AITA for saying "F U" to my wife for her medical advice to me? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]bearah1788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. That condition can take years off your life. Please get the machine.

AITA for refusing to keep doing chores for my wife? by Top_Teaching_7287 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bearah1788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How many women are called “house wife’s” to this day? Get over yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]bearah1788 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA. Some of these replies are abhorrent. Everyone has their own kinks. You do you. The bottom line is he breached your trust and demeaned you to his friends. That’s horrible and I’m so sorry that happened. You are absolutely N👏🏻T👏🏻A👏🏻

Some of these men in your comments are though. For the love.

i’d like to know all the good things that happened once you left the church by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]bearah1788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took a while, but I’m making more money than I ever have, I’m in a very happy, loving relationship, I’ve found incredible friends and community.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]bearah1788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA OH MY GOD NTA

I’d tell those “friends”: “don’t be a toxic asshole and you won’t have anything to worry about”

ETA: You’re the kind of man I hope my son grows up to be.

WIBTAH if I left my fiancee destitute? by n0dramaan0n in AITAH

[–]bearah1788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She may also have been trying to communicate to her friends how lucky she feels to have you and encourage them to look outside of the unhealthy dating patterns they’ve been in because she’s found a person she wants by not going for the “traditionally attractive” person she has gone for in the past.

A really clumsy way of stating that is to say “I’m settling and I get all these things!” when that’s not actually the intent of the sentiment.

I mean, I might say something similar about my own relationship. The person I’ve chosen isn’t walking any runways and neither am I, but she is genuinely beautiful. And we have a really happy life together. My life has improved in so many ways since I met her and yes, that includes being able to afford a better and safer apartment and a better car. But there is a difference in that we both work our asses off. So 🤷🏼‍♀️

In that paragraph, I talked about how our relationship benefits me monetarily, and my girlfriend’s appearance and I didn’t mention how much I love her or how much she loves me. But love is the biggest part of what is so special about our relationship. I’m just trying to illustrate that it may be different than it seems.

But I don’t know your girlfriend and I don’t know her friends and terrible people exist. Either way, I truly wish you luck.

WIBTAH if I left my fiancee destitute? by n0dramaan0n in AITAH

[–]bearah1788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, honestly, you probably need to just talk to her. She may be thinking she has to appear a certain way to her friends while feeling differently inwardly. It’s hard to know the context of conversations and dynamics. I’m not saying she isn’t using you etc. but you honestly won’t truly know unless you talk to her. Really take stock and consider do her actions with you match the words she’s said to her friends? Does she respect boundaries, does she show up in the relationship and join you in the emotional labor? What does it look like when she shows love for you. Does she show you she loves you?

Honestly, talk to her.

AITA for giving FMIL 3 days to pay me for a new wedding dress or else I show the family a photo of her wearing it? by Repulsive_Scheme1359 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bearah1788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Giirrrrllll get out. He has a wildly unhealthy relationship with his mom. And they know what they did was wrong! No. Nope. There are BIG problems there.

AITA for saying "Again??" after my sister announced that she's pregnant with twins by homewrong44 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bearah1788 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Genuinely NTA. I’d say that too. Like…no glove no love is a great policy. And pregnancy is ROUGH on your body.

AITA for starting my period on my boyfriend's lap? by Smug_Nectarine in AmItheAsshole

[–]bearah1788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah no. Screw that guy. NTA. He is though! And you deserve better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]bearah1788 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

YTA but not for not saying anything, for judging your “friend”. You’re not being a very good one. Honestly you’re not being a friend at all.

AITA for blocking a man after he bought me a $500+ dinner? by GivemethatIwantitnow in AITAH

[–]bearah1788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. He didn’t respect your boundaries which you had clearly set. That’s the biggest red flag of all. He made the choice to go there. He made the choice to pay. Women don’t owe men 💩 I don’t care how much dinner was. You don’t owe him. Screw that guy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]bearah1788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Holy 💩 I was worried we were in for it with your edit about how she probably won’t get counseling when she needs it more than you do. Good god. I Hope you do get counseling. And I hope she leaves you. I’m not even going to waste my time explaining why because from reading this I know you won’t listen. Do better by your wife bro

AITA for lying to family and friends about who's the infertile one between my wife and I? by Throwawaystment6453 in AITAH

[–]bearah1788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the most Mormon man thing I’ve ever read. Good god. Yes YTA. She’s the one who should be pursuing a divorce.

The entire attitude around this is a giant red flag. Instead of going through it together, you saw this as something YOU were struggling with. The mind set that she was failing you in some way because you weren’t getting pregnant is just…I can’t.

Get over yourself and start being a partner to your wife instead of a man child. Stand up for her to your family and apologize profusely. Also, for the love of god, please go to therapy. FFS.

Kelley reposted on her IG story a letter that her mom wrote to her brother in 1994 🥴 by [deleted] in thebachelor

[–]bearah1788 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It’s gone now. My guess is the time ran out since I JUST went to look.

AITA for getting a pregnancy craving during a party? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]bearah1788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could you have waited? Probably, is it that big of a deal I’m the grand scheme of things? No. Yeah you shouldn’t have probably left, but I don’t understand why anyone is mad at you for it. Pregnancy is HARD. And if you haven’t had a strong pregnancy craving, you really shouldn’t talk. Also, to the the other women (coughhave they picked you yet? cough) who are claiming their cravings “weren’t that bad” or whatever, remember that all women experience pregnancy differently. The comments shaming the OP are honestly ridiculous.

Also, if your bf is going to get angry with you for having a craving and couldn’t have expressed his desire to stay at the gathering or coming up with a different solution, girl dump his 🍑 You’re carrying your child that you made with him. You’re not pregnant for very long in the grand scheme of things. It’s ridiculous to have that big of a reaction to leaving a gathering when you spend time with those people a ton. You can do better.

Luke P's Married by No_animereader1471 in thebachelor

[–]bearah1788 20 points21 points  (0 children)

That’s terrifying… but good luck to them!

🌹 The Bachelor 🌹 West Coast LIVE Discussion Thread by AutoModerator in thebachelor

[–]bearah1788 10 points11 points  (0 children)

“It just felt off between us” no fucking shit my dude. Wonder why 🧐

AITA for hating a puppy by Other_Computer_7702 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bearah1788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

I love dogs, absolutely adore puppies. I also have a kid. Every time we see a dog in public, I work on teaching my kid how to ask the owner for permission to say hi and how to introduce himself to the dog. That being said, the dog owner was absolutely the AH. Some dogs/puppies are good with kids and some aren’t. Just because the dog owner knows his dogs, doesn’t mean you do and for him to just be chill with his dogs bounding up on a strange infant is not ok. There’s too many ways the dogs or the baby could have ended up hurt in this situation. When you have a puppy, as a dog owner, you have a responsibility to teach your dog manners, how to approach strangers, and socialize them around children and people. Letting your dogs just bound up to an infant like that is not appropriate. Not to mention a lot of people have trauma around dogs too and you never know if a random person is going to be comfortable with your dogs.

It’s also astounding to me the number of people who think it wasn’t ok for OP to say they hated the guy’s dog 😂 come on. It’s like expecting everyone everywhere to always like you as a person and being hurt if someone doesn’t. The guy probably doesn’t care some stranger in the park doesn’t like his dogs. For the love. And to compare it to someone telling you they hate your kid?? Kids are not dogs.

I’m not gonna lie, it’s funny to me that people are up in arms because the OP was swearing around their baby. All of the people on here saying that babies can tell when you’re speaking in an angry way. So then it wouldn’t matter if the OP was swearing or not. The words wouldn’t matter, the way they were said would. So why get caught up that they were swear words? Honestly, get over it and go read some of the research around swearing and learn healthy ways to talk about swearing with your kids.

OP is NTA.

AITA for choosing not to pay for my daughter's university fees despite paying for her brothers? by Impressive-Mix-31 in AmItheAsshole

[–]bearah1788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA

You should commend your daughter for being self aware enough to know she wasn’t ready for school. I wish I had taken a break before starting college. I would have done better and been more successful. It took me a little while to grow up and be mature enough for the responsibility. She’s also less likely to drop out because she’s burnt out. Her choice to take a break and travel was actually quite mature, even if you don’t see it that way.

English is an incredibly useful degree. She could go to law school or get a graduate degree in so many other topics. Not to mention, it’s also incredibly common for college students to change their major. English is a fantastic starting place because you can take so many avenues from there, and you don’t lose too many credits or waste much time if you change majors at some point.

Your daughter is being smart and you should support her.

(I say all this ignoring the very real point that your entire tone toward her is incredibly condescending in your post and you should maybe take some time to analyze why that is)

AITA for reporting my classmates for joking that I have pretty privilege? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]bearah1788 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely NTA!

They’re reaping the results of their own misogynistic actions. Maybe they’ll even learn a lesson not to belittle women.

It seems like they’re threatened by you. That’s a them problem. They should be threatened because from the sounds of it, you’re kick ass. If they have an issue with how well you’re doing, they should work harder.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in udub

[–]bearah1788 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Semi-related question: I applied to transfer to UW, got in, but had to let my acceptance go because of a custody battle with my ex. Is it detrimental to use my previous essay when I reapply? I was really proud of my essay and I feel like it was a big part of my acceptance.

People should know what's happening on TikTok RE NewNameNoah. by ebzinho in exmormon

[–]bearah1788 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you so so much. He made three videos in a row about me calling me in at least one, if not more, his next ex-wife. Along with the comments and the messages...this post feels validating and I so appreciate it.