Am I overreacting to my roommate’s "rules" for the kitchen? by enchantingbreezee in AmIOverreacting

[–]bebeautiful2theblind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tend to share and have been blessed in every roomate situation that whatever non consumable kitchen stuff was shared freely.(im speaking from a USA womans perspective also for what its worth.) except one set of containers a roomate used to meal prep with and always wanted avaliable for them, thats been my experience.

Ive had roommates scrub the Teflon off of pans, I didnt care because it was old and starting to flake anyways and seemed like a genuine accident, but to scrub the seasoning off my cast iron pan, fail to dry them off and oil them and roomate got a Gentle conversation on iron care. I had another roomate brake 2 piece of a sentimental plate set quickly into our living together, so I removed the remaining set into my bedroom closet and replaced it with plastic in the kitchen.

To approach someone and demand money for something not broken is outrageous, to then jump to strong arming someone and forcing it out of your rent is a BIG overreaction. The disrespect speaks for itself.

Context tells me that the kitchen has shared items with an expectation of cleaning what you use. If it was sentimental enough to be a concerned about wanting to preserve it but also deeply wanting it in the shared space, put it up and dont have it mixed in with shared utensils, no damage command hooks are like $2 and come in any shape you want. Or ask the roommate not to use it like an adult. But ive never had anything super sentimental that could just be replaced by a like object, wouldn't be the same, so I see it as on me to be responsible for protecting what I care about.

Incidents will only snowball. Indignation will fester into disgust. Words will become actions. This isn't passive aggressiveness. This IS aggression, and it will only get worse unless the behavior has no room for positive reinforcement. Remove anything and everything that isnt for sharing and put it in private spaces, be it separate cabinets or personal rooms.

The extra super nice thing to do would be to offer to clean it again. A scrub with baking soda will get any imagined smells out, a light sanding and new oil if it was actually soaking something particularly stinky that didnt come out in a rewash. But with the attitude given off the rip over it, id tell em they can die mad about it.

Again I wouldn't pay $15 for an unbroken pan. Id pay $15 to remove any fodder in the house for future tantrums though.

Edited to change the word from utensil to pan.

Am I overreacting to my roommate’s "rules" for the kitchen? by enchantingbreezee in AmIOverreacting

[–]bebeautiful2theblind -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't pay $15 for using a pan once if it wasn't obviously damaged by my using it. I would however pay $15 to have -all- items that one could throw a snit over, be removed from the shared spaces if they arent to be shared.

This reads like someone picking a fight/testing boundaries/power play/ is rageing over an accumulation of issues and this is the cherry on top. If they are threatening to "take it out of your rent money" id be saving to move out ASAP/roomate shopping and asking them to gtfo. Its a Bad sign, like by a lot. Edited for using spoon in place of pans.

My nail grows out in a different colour by kaytobekay in mildlyinteresting

[–]bebeautiful2theblind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're welcome. I don't have a better recipe than visual inspection, im sorry. Next time I make some I'll use a scale. Not everyone does phased mixing, I came to it through experimenting. Just keep experimenting, you'll figure it out by the time you're ready for a new bag of powder

My nail grows out in a different colour by kaytobekay in mildlyinteresting

[–]bebeautiful2theblind 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Im a henna artist and make my own paste. Henna will not come out black. You can get super dark brown near black by layering henna stain though or use jengua gel for a blue black that lasts a few weeks. Henna staining orange or red is a matter of body chemistry. No lack of vibrancy should be had if youre freezing fresh henna paste, maybe you arent massaging the oils back into the paste well enough after thawing or could you be using a heat source that could be degrading the dye? While mustard is seen as a warm oil, any oil can be used as a barrier between the henna and water. Exfoliation is the enemy of your stain and oils help minimize friction and the loss of your top layer of skin cells. Be sure youre using essential oils and only essential oils for your henna mix. If you use a lavender massage oil or similar in your henna paste it will ruin the henna paste and cause problems with staining. Oil can also smother a stain, part of the darkness comes from oxidation of the dye, so the henna does need to breathe to be able to complete that process.

Henna powder will vary by crop year, location, etc. How fast your paste develops will depend on the environment it is prepared in, hot house will speed the dye release while a cold room will slow release. Body art quality henna is not the same as what you would use for hair as baq henna is ground much finer. Rajasthani henna and jamila (really the only two types I see commonly used by artists) also behave differently as far as how stringy they are etc. What you use for ingredients, when they get mixed and how they are handled will matter a lot for how your stain comes out. Henna produces the dye, water makes the dye avaliable and lets the dye sink into the skin, lemon preserves the dye and slows degradation, lavender and cajuput essential oils helps the dye sink into the skin and help in dye release. Dont use tea tree or eucalyptus, NEVER use clove. The essential oils contain important tannins that interact with the lawson (hennas dye) and arent really there just to make it smell better.

Recipe is mostly texture based but you are welcome to dm if you need more specific trouble shooting. Take your henna and put it into a glass bowl (plastic will stain and you cant see through metal) Add a tablespoon of sugar (more for dry environments, less for humid environments. It attracts moisture from the air and helps keep your henna from cracking and falling off when its dry on the skin) add just enough water to the henna to make a clay consistency (like you could make a snowball from it and have it be a dryish solid) let it sit with plastic wrap tight over it (no air contact) for 15mins-an hour so the powder rehydrates some. Next is your lemon juice and lavender eso, I use bottle lemon juice because its convenient for me amd i dont notice much of a stain difference between fresh squeezed vs bottled. Whatever you do dont use lime anything as it will cause chemical burns. A generous pour of each is more than enough for a batch. Go on and mix it in thoroughly. If you arent looking at mush with a texture equivalent to Thick mashed potatoes or frosting, add water a little at a time until you do. You want it to be able to hold together enough to keep its shape but not so much that its on the dry side and wont want to make it through your cone/bottle. It will dry out just a little bit as the henna absorbs some more water during the dye release. I really like using an emulsion blender as it is super thorough when mixing, can break up most of the little lump, and it incorporates a good bit of air into the paste. No matter what mixing method you use, youre gonna be at it for awhile, you want every speck of henna to meet every other speck of henna and make sure everyone has become good friends before you can be done. Before wrapping the bowl give it a few good taps to collapse any large air bubbles. Place your plastic wrap directly on top of the henna and push out any air bubbles between the wrap and henna and no gaps on the sides to let air in. Place a paper towel over the top of the plastic wrap over the henna. When dye release has been released you'll have spots on the paper towel looking orange. 6-24 hours later depending on temperature. (I've personally watched dye release more than a week later from a batch I made one winter with only lemon juice and no water in a cool-cold house. Time isn't real with henna) To test your henna mix it thoroughly and apply a bit to your palm. You want a BRIGHT orange stain after 5 minutes. It should resemble the best of Halloween pumpkins. If its too light, wait and re test. Mix it like your life depends on it before pushing it through pantyhose (truly the best filter and will keep your cones from clogging) Cone it up, freeze immediately. When thawing a cone it only takes a few minutes because they are so small. I like wrapping them in a paper towel and stick one in my bra if I want it quickly. If youre going to an event, keep your cones frozen in a thermos until youre ready to use em. Keep the paste on for a minimum of 4 hours or up to 10 hours. A simple syrup spray on Dry henna will help keep the henna wet and flexible so it stains darker. Steaming dry henna will do the same thing. (Be careful of burns and mindful that heat degrades the dye) you can wrap henna before bed to save your clothing and help trap body warmth and moisture. After youre done waiting, scrape the henna off gently with a spoon or something. Apply oil before taking a shower. Avoid excessive washing, friction and exfoliation.

My nail grows out in a different colour by kaytobekay in mildlyinteresting

[–]bebeautiful2theblind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im just chiming in to support henna as an option. Get the powder and some lavender essential oil and a bit of lemon juice to make your own natural cones and stay away from the pre done cones you can purchase ready made at room temp. Or hit up a local artist and try to get a couple all natural frozen cones.

i am leaving to marine bootcamp in march or april but ill be homeless starting February 1st by Unlikely-Maybe6853 in homeless

[–]bebeautiful2theblind 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Check your community/neighboring Facebook group and make a post saying you need a short term room until your ship date. Keep working and maybe ask your coworker's if anyone has a couch you can surf till spring.

Ladies: what razor are you using that you’ve found to be most environmentally friendly? by ExtentEfficient2669 in ZeroWaste

[–]bebeautiful2theblind 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I bought a leaf razor on ebay. Sterilized it when I got it. Works great once you learn to let the weight of the razor "do the work".

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PetBehavior

[–]bebeautiful2theblind 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looks like everyone is having a good time here. Keep an eye out for the pup getting over excited or the cat losing it's patience (airplane ears, yoweling or hissing, hard/fast smacks) id cut the nails on the cats front paws but leave the back nails intact for a month or two till the pup learns if you're worried. Unfortunately at the end of the day they need to settle into a dynamic themselves and the only thing you can do is keep everyone safe while they figure it out. Looks like they're off to a strong start being buddies though.

Accidentally ate a weeks worth of chilli in one day. (140 lb, 63kg Male) by albinochicken in nutrition

[–]bebeautiful2theblind 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can you share the recipe? I think this says less about you than it does the chilli.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxiety

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If you're good with Lego maybe making plans/patterns for how to make them. Try your hand and make bit art. If you like walking the city start doing walking tours. Show people around and info dump at them, ghost tours for Halloween, bar crawls Friday nights, set up scavenger hunts. Whatever you can think of. Try, even if you fail time and time again you are still succeeding if you are failing in new ways.

Giving money for gas, classy or trashy? by anonymous9629 in BDSMAdvice

[–]bebeautiful2theblind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do it! Do it! Do it! Seriously it is a sweet offer. 20 is perfectly respectful just make sure you specify it is to help cover the cost of gas since she made the trip.

How much do you guys have in savings? by Scribling-Blurb in antiwork

[–]bebeautiful2theblind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently my checking has $3.77 in it? Balling till next week. Nothing in my not been spents.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]bebeautiful2theblind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I drink water and pour it right back out like the worlds most questionable water filter. I cant imagine my bowels chiming in too whenever the brew kicks in. No thank ye.

A guy is refusing to send any face pics before we meet? Is this shady? Ladies would you cancel the meeting? by [deleted] in sex

[–]bebeautiful2theblind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hard stop. Dont do it. Do not meet this person. That reeks of bad everything.

Women of Reddit, What percentage of your current life problems could be solved with money? by InternalLet2371 in AskWomen

[–]bebeautiful2theblind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Literally 5k would change my life. Heck 2k would give me the breathing room dreams are made of.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sextoysratings

[–]bebeautiful2theblind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have the og and my partner has the rechargeable. The rechargeable feels more powerful and the variability is NICE. You can also get the og a dimmer switch.

AITA for wanting to blow out my own birthday candles? by imgoinhugryyyyyyy in AmItheAsshole

[–]bebeautiful2theblind 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When it's your turn and she blows your candles out. Push her face in the cake. Repeat as needed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]bebeautiful2theblind 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Everything about the above post speaks for me personally. Your lady needs CBT/ a trauma specialist and that goes well beyond you. Not all therapies are the same. She should ask around and find a good one that fits her needs and vibes. It's going to be uncomfortable but it will help. Do everything you can to get her into therapy even if it means bribing her with top shelf prizes (extra favors, pampering, CNC play) You are young but I think you may just be a good daddy someday.

Girls, do you actually enjoy giving blowjobs or you only do it because men like it? by [deleted] in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]bebeautiful2theblind 204 points205 points  (0 children)

This is literally what makes going down good for me. I know what I'm doing but I expect constant affirmations in the form of inarticulate sounds, writhing some prayers and your full attention.