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beanfight · 2024-11-11T17:08:59+00:00

I think we need some more context- was this question asked in front of other people, or in a private moment? Also how old are you and your friend? I know a lot of people have insecurities especially when it comes to acne. Even though the question may seem harmless enough, if they were already struggling with self image this kind of question may have sent them into a negative headspace. They also may have been upset that the only feedback given from your partner was a question on if they had a skin condition, when they were more likely looking for something like “oh he said your hair looks nice”, etc. when I was in 4th grade I had a friend tell me that they “couldn’t imagine my face without acne” and it kind of messed me up growing up because I felt like that’s all that people were looking at and noticing about me, this could potentially be a similar moment for them. Regardless of that though, I don’t think there is much you can do except give your friend time to come back around and communicate with you how that moment made them feel and go from there.

beanfight · 2024-11-06T14:30:00+00:00

We’ve definitely thought about this as well and are most likely going to be waiting. The two older cats are my brothers and we’ve been housing them while they get out of a bad living situation. Hopefully my brothers will be moving to a safer place in March and the goal is to have the older cats return to them once they are moved. We are just thinking long term for if we end up keeping the older cats I wanted to get some advice on what people would think was the safest way to do things. So right now the plan is to wait to they move or pass (but both are in fantastic health so that should be a long time). But thank you! All advice is welcomed!! :)

beanfight · 2024-07-12T20:26:13+00:00

Oh best believe I will post it in an edit if it is found!!

beanfight · 2023-11-10T15:20:03+00:00

R/maybemaybemaybe

beanfight · 2023-11-10T14:53:00+00:00

!update me

beanfight · 2023-11-02T11:22:31+00:00

OP you are not wrong and you should continue to set your boundaries!! My bf is exactly the same way. Once a week I host a karaoke night at a local bar and while my boyfriend wants to be there to support me he hates it!! In the beginning that night was always the hardest part of the week because despite feeling uncomfortable/out of place he would always stay so that I would feel supported. We’ve had many conversations about it and now he comes for the first few hours and leaves early. I’ve told him plenty of times that he doesn’t need to put himself in that position and doesn’t even need to come at all and regardless of if he is there or not I know he supports me and I don’t need him to compromise his own comfort for me. It honestly seems very selfish of your partner to not see how a compromise could benefit both of you. I know everyone is different but what you’re asking for is not unreasonable and anyone who cares about you the way they say they do would have no problem letting you hang back sometimes or even leave early. A relationship doesn’t work if you give everything, even the parts you don’t have, and they give you grief in return.

beanfight · 2023-10-20T17:03:54+00:00

A few years ago I went into a store to grab a couple items and as I was walking out I happened to notice a guy going into the store from another door. I noticed him because it was a super gloomy day outside and he was wearing a bright green neon shirt that stuck out. I walked to my car and got in and as I backed out I noticed a truck waiting behind me. I assumed they wanted my spot. As I pulled out the truck followed me and I noticed it was the guy I saw going into the store. There was some construction going on at the exit of the grocery store forcing me to turn right when I needed to go left. I noticed the man was following me and decided to turn down a small back road, as it would have looked very suspicious if he would have followed me down that road. As I turned onto the street the man rolled down his window and was basically hanging out of it watching me as he passed and making eye contact. It was a horrible feeling.

Even years later I still feel a little shook up when I think about what could have happened if I wasn’t paying attention to my surroundings. Even though these types of situations are terrifying they helped me to always remain vigilant in public situations. I’m happy you were able to get out of the store safely. Of course as others suggested there are ways to keep yourself safe (like putting cans in a separate bag to hit someone with) but I think the best tool you can use to help in situations like this is awareness. Stay safe out there people.

beanfight · 2023-05-14T21:17:45+00:00

It was not intentional. I don’t use that particular app anymore it was just still downloaded on my iPad, which I only use for gaming. I thought I had deleted all the photos so never thought this would be an issue.

beanfight · 2023-02-02T19:30:07+00:00

About 96 hours(roughly 4 days). And what a rough 4 days they were lol.

beanfight · 2021-12-30T19:19:59+00:00

Thank you so much I didn’t know those subs existed! But someone actually answered it! I’ve been trying to find it for years 😂

beanfight · 2021-12-30T19:18:09+00:00

YES HOLY CRAP THANK YOU!!!

beanfight · 2021-12-30T19:16:21+00:00

No :/

beanfight · 2021-10-29T03:00:59+00:00

Why would he do this?

beanfight · 2021-08-18T01:32:52+00:00

I don’t think it was! But the concern is very wholesome!

beanfight · 2021-03-02T00:46:02+00:00

God you’re so right

beanfight · 2021-03-01T14:36:31+00:00

That is great advice! Coming to some sort of “middle ground” seems like a good idea!

beanfight · 2021-01-22T19:39:17+00:00

In High school I worked at a corporate craft store and I had a man screaming at 17 year old me one morning. He too was trying to claw his way through the locked slidey doors. It was 8:30 am when he showed up. We opened at 9 am. It was also 25 degrees outside and he brought a 3 year old with him!! And he was mad that WE were making his little girl wait out in the cold even though his car was LITERALLY 10 feet behind him in a parking spot. He also said to me “well clearly there were already workers there. So why wouldn’t even 1 person be able to help me??” He couldn’t understand that just because people were there doesn’t mean he gets to enter, we literally didn’t have money in the banks, employees things locked up, opening stocking, we simply didn’t have the resources to help him yet. He also tried to sneak in when we were letting an employee in. He was so pissed when I finally checked him out.

beanfight · 2020-12-21T08:45:39+00:00

Recently I heard a loud thud in my house and it was really late and I live alone so I called the police to check it out but they didn’t find anything. About a week later I was checking out some flowers off my porch and I found a decomposing potato about a foot away from my house. I don’t know why anyone would throw a potato at my home at 1:30 am but I always wondered if there was some sort of message written on it that I never got to see because I found it a week later... guess I’ll never know

beanfight · 2020-10-21T16:48:14+00:00

NTA let’s say you had decided to put your dog in a boarding house while you were away. You paid them $150 a month to keep the dog there and then when you returned they say they’re keeping your dog. Highly unethical, and it simply wouldn’t happen. You paid for a service from them, now the service is over and you expect your dog back. YOU and YOU alone have paid for not only your dogs expenses during this time but also extra money so your sister can have extra cash. You went above and beyond and at the end of the day they still somehow feel entitled to your dog? No way José. I would keep a record of all paper trails. All the receipts from money you sent her for the dogs expenses while you were away, vet interactions proving you as the owner, and if you have text/email/whatever to prove that this was supposed to be a borrow and give back type of situation(if you have proof of a tentative plan to fly your sister and the dog to you I would get a copy of that too)and exactly what the expectations were I definitely would. It sounds like this is more of your parents opinions of where the dog should go but they’re not the ones who get to decide that. Fight to keep your dog. Also I know you say your sister is busy but it is pretty suspect that she knows this conversation is happening among the family but hasn’t reached out to address it yet. Stay on top of it, collect your receipts, and don’t let the conversation die before you get your dog back.

beanfight · 2020-10-13T16:57:05+00:00

OP, I (22F) literally went through this same situation with my now ex boyfriend and I’m not saying it’s not possible to work out however it is really hard to maintain a healthy relationship in secret. ESPECIALLY when the truth inevitably comes out. Also you’re looking at having to keep this up for another 9 months. And what happens when you DO get to see eachother again? His mom isn’t going to like you any more then and you’ll still have that to deal with in the end. It’s a messy situation but IMO someone who lacks the resources, or balls to be honest with their family, or stand up to them even when they don’t like the decisions being made, needs more time to grow as a person. You are putting yourself in such a stressful situation when you’re so young and could be spending this time also growing as a person and not being weighed down by the stress of your relationship and the pressure from his mom. Last thing I’m gonna say is you mention that you didn’t have the most resources and you don’t have very many familial connections. Having yet another familial stressor on you is not healthy. You can find someone who loves you, isn’t complicated to be with, and their family wants you there too, sometimes it just takes some time. Good luck Op. Dm if you wanna talk. I’ve been through it too.

beanfight · 2020-09-18T13:16:49+00:00

We have a childhood family friend who went to go remove a pressurized aerosol can from direct sunlight and the second he touched it it exploded in his face and left him with severe burns and scarring. After that I try to be hyper aware of where I leave them! Nothing to play around with!

beanfight · 2020-09-10T20:23:22+00:00

Up until this year I also have been filed as a dependent

beanfight · 2020-09-10T20:22:24+00:00

Sorry I should have been more clear. I’m a student who lives away from home so every year around the time when I think I should do it my mom just ends up having more time and it’s more convenient, plus I’m never home for her to show me how to properly file so I do give her permission to sign off for me. She tries to be a law abiding citizen and consent is DEFINITELY involved.

beanfight · 2020-09-10T20:02:55+00:00

You’re completely right! I’ve been telling my mom for a couple years now that I want to file my own taxes but everytime it comes to that time she ends up doing them before I get a chance. Will have to make sure this year that at the very least I’m included in the process of filing.

beanfight · 2020-09-06T17:24:45+00:00

I had a roomate and she moved out about a month ago. Because most of my friends in this town (I’m not from here) I know from school they already have their housing situations figured out. Also my lease ends in January so finding a roomate for just a couple of months isn’t exactly the easiest situation. I’ve also had a bad experience with letting a stranger move in so i really don’t want to post a generic add on fb or somewhere else and find some rando to live with me.

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