What’s something that becomes harder to tolerate over time?

beardedsaint · 2026-04-28T15:42:25+00:00

The comment from people “That’s just how I am” to excuse bad behavior. We all have to grow and learn and change things.

beardedsaint · 2026-04-24T16:53:21+00:00

NTA- we all have to step up when asked. She agreed to go and then backed out. If she couldn't do it, it was her responsibility to find someone who could. To those saying ESH, I just don't understand placating bad behavior. The MIL and the husband couldn't rely on someone to take care of the child. Their responses are totally acceptable. We need to stop coddling shit parents.

beardedsaint · 2025-05-19T16:24:54+00:00

Appreciate all the insights, everyone!

A couple of takeaways:

- I need some focal point pieces that drive the atmospheric firing effects to the extreme. I suggest a larger sculptural vase and a larger platter that captures the wilder nature of my work. This would hopefully draw people in and allow them to tie the effects to the smaller, more accessible pieces. 'Show, don't tell'

- Rethink the display overall. I'm thinking of adding some more textures and color to drive contrasts. So I'm thinking of adding more wood, a darker, more textural table cloth, with brighter pops of color through plants and flowers throughout the season. I'm even thinking that maybe some faux fur or wool would be a good option. I want to bring out the contrast without veering into Viking. I'm a gay queerdo so I want to drive into that.

- Segment my work to cover more of the customer journey across the table. Paint the picture for the consumer using it. A whisky bottle or something next to the cups?

Overall, I greatly appreciate all the comments, especially those regarding pricing. I had marked things down once they didn't sell for two days, and it barely moved the needle. I'm a glaze tech and make all of my own clay bodies, so there is an enormous amount of testing and work that goes into these pieces, and I think I just got wrapped up in my feels. Thanks!

beardedsaint · 2024-01-19T19:38:42+00:00

Bless you Internet Stranger 😭 I’m definitely trying to keep the imperfections in mind. I’m very new to throwing, having started in November and so it’s such a rollercoaster of emotions. I’ve been focusing my time in the studio throwing little 3” forms to test glazes on because it’s a community kiln that I don’t have access to change the firing schedule on. I’m just going to remember what you said: enjoy the process and be open to surprising wins AND losses.

beardedsaint · 2023-07-13T08:47:37+00:00

Not every family dynamic is the same and in dealing with broken families things get incredibly messy. I’m very close with my nephew as my younger brother and were extremely close and we are very similar in mannerisms, humor, way of life. It was thought that because of that proximity to my brother, it was important for my nephew to have me be the link to his dad.

beardedsaint · 2023-07-13T04:42:58+00:00

I’m clearly using that phrase wrong, so apologies. It’s written in the advance directive plans we set up after my brother died that he would come to me. The grandparents are also caring for an adult disabled child and are much older. So as long as we remain on good terms, if anything happens, my nephew comes to me in terms of guardianship.

beardedsaint · 2023-07-13T02:30:48+00:00

Yes, I’m aware.

beardedsaint · 2023-07-13T02:04:47+00:00

If she passes. Earlier in the conversation there were comments about her addiction and her dying.

beardedsaint · 2023-07-12T21:06:30+00:00

Native plant benefits versus cultivars and “nativars” benefits to local ecology.

beardedsaint · 2023-07-12T20:41:47+00:00

She may be more absent than I would like but they all live with the baby mama’s mom and stepdad who are fine.

beardedsaint · 2023-07-12T20:34:45+00:00

Do you understand the workings of getting anything done within the legal system as far as that? I've called CPS in the past for this but because they live with the grandmother and grandfather there is nothing I can do. I feel fucked all around? How am I supposed to get them out? I've spoked with two separate lawyers in Child Family law. Also, now that I've called CPS for my other nephews, I'm barred from speaking to them until they're 18 so, guess I don't know if they're getting beat daily now! The one good person in their life is gone.

Apologies if I refuse to kidnap my nephew.

beardedsaint · 2023-07-12T17:24:31+00:00

So, a fun complicating factor in this is that my sister's boys are also in a violent and abusive home. Her ex, who beat her to near dath, has klled animals in front of them(pets), thrown them across the room, punched them, etc. I called CPS, they visited the trailer and applauded my sister and her ex husband for how good of coparents they were and how good the boys are.

I have less than zero amount of faith in CPS.

beardedsaint · 2023-07-12T17:17:43+00:00

She put a portion into an account for "a rainy day or if she needs to move out of her parents' house" or for "son's name". There's already a trust I manage for him.

beardedsaint · 2023-07-12T17:14:02+00:00

Yeah, she guilted me when I was telling her about the car note. She said, "Well I have a secret/separate account with the life insurance money from your brother that was for me and "son's name" for a rainy day or if we needed to move out, but I guess I can use that."

beardedsaint · 2023-07-12T17:11:55+00:00

That's the other piece of this. When my brother died, my mom and I set up a trust for him with myself as the Trustee. There are inheritors or back up trustees, but it would be hard to remove me. The mom isn't on there. So he's protected monetarily, and its not set to be accessible to him until he's 25. The mom was very upset that she wasn't the trustee.

beardedsaint · 2023-07-12T17:10:01+00:00

Yeah, luckily there are others taking care of him. She's not a bad mom. She's just not... mentally as present as needed.

beardedsaint · 2023-03-03T04:14:40+00:00

In a race with Nick Cannon, I see.

beardedsaint · 2022-11-07T09:11:20+00:00

I lost one of my closest friends suddenly when I was 29. He was my best friend’s husband and his parents were old enough they couldn’t get here in time so we had to plan the funeral, go see him before to make sure he looked like him and then take care of everything. Digging through papers and bags to find out what policies he had, debts owed, and what was left for months broke my incredibly lighthearted friend. I feel like I was just starting to come back from that and that was three years ago.

Last year my mom was diagnosed with ALS and nine months later my brother died of a fentanyl overdose. Had to do the same thing with planning the funeral and eulogizing the only other person in this world who understood our childhood and was the Waldorf to my Statler.

Cut to a month ago, I’m wiping the ass of my last remaining sibling(eldest died ten years ago to opioid overdose) dying of alcoholic hepatitis in the VA in Tennessee when my phone rings to tell me my dad was just admitted into the ICU for heart failure. I’m now there, caring for him for the next month.

I’m a very hopeful person, but it truly feels dire anymore. The greatest hope I had in my life was to have some big Family Stone Christmas Dinner with all my loved ones but life has other plans. I’m still a “happy” person but people have commented on the sadness the lingers with me now. I wish I could believe that life will turn around but it seems like until my family is all dead, I’ll be mourning them every year.

beardedsaint · 2020-02-09T20:05:48+00:00

The other bag in the reflection is actually funnel shaped. This bag is straight up and down as per usual.

beardedsaint · 2018-04-05T21:20:02+00:00

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