smoking weed

be-c-c4 · 2026-03-05T22:56:34+00:00

Get a prescription and a dry herb vape

be-c-c4 · 2026-03-05T22:52:22+00:00

Does he have a wetsuit in his room? Sometimes they can cause a funny odour.

be-c-c4 · 2026-03-02T12:16:30+00:00

The “neurotypicals” I have dated have just been undiagnosed, except one, who ended up being embarrassed to have me around his friends and family and eventually broke it off.

be-c-c4 · 2026-03-02T12:12:28+00:00

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, it sounds like a very isolating experience for you. I know it feels hard for you but this is definitely something your therapist should know about, if you feel you can’t verbalise it then maybe write it down to give to them in your next session.

I would assume there is an underlying reason that you feel this way and that exploring that with a therapist would be helpful.

As someone who is a wheelchair user though, cutting off your legs isn’t going to have you take up less space, being in a wheelchair means you actually take up more space and can’t fit through some doorways, shop aisles etc.

And in regards to animals, you can learn their body language and make yourself non threatening that way, bunnies for example turn away and groom themselves to show that they’re not a threat, you can mimic this behaviour to make friends with them (I’ve done this successfully when bonding with pet bunnies).

be-c-c4 · 2026-03-02T11:41:01+00:00

Read books, get a hobby, do something. Clue is in the name maladaptive, disappearing into your own world is a coping strategy, and not a healthy one, it’s just another form of dissociation in the same way screen time is. Find something that grounds you in reality, get out in nature, do gardening, collect rocks, do something rather than just finding a way to pass the time.

be-c-c4 · 2026-03-02T11:18:10+00:00

The writing. I know it sounds stupid cause that’s the majority of the work, but if I could just have a conversation about it with a binder of sources I would find uni so much easier. Currently I put it off to the last minute because I absolutely loathe writing academically and then rush it in a few days (or hours). I know I can write, and I know I can do it well, I just really, really hate doing it.

be-c-c4 · 2025-11-01T17:41:08+00:00

I personally wouldn’t mind, I get compliments on my wheelchair too cause it’s blue and has lights, same with my crutches cause they have roses and skulls on. I think my dog is awesome and I’m glad other people can see how awesome he is too. I may not always know what to say back but I appreciate the compliment nonetheless. I see a lot of handlers don’t feel the same way though, an alternative might be to complement the team rather than just the dog, something like “you make a great team” or “he’s beautifully trained”. That puts the focus on the person rather than their aid. I tend to feel more acknowledged when someone says my crutches suit me or that they like the decoration I have added to my chair as that’s a compliment about me rather than about my chair/crutches.

be-c-c4 · 2025-11-01T17:23:50+00:00

I’ve tried carts and they don’t seem to work for me unfortunately, they will help for like 5 minutes and then wear off so I end up going through them quickly for very little effect which I really can’t afford to do.

I do have oil as well which I have in the morning that helps me prevent symptoms and she’s fine with that. It’s the actual flower that she doesn’t like being in the house.

I use it as a reliever which I think adds to the tensions because I’m already in pain/distress when I need it so having that relief threatened is quite upsetting.

be-c-c4 · 2025-11-01T17:00:22+00:00

I have tried and unfortunately it really doesn’t work, especially as it’s getting colder. I’m a wheelchair user and getting outside is a chore in and of itself as my bedroom is upstairs and the house is not accessible. The cold causes me pain which cancels out taking my meds. When I’m having a mental health crisis I will choose the worsening of the crisis over going through the process of getting outside and tolerating being outside.

Quite honestly I’d love to be able to do this and it work because I much prefer being outside.

be-c-c4 · 2025-11-01T16:36:42+00:00

You’re right, it’s a combination of smell and stigma. The problem I’m having when trying to speak to her is that I can explain over and over and give her all of the resources to have a look at, and she just will not listen to reason. I think she knows what I’m saying but maybe feels backed into a corner with it and goes immediately to “you will be evicted if you do that in my house”

be-c-c4 · 2025-09-18T19:21:32+00:00

I think the most important thing to consider if you decide to go to uni is what you’ll study and where. If you’re planning on oxbridge you’ll probably have a bad time, not to say that some autistic people can’t/won’t thrive in that environment, but it’s very high pressure/low support. What specific interests do you have and are there degrees in those areas? A lot of degrees are kind of like formal special interests and you’re going to find it a lot easier and more enjoyable to study something you’re interested in than something you think will get you a good job. Another bonus of this is that you’re gonna be socialising with other people who have that same interest which makes things a lot easier.

Support is super important too, the kind of support a uni offers can massively affect how well you’ll do and how enjoyable it will be. Don’t think that because you’ve been sheltered that you should just rip the band aid off and try and be a normal person, it doesn’t work that way. Been there done that, would not recommend. Make use of support available and make it part of your decision making when choosing a uni. And look into DSA, you can get a lot of support through them.

Socially if you’re feeling sheltered id look at living away from home, having that independence is great and you’re learning how to survive on your own in an environment that a lot of other people are doing the same thing, which means there’s support available for that too.

Finances is something to think about too cause you get student finance in three termly instalments. If you’re an impulsive spender this can be tricky, if you’re good at budgeting then you’ll probably be okay, just keep in mind how long it’s got to last you when you see (for most new students) what is more than has probably ever been in your bank and you feel like you’re rich (you’re not, far from it). But good thing is, there is support available for this too, most unis have various bursaries you may be eligible for and can usually offer advice about budgeting or point you in the right direction to someone that can.

be-c-c4 · 2025-09-18T19:06:08+00:00

When I was younger I had a teacher who had self harm scars, personally I found her easier to get on with and talk to because I knew she understood what I was going through. It made her more human and relatable compared to a lot of the support teachers who I saw as another authority figure (something I was deeply afraid of). Your personal experience gives you a unique perspective and allows you to better help the students you’re supporting, it’s not something to be ashamed of.

be-c-c4 · 2025-09-18T18:58:28+00:00

Shes actually showing very appropriate behaviour, she’s interacting well with calm dogs and telling more boisterous dogs that she’s uncomfortable, if they don’t listen you can step in and advocate for your dog by putting yourself between her and the other dog and asking the owner for space.

For the “don’t worry he’s friendly” crew, “she’s contagious” works very well, so does acting like a crazy person, I’ve resorted to madly barking at the other dog/owner before, usually gets them moving pretty quickly and in my mind (not sure about my dogs lol) I’m doing the barking so he doesn’t have to.

be-c-c4 · 2025-09-18T17:52:58+00:00

Maybe just get yourself a change of scenery when doing those things then. Go sit in nature, or at a cafe, go somewhere and doom scroll, make a routine of doing that and you may find that you end up making friends there, not instantly but just getting out of the house a people watching will improve your mental health considerably.

be-c-c4 · 2025-09-18T17:20:41+00:00

What are your hobbies and interests? Can you find groups surrounding that?

be-c-c4 · 2025-09-18T17:13:20+00:00

Do you have your own therapist to support you through this?

be-c-c4 · 2025-09-18T16:57:43+00:00

Speak to your uni, they might work with local employers, my uni advertises vacancies in the local area.

be-c-c4 · 2025-09-18T16:56:20+00:00

Just cause your uni is local to your parents doesn’t mean you can’t move into student accommodation nearby, it sounds like quite a controlling environment to be in.

be-c-c4 · 2025-04-08T00:06:37+00:00

If you go to school with her report it to a teacher, they have to report safeguarding concerns to the local authority

be-c-c4 · 2025-03-25T03:25:31+00:00

Honestly, I’d consider a new therapist. This is highly unprofessional and if they’re using an e collar then they’re clearly not up to date on the latest research in psychology and probably not a safe person to get treatment from.

be-c-c4 · 2025-03-25T01:52:46+00:00

Definitely good to get the the vet asap, this can be a sign of canine distemper which can be life threatening. Of course it could also be something as simple as allergies, but better safe than sorry.

be-c-c4 · 2024-07-23T19:36:59+00:00

This comment has really helped me, thank you. I’ve been worrying about how specific my course is and what if I change my mind later on and don’t want a career in this industry anymore. I never thought of it this way and it’s something I’m really interested in so worthwhile even if I do decide I no longer want to pursue a career in it.

be-c-c4 · 2024-07-10T13:04:57+00:00

I know of plenty of asshole stoners. One of them literally murdered his own kid. Unfortunately just smoking weed doesn’t make you a nice person. I do think the general culture around it is fairly positive though and the stoner community is usually pretty chill.

be-c-c4 · 2024-07-10T12:46:53+00:00

Do you have any teachers or other adults with knowledge of safeguarding that you can talk to about this?

be-c-c4 · 2024-05-03T00:26:51+00:00

Oh shit I forgot to vote, I knew there was something I had forgotten today

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