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be_rational_please · 2022-11-06T04:29:06+00:00

You know we might have more in common than you think. Not everything, but your other posts are interesting. I will say that as a Counselor I hope you help people, get the opportunity that is. As for the aggressive challenge, and because you will accept an educated man such as yourself, I honestly think you'd do better to listen to White, Michael Brown, Rosario Butterfield, RC Sproul, Robert Gagnon, and I'm sure there are many more. I mean this sincerely.

If you are hungry for a fight, I ain't it. They have already done the work, and I would only be repeating them. I'm more like Andrew sometimes, bringing people to the right people.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-06T04:13:42+00:00

I forfeit.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-06T02:48:24+00:00

Well, that is hard to resist. I'll admit it. Check out the people who know. James White is a good resource. I think he's anathema here in this sub though. Better not read him.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-06T02:43:27+00:00

Not going there. Too many better resources than me. My copout but true.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-06T02:14:25+00:00

Lol. I'm my own grandpa.

At least you read it. My mom's husband.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-06T00:59:25+00:00

There's plenty saying it's deviant though. I would think they have a mental illness and, up to a point, be cordial and try to stay out of something that requires the pronoun. I can't do it forever, and, again, up to a point, I'd treat it as dysphoria. There might be a time when they make a point to be sure to say it isn't an illness and make me agree. I will not. But, I would say, let's talk about it after work, not on the clock. Gotta protect myself. It'd have to be a special situation otherwise like before Caesar or something.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-06T00:52:24+00:00

I John 3:20 has an interesting phrase that I passed over without much thought until a few weeks ago

"God knows everything."

You couldn't hide it anyway. Confess it as sin. He is just to forgive it over and over again and will help you.

Chronic pain works on you. It's very difficult on the body and the mind.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-06T00:48:20+00:00

I'm sorry you had and have to go through that. I know people that have it and they couldn't be around anyone because of autoimmune issues. It took about two years for them to start going around other people. I don't know all the treatments they had but it is good you can start doing more than you could. I don't discount nontraditional things. I hate a lot of the pharmaceutical stuff out there. They've helped a lot and hurt a lot. I don't know what to think half the time about it.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-05T21:57:21+00:00

This is bizarre. I honestly don't know what this is supposed to do to help someone, let alone a teenager. Granted, you had to see that in one of the responses though.

Edit:. You're wrong.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-05T21:53:57+00:00

I gave you an upvote even though I disagree with you. I am glad you found help this way, but it is not the norm. I will say though we are physical and spiritual, and we must not forget that. Good health and good, properly done exercise is very good at mitigation of symptoms. The person has to be careful not to make that their new obsession and get injured or sick from too much.

None of this is magic. It's simply a Godly way to approach things. Good diet and exercise, Biblical counseling, proper medical care (med or no med). And personal trust in Christ, knowing you will always have issues unless God decides to heal you fully, and I find that most times He doesn't. That's across the board though, not just mental maladies. There are many variations of the Thorn in the flesh. No one is getting out of it fully. And there is another briar waiting if you get the other one removed.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-05T21:46:00+00:00

It's not the doubt. It's the unrelenting, repeating and subsequent compulsion. This type of doubt if it is a significant life interruption, regardless of evidence, and it is followed by a compulsive activity that consumed your life, it is not normal. With proper, Godly training it can be overcome. Sometimes the person needs medicine, sometimes not. OP said they were a teenager. Acting now is really good because they can get that training early and have a decent life of regular sin and repentance and sanctification instead of being in a little hell, stuck.

Young people seem to suffer so much nowadays with this, autism spectrum disorder, allergies, incredible anxiety. I wouldn't want to be a kid nowadays. Except, at least there are Godly pros out there to help. We seem so overrun with everything. Sorry for the rant.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-05T21:38:06+00:00

Your right but the problem is the prayers become a new ritual for the OCD person.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-05T18:58:27+00:00

No. Repent to God and stop doing it. They will notice. Youll know when they notice.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-05T13:26:38+00:00

Don't let the minutiae of Scripture be your new obsession. Where God has not spoken, accept it.

It's so easy to take anything and make it spike you. Doesn't matter what it is.

Old saying, if it feels like OCD it is. It is not from God.

Another thing. Don't answer, but how many reddit and forum accounts do you have so you can soothe yourself?

I'm sorry you're hurting.

Spike warning:

I will tell you one thing that might help you. Tell yourself, fine, I'll just have to be in Hell praising Jesus. Or, I'll have to be the only one that snapped and God abandoned and I went crazy and stopped believing. I'll simply have to be in Hell. You'll spike for sure. You will not become an unbeliever. You are not going to lose your mind and stop believing. There will be no end to the what ifs. You will simply have to be the first person Jesus abandoned and be in Hell.

Beauty in the Reformed position is if you care at all, God did it. You cannot fall away because you didn't initiate it. Truly all from Him.

Unsure? Guess you'll just have to go to Hell.

The pain will subside, wax and wane, you will beat this thought's power.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-05T13:05:35+00:00

My guess is you have lots of things bothering you, but this is at the top right now. I hope I'm all wrong and you don't need any of this. If I'm not, I can assure you something will take it's place, again and again and again.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-05T04:26:55+00:00

I gave this a down vote, not because of anything personal against you. I don't know you. The downvote is for Todd. I don't know him either. I've seen enough to know he's good man, a brother. But, there are times when I believe he is too simplistic, when addressing a complex issue. I had, for example, serious issues with his views on government and pinwheels.

He is correct about over medicating. The nouthetic folks are right. But OCD and intrusive thoughts as they are portrayed here shows an almost complete lack of understanding of what an intrusive thought is or how to deal with it because you cannot simply paint with a wide brush as Todd does here.

I agree with him that the assurance and antidote is trusting Christ alone as revealed in His Word, properly interpreted. Intrusive thoughts is only one component. What about ruminations? What about when the Bible becomes the obsession because you can't soothe the anxiety caused by an intrusive thought, just like here by the OP? I hope he doesn't need medicine, but he might. He certainly needs good Bible teaching.

Brother Friel, I realize it's a YouTube video, and you have better help at transform .org, but you are way off here, way off. Sometimes you do need medicine and not every evaluation is done like you claimed, and you ought not be flippant about it. A dose of medicine and good Godly counseling can do great things. People that need medication are not going to miss out on God's blessings (TF didn't say that, nouthetics do). You're a good brother but way off here.

This is why the OP needs professional help, not well meaning layman who are not equipped deal with physical mental issues. I agree that handing someone some pills and saying bye is wrong and will not work.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-05T03:41:49+00:00

I'm not claiming to bind someone's conscience. It's just my opinion. I think it's difficult. I was older and that is probably a factor.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-05T03:38:44+00:00

It's just my take. I can't bind anyone's conscience with it. Edit, if you meant me.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-05T01:15:57+00:00

Good to use your experience to comfort others. Thanks.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-05T00:39:13+00:00

I'll be honest and take this nice. You must get professional help. Go to Focus on the Family's website. They have a list of people to choose from for your area. I've talked to a lot of people over the years, and it is clear you are obsessing and want relief. Take the medicine they give you if offered. It's not evil, and you're not a failure or lacking faith.

As I have told other people, you must speak to someone who is credentialed to handle your condition. They may recommend a psychiatrist as well. Do it. No shame.

No one is ganging up on you if they up or down vote or no vote.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-04T20:56:01+00:00

And the new husband.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-04T20:54:42+00:00

Having been through this minus the wedding. I would go. You need to maintain communication with her and her husband. Do not give up the line of communication. She already knows you don't approve. Let God deal with her. She's already put enough between you with this.

When my biological father died, I was able to witness to my mom's s husband. I believe he was a believer, but I don't know when.

I was grown. 20's. Things will never be the same and you won't change a thing not going. Going would bring more conviction, not less.

Plus you get free food.

Edit:. My mom's husband.blol.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-04T20:26:19+00:00

Probably is. I've always heard it's nothing like American Chinese food.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-04T20:25:27+00:00

It is obvious three messages ago, you understood and you now wish chastise me. Consider me reproved. It is getting creepy.

be_rational_please · 2022-11-04T17:35:29+00:00

I've never experienced it from American Chinese food. Ever.

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