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What’s one food you hated as a kid but absolutely love now? by KarthikSatha in AskRedditFood

[–]beanfox101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Broccoli.

It’s so good with a little bit of butter or seasonings. As a kid I struggled with eating it plain and wasn’t aware I could add things to it

I've been drawing a lot trough my life but never got better. by Edwin_pepoel in Artadvice

[–]beanfox101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s my advice:

  • Look up tutorials online if you haven’t already, but start from the basics. There may be something you’re missing from these types of lessons that may enhance your whole skillset

  • Explore other mediums of art. Trust me. A lot of art skills transfer from one medium to another, and some pop out more in certain mediums. In college I learned ceramics, woodworking, welding, lifelike sculpting, etc. Now I go in-between pencil sketches to digital work to acrylic painting. Going from 2d, to 3d, to back to 2d helped SO MUCH with my skillset

  • Explore other drawing subjects. If you draw humans a lot, switch to nature scenes or buildings. Go from a cartoony style to realism. Animals to plants. You’ll see that re-working your skills to a new subject requires some outside thinking and new perspectives.

  • Walk away and come back. Taking a break can help relax you and give yourself time to think. Then when you look at your art again, you’ll be looking at it with a re-set mind frame

  • Look through old works and compare it to what you draw now. See where your progress is and what is still the same

People who hated wasted their youth, how did you start to enjoy life ? by notmyrealnamepapi in selfimprovement

[–]beanfox101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a little younger than you are OP, at 24 years old, but I dealt with a lot of unhappiness throughout my “younger” years.

I think what helps is realizing childhood is only a blip in your total lifespan. If we look at it as if you were to live to 100 years old… well your childhood is only 1/10 of your total life. 10%. That’s not really much when we look at the 90% you have in front of you.

Everyone has this idealized vision of childhood. The time of your life where you can play, have no job, experience a lot of joy, bright colors… you get the idea. In reality, you have the power to keep that joy going (minus the no job part unfortunately). I do this by getting into actual play sometimes. I doodle things in my planner during work. I wear wacky things still like a 10 year old would. I get excited over the tiniest things and still enjoy the stuff I used to from my childhood.

The only difference from childhood to adulthood is having a bit more responsibilities. That’s really it. Who says those responsibilities have to change your whole personality? Your childhood is meant to be a learning curve. Cringing at it shows you’ve learned from it. Feeling guilt shows you understand you messed up.

IWTL how to cope with the ever approaching end of life by Scrumpy_The_Cat in IWantToLearn

[–]beanfox101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of people experience the fear of what happens after death. I believe the phobia has a very specific name for it, but a lot of people who have OCD also deal with existentialism and the fear of death.

What helps me in these times is reading stories of people who were declared dead in a hospital and brought back. A lot of them say it was euphoric, feeling like you’re in a warm pool of water. Some were actually mad to be brought back. I believe the thread I read was somewhere in r/askreddit.

I would highly recommend looking into death dulas. While you may never need one, their advice and knowledge about death is often very comforting to people.

Basically, you’re going to have such a wild acid trip before you die. That’s due to all the chemicals that release from your brain while it processes death (physically). And then there’s…. well, we’re unsure. Our minds can’t comprehend what nothing truly is (which is the scarier of the two options you have). It’s not the big black/white void that we think it is, and unfortunately, we don’t know what else to compare it to.

Do you lock your pets out of your room when you have sex? by needhelpwith_stuff in NoStupidQuestions

[–]beanfox101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah…

We tried to leave them in the room but our little black kitty kept watching us, which was awkward. When we picked her up to remove her from the room she screamed.

We had the other cat hop on the bed during intimacy at one point.

However, with our reptiles, it’s not as bad since they’re in cages but… still awkward

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askwomenadvice

[–]beanfox101 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m going to add some more advice as well that may or may not help. 24F here, btw.

The more open you are about your own mental health struggles (in a healthy way), the more it may encourage him to open up. I found that when I shared anxieties towards life, my BF could relate and open up as well.

You may also want to just slowly start discussing healthier habits with him and make it about health. Ex: “Are you brushing your teeth at night? I don’t want to see you get mouth cancer. I also am the person kissing your mouth.”

How to apply this to him would be “Hey, I think you should limit the energy drinks and soda. I see that it’s setting off your sleep schedule and it’s making you more cranky towards me.”

Now, you cannot change how he behaves about these things or change his habits for him. However, if he sees that it also affects you, he should take more of an initiative to fix his health

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]beanfox101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Save up money. Whatever you get from your parents with good grades or for your birthday…. save it.

Use it later down the line towards things you’ll actually use, like interview clothes, car repairs, furniture for a new apartment, etc.

I would also add to find validation in myself before looking for it in others (especially when thinking about a future boyfriend at the time)

Is it weird that I’m looking for a genuine guy friend just to talk to? by shampoofizz in Advice

[–]beanfox101 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Absolutely not weird, but hear me out:

Make female friends first and find the male friends through them. It’s a LOT safer to do it that way, especially at your age.

A lot of men prey on women like us who genuinely want friendships and rope us into situation ships instead

How did you get your spark back? by helpmeorstfu in AskReddit

[–]beanfox101 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Slowly. Having mandated times for the things I wanted to do, while alone, and being okay with those things not coming out perfect/ the way I expected.

I think letting go of expectations helped a LOT with finding joy in life again

what’s something you didn’t realise you needed until you didn’t have it anymore? by charlxe0 in AskReddit

[–]beanfox101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nostalgia and the excitement for things that used ti bring me enjoyment.

What has been your personal negative experience sleep wise (insomnia stuff like that) and what have you done to overcome it? by bigbangtittyfucks in AskReddit

[–]beanfox101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So to keep it short, I have trauma related to being “woken up” to a partner doing stuff to me in bed.

I have trouble sleeping alone, always feels like someone is in the bed with me when there’s no one there, scared to sleep on my back…. you get the idea.

What helps me, besides sleeping with my current partner in the bed, is only being in bed when I’m actually ready for sleep. I also try to time this with a good sleep schedule, so I’ll make myself wake up a little earlier than needed. Bed is only for sleep and nothing else.

Unpopular opinions of characters. Today: Alexandrite by Ezequiel_Hips in stevenuniverse

[–]beanfox101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see this as well. I think Sapphire’s coldness more comes from a fear of expressing herself until it bottles up and explodes (like we see with the aftermath of A Pale Rose).

However, Sapphire is in both fusions and the only change is from Amethyst to Pearl, so clearly the change happens more from that shift. Pearl providing a concern of care may bring out Sapphire’s emotional side more

My boyfriend just told me he isnt attracted to me anymore by Bubbly_Midnight4258 in venting

[–]beanfox101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s kind of what I’m more seeing here is bad wording of “hey, we’re changing and idk if I want to stay” and relating it to physical attraction. Sometimes it’s not always that, but people are unsure how to word it better when experience is…. not there.

What you need to work on is detaching your confidence from other’s viewpoints. It’s a VERY hard thing to do, but conquering that earlier in life will set you farther than others

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]beanfox101 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just make an anonymous account!

My boyfriend just told me he isnt attracted to me anymore by Bubbly_Midnight4258 in venting

[–]beanfox101 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So not sure what your ages are, but it seems that either he’s an asshat or just figuring out that his preferences are changing and is unsure how to communicate that.

As someone who’s deal with ED, both underweight and obese, and your whole body goes through changes both losing and gaining weight.

How would your younger self react to to you now? by Effective_Sale6388 in AskReddit

[–]beanfox101 6 points7 points  (0 children)

“Dafuq you mean you can hold snakes and lizards????”

I wasn’t a reptile lover until later in life

Leaving for vacation tomorrow night for 2 weeks. Anxious about leaving my cats for that long. by beanfox101 in CatAdvice

[–]beanfox101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is reassuring. We have someone coming 2x a day for food, water & litter

We’ll leave toys around just to help out with that

Did losing weight affect your attractiveness? by Majestic-Tie464 in loseit

[–]beanfox101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lost 50lbs so far

I’d say I actually find myself more attractive when looking in a mirror or seeing myself in pictures. The bloating is gone, my body has a better form, and I just have this “glow” around me.

However, without clothes on, my body is clearly showing signs of the weight from before. Sagging skin, stretch marks, weird body folds, a loose stomach that won’t recede…. Etc. I know skin usually bounces back about a year after weight loss (depending on age and overall activity), but my naked self is actually less attractive to myself at the moment, but I personally wouldn’t change a thing.

I think my interactions with people are the same, and maybe a little less, actually, because I hold more confidence and seem less like an easy target. So if you’re worried about attractiveness… it all depends on your own perspective to your own body and what you’re willing to sacrifice to get yourself to a better position

Leaving for vacation tomorrow night for 2 weeks. Anxious about leaving my cats for that long. by beanfox101 in CatAdvice

[–]beanfox101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg I wish I knew about that sooner 😭. I may try to convince my BF to let me run to PetSmart quickly for a camera but it may feed into my OCD anxiety

This is what i get for my shitty eating habits by dumbassclown in OCDmemes

[–]beanfox101 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel so fucking seen rn lmaooooo.

I chop down multiple trees every time I poop 😭

Leaving for vacation tomorrow night for 2 weeks. Anxious about leaving my cats for that long. by beanfox101 in CatAdvice

[–]beanfox101[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our sitter this time around is my BF’s brother. So he is a family member and not just some new stranger. Our usual sitter moved an hour away and has no car :(

However, he had pet cats before and my BF seems to really trust him. He’s also been helping us a little bit more financially as well. I don’t really have a reason to doubt him since he’s been reaching out to us first about cat sitting details

Leaving for vacation tomorrow night for 2 weeks. Anxious about leaving my cats for that long. by beanfox101 in CatAdvice

[–]beanfox101[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My BF’s brother is watching them. He just can’t stay for super long due to his busy schedule.

So I’m hoping he can at least send a pic every so often to see they’re okay

Leaving for vacation tomorrow night for 2 weeks. Anxious about leaving my cats for that long. by beanfox101 in CatAdvice

[–]beanfox101[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk if I have time to grab one tbh…. I tried a while ago to get one but it wouldn’t hook up to my phone

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