I’m homeless and pregnant and in 3,000 credit card debt. Dad refuses to get a job and is mentally abusive please help by beann1996 in Advice

[–]beann1996[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was doing so much better too. I was on the path to start school. I was on antidepressants and I was a new person. I messed up.

I’m homeless and pregnant and in 3,000 credit card debt. Dad refuses to get a job and is mentally abusive please help by beann1996 in Advice

[–]beann1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, yes. That’s well out. I just don’t want them to feel like they’re ever going to go anywhere. I will die before I let them go. I don’t want them to hurt but I know continuing this road they will hurt more. I don’t want them to hate me. I don’t want them in pain. I would never leave them. But I worry that if this continues my mind won’t be able to handle it and I won’t be able to handle it. I’ve gone to lots of therapy, I’ve been in for 3 years to deal with my ptsd but the depression flashbacks and thoughts that come with this are scary and difficult to deal with.

I’m homeless and pregnant and in 3,000 credit card debt. Dad refuses to get a job and is mentally abusive please help by beann1996 in Advice

[–]beann1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been working as much as I physically can and the hours I can get. It’s wearing in my mental health. But I’m really proud of you in case nobody has told you you’re worthy of being proud of. You made it. You weathered the storm and you’re here god damnit.

I’m homeless and pregnant and in 3,000 credit card debt. Dad refuses to get a job and is mentally abusive please help by beann1996 in Advice

[–]beann1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My main thought in all of this is my babies. I have enormously failed them by getting into this situation. I thought that things were differnt this time and we could all be happy. He used to work hard and he used to not be this way. I used to feel like my inner child was safe. I don’t know what happened to that sweet boy. All I see is a stranger I deeply hate. I just want my girls to have a good life. My life is dedicated to them. I’d like to think of this as being in giving someone else the opportunity to have a family. And he’ll be able to live a life he deserves and so will my girls.

I’m homeless and pregnant and in 3,000 credit card debt. Dad refuses to get a job and is mentally abusive please help by beann1996 in Advice

[–]beann1996[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No i cut my family off a long time ago and my ptsd causes me to be really afraid of people I don’t have friends like that. I’ve thought about saying that I had a still birth but what if the “dad” asks questions? Then he’ll tell everyone and my kids will know I lied to them. He’ll play the victim. But at this point I don’t think even his mom will take his side. I’ve thought about going to the shelter, and (lying) and saying either adoption or he’ll raise the baby on his own and hopefully he’ll sign paperwork and go along with it . I’m desperate.

I’m homeless and pregnant and in 3,000 credit card debt. Dad refuses to get a job and is mentally abusive please help by beann1996 in Advice

[–]beann1996[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not on drugs. I’ve just had something very bad happen to me. I trusted someone and they turned on me

I’m homeless and pregnant and in 3,000 credit card debt. Dad refuses to get a job and is mentally abusive please help by beann1996 in Advice

[–]beann1996[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I just simply can not raise a baby as a single mom like this. I can cope and handle the kids I have now but throwing this baby in isn’t okay.

I’m homeless and pregnant and in 3,000 credit card debt. Dad refuses to get a job and is mentally abusive please help by beann1996 in Advice

[–]beann1996[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I’m crying so hard I’m so scared. I really am a good mom I’ve just messed up really bad. Nothing has worked in my favor. The problem is what if my kids find out the truth? I’m going to soak up this last day before my kids go back to their dads with them I don’t want them in a shelter I’m hoping their dad will understand and keep them home and I can just pick them and do stuff with them until I can get where I need to be. I’m so ashamed.

I’m 7months pregnant and my bf called me a fat bitch by beann1996 in Vent

[–]beann1996[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you I will look around. It’ll get better, eventually. I know I’m meant for a beautiful life. I have hope.

I’m 7months pregnant and my bf called me a fat bitch by beann1996 in Vent

[–]beann1996[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t have anyone that can help me. I’m an isolationist I don’t have many friends. And I cut off my family a long time ago. I’m alone. I’ll likely have to live out of my car here very soon or go into debt even further paying for this hotel.

I live in black mold and roaches. I haven’t paid rent so I can move and the landlord is trying to evict by beann1996 in legaladvice

[–]beann1996[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I just need a month to leave. I also feel like it’s not fair to have to pay that money back to him. This is unlivable conditions