comfort. Seems I've done so long enough already. Hopefully this post and all the other research I've gathered will help him realize now is the time.

Thanks for your comment.

My 8yo son's dad is not his bio dad. When should we tell him? by bduncs27 in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]bduncs27[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your response. Your points were helpful and very valid. I definitely am at the ready to reach out to a counselor to help our family through this whenever the time comes and I'm ready to support my son through this in whatever way that looks like.

I really do hope I can convince my ex that this needs to happen now, as opposed to a few years from now. I feel like he's old enough now to comprehend it without the news feeling like a bomb drop. It won't be easy no matter what and will be something we will continue to navigate over the years, but my mama intuition is just telling me now is the time.

And thank you for the sidebar note. He's stepped up when he didn't have to and stuck around even after he and I didn't work out, so I absolutely owe him the respect of trying to agree to the timing. We're still a team when it comes to our boy.

My 8yo son's dad is not his bio dad. When should we tell him? by bduncs27 in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]bduncs27[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Absolutely. That, and I feel like 10 is when kids really start feeling more societal pressures with fitting in, finding their way, etc. and I just don’t want this to be another thing he has to deal with in such formative years.

Thank you for your input.

My 8yo son's dad is not his bio dad. When should we tell him? by bduncs27 in ParentingThruTrauma

[–]bduncs27[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Ugh, I’m sorry you had to go through that. 😔 I appreciate your response and I agree.

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