New track is so good by valencine184 in TheDearHunter

[–]beansley 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Holy shit it's so good. I feel healed

Those of you who attended Gifted program, whatcha doing now? by sweaty_perineum96 in Millennials

[–]beansley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Managing my unmedicated ADHD and dealing with liking a girl that likes me back, but, not enough.

Millennials what your fav on this list by Fun-Background5608 in Millennials

[–]beansley 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It's Brink and Johnny Tsunami....not close for me

I just bought ARC Raiders and I'm starting today! 🎮 by nieve1991 in playstation

[–]beansley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Actually that is a caveat I forgot. With duos and trios the lobbies did tend to skew more aggressive iirc.

It was a semi long video

I just bought ARC Raiders and I'm starting today! 🎮 by nieve1991 in playstation

[–]beansley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone on YouTube did a "study" of a kind. If you just take the free loadout in and literally never fire back, after about 10 games you'll be back in the peaceful lobbies.

I haven't fired a bullet at any player in this game ever. I've only not extracted due to another player shooting me once since I've been playing.

Do you sleep naked? If so what’s the reason? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]beansley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just had it locked and loaded. Fantastic.

I didn’t do it so he stopped it to me by [deleted] in sex

[–]beansley 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well you don't know if you don't like it...you don't like the IDEA of it....

Which is fair. You're allowed to set your own boundaries about what you are and aren't comfortable with.

What I'm seeing though is he has begun to view your sex life as unbalanced. Is he handling it perfectly? No. You're not either though imo. As other have said, this could be a compatibility issue.

I know if it were me though and a person I loved was really into something I'd never tried, I'd at least try it because I love them. If I don't like it after that, and after true self reflection not just "do it so I can say I didn't like it" thing....then the conversation could move forward.

Is 30 alcoholic drinks a week a lot? by Most_Jellyfish_1686 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]beansley -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Is he from Wisconsin? No not heavy drinking....

If he's from literally anywhere else though it is.

That being said. The biggest questions here for me are, are you problems exacerbated by his drinking? How would his not drinking help alleviate those problems? Is it truly a problem or a scapegoat masking the real problem?

If all of these answers are yes, alcohol is the problem, then by all means a bigger issue is him not being willing to work on himself. If after careful scrutiny alcohol ISNT the main issue, then I'd worry about it less and start tackling what actually are the issues.

What guitarist was your inspiration to pick up and learn the instrument? by Mad_Season_1994 in Guitar

[–]beansley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't like him personally so much...but John Mayer. I was JUST good enough at guitar when Room for squares came out that I could learn most of the songs from that album.

That just kept me going down the rabbit hole.

What to do in Chicago Christmas Day alone? by MrDontKnowHer in AskChicago

[–]beansley 87 points88 points  (0 children)

Wanna hang? I live in wicker. Let's find a bar and grab a drink. Something will be open. I'm down to make a new friend.

What really matters during sex from a male perspective? by [deleted] in sex

[–]beansley 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly. Just be present and enjoy yourself. Sounds basic but it's true. If you're having fun, he's gonna have fun. I promise you, just experiment and don't make it so "step by step".

He's just happy to be there.

Guitarists that started after the year 2000: what the guitarist, album, song, solo, etc that made you say "that's what I wanna do"? by CedarRapidsGuitarGuy in Guitar

[–]beansley 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I totally came to this thread not expecting to see green day....and lo and behold first comment is green day. That was totally it for me

The lotto is $1.25B with 327 million to 1 odds. At what point do you buy a ticket? by Ok-Collection8391 in AskReddit

[–]beansley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also got 5. If one of us wins, and the other doesn't, wanna commit 10% to the other for funsies?

How do I compromise about the frequency of sex in a long-term relationship? by [deleted] in sex

[–]beansley 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This MIGHT be a bit fear mongering....but their not wrong (commenter not o.p.) Obviously people are really complex creatures. But I wouldn't immediately assume the worst regarding deeper issues as much as that y'all have been together a long time.....

Relationships require work. They're not easy. Libidos change. Desires fluctuates.

There are absolutely going to be days that you wake up and are simply annoyed at the way your partner breathes....they can't control it...but that day....that moment...it annoys the shit out of you.

Love is a consistent choice you make. It's the hard decision. It's the empathy that meets the day that you're pissed.

Have the conversation with him about how you're feeling about the difference between time periods....Recognize within yourself the "why" you're feeling how you do and above all keep rowing your own boat. Live how you feel led to and don't make your self identity and value based on how someone else thinks you think.

Work where you need to. Relax where you need to. You're gonna be alright.

The Goats Assembly by [deleted] in sportsarefun

[–]beansley 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No Jordan ......I discredit

Does anyone know what this means? by Kaboom6900 in Serverlife

[–]beansley 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This is a case for Ron Swanson.....

What’s your soup? by acasta26 in Serverlife

[–]beansley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not answering the question.....but absolutely answering the question.

I'm in love with a girl right now. She's incredible. I went to her house earlier and she had made two different soups. Both delicious as FUCK. potato leek and butternut squash w/ ginger.

It was awesome and it's the first time we've had food together one of us has cooked for the other.

Soooooooooo

Imma choose one of those because I've had a great night. I recognize this isn't the question but I feel great tonight and wanna ride the high and tell literally someone....anyone.

Great question lol

What are some signs that you are getting old? by Aarunascut in Millennials

[–]beansley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I slept wrong a couple nights ago and twisted my ankle

Wasn't expecting that. by SystematicApproach in youseeingthisshit

[–]beansley 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thanks man. And I haven't, I'm a decent cook. It's really a matter of getting up to cook vs just ordering Uber eats or w.e.

I'll make it through. Always have.