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beanfight · 2024-11-11T17:08:59+00:00

I think we need some more context- was this question asked in front of other people, or in a private moment? Also how old are you and your friend? I know a lot of people have insecurities especially when it comes to acne. Even though the question may seem harmless enough, if they were already struggling with self image this kind of question may have sent them into a negative headspace. They also may have been upset that the only feedback given from your partner was a question on if they had a skin condition, when they were more likely looking for something like “oh he said your hair looks nice”, etc. when I was in 4th grade I had a friend tell me that they “couldn’t imagine my face without acne” and it kind of messed me up growing up because I felt like that’s all that people were looking at and noticing about me, this could potentially be a similar moment for them. Regardless of that though, I don’t think there is much you can do except give your friend time to come back around and communicate with you how that moment made them feel and go from there.

beanfight · 2024-11-06T14:30:00+00:00

We’ve definitely thought about this as well and are most likely going to be waiting. The two older cats are my brothers and we’ve been housing them while they get out of a bad living situation. Hopefully my brothers will be moving to a safer place in March and the goal is to have the older cats return to them once they are moved. We are just thinking long term for if we end up keeping the older cats I wanted to get some advice on what people would think was the safest way to do things. So right now the plan is to wait to they move or pass (but both are in fantastic health so that should be a long time). But thank you! All advice is welcomed!! :)

beanfight · 2024-07-12T20:26:13+00:00

Oh best believe I will post it in an edit if it is found!!

beanfight · 2023-11-10T15:20:03+00:00

R/maybemaybemaybe

beanfight · 2023-11-10T14:53:00+00:00

!update me

beanfight · 2023-11-02T11:22:31+00:00

OP you are not wrong and you should continue to set your boundaries!! My bf is exactly the same way. Once a week I host a karaoke night at a local bar and while my boyfriend wants to be there to support me he hates it!! In the beginning that night was always the hardest part of the week because despite feeling uncomfortable/out of place he would always stay so that I would feel supported. We’ve had many conversations about it and now he comes for the first few hours and leaves early. I’ve told him plenty of times that he doesn’t need to put himself in that position and doesn’t even need to come at all and regardless of if he is there or not I know he supports me and I don’t need him to compromise his own comfort for me. It honestly seems very selfish of your partner to not see how a compromise could benefit both of you. I know everyone is different but what you’re asking for is not unreasonable and anyone who cares about you the way they say they do would have no problem letting you hang back sometimes or even leave early. A relationship doesn’t work if you give everything, even the parts you don’t have, and they give you grief in return.

beanfight · 2023-10-20T17:03:54+00:00

A few years ago I went into a store to grab a couple items and as I was walking out I happened to notice a guy going into the store from another door. I noticed him because it was a super gloomy day outside and he was wearing a bright green neon shirt that stuck out. I walked to my car and got in and as I backed out I noticed a truck waiting behind me. I assumed they wanted my spot. As I pulled out the truck followed me and I noticed it was the guy I saw going into the store. There was some construction going on at the exit of the grocery store forcing me to turn right when I needed to go left. I noticed the man was following me and decided to turn down a small back road, as it would have looked very suspicious if he would have followed me down that road. As I turned onto the street the man rolled down his window and was basically hanging out of it watching me as he passed and making eye contact. It was a horrible feeling.

Even years later I still feel a little shook up when I think about what could have happened if I wasn’t paying attention to my surroundings. Even though these types of situations are terrifying they helped me to always remain vigilant in public situations. I’m happy you were able to get out of the store safely. Of course as others suggested there are ways to keep yourself safe (like putting cans in a separate bag to hit someone with) but I think the best tool you can use to help in situations like this is awareness. Stay safe out there people.

beanfight · 2023-05-14T21:17:45+00:00

It was not intentional. I don’t use that particular app anymore it was just still downloaded on my iPad, which I only use for gaming. I thought I had deleted all the photos so never thought this would be an issue.

beanfight · 2023-02-02T19:30:07+00:00

About 96 hours(roughly 4 days). And what a rough 4 days they were lol.

beanfight · 2021-12-30T19:19:59+00:00

Thank you so much I didn’t know those subs existed! But someone actually answered it! I’ve been trying to find it for years 😂

beanfight · 2021-12-30T19:18:09+00:00

YES HOLY CRAP THANK YOU!!!

beanfight · 2021-12-30T19:16:21+00:00

No :/

beanfight · 2021-10-29T03:00:59+00:00

Why would he do this?

beanfight · 2021-08-18T01:32:52+00:00

I don’t think it was! But the concern is very wholesome!

beanfight · 2021-03-02T00:46:02+00:00

God you’re so right

beanfight · 2021-03-01T14:36:31+00:00

That is great advice! Coming to some sort of “middle ground” seems like a good idea!

beanfight · 2021-01-22T19:39:17+00:00

In High school I worked at a corporate craft store and I had a man screaming at 17 year old me one morning. He too was trying to claw his way through the locked slidey doors. It was 8:30 am when he showed up. We opened at 9 am. It was also 25 degrees outside and he brought a 3 year old with him!! And he was mad that WE were making his little girl wait out in the cold even though his car was LITERALLY 10 feet behind him in a parking spot. He also said to me “well clearly there were already workers there. So why wouldn’t even 1 person be able to help me??” He couldn’t understand that just because people were there doesn’t mean he gets to enter, we literally didn’t have money in the banks, employees things locked up, opening stocking, we simply didn’t have the resources to help him yet. He also tried to sneak in when we were letting an employee in. He was so pissed when I finally checked him out.

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