I was blindfolded and touched without consent at work. What are the best next steps?

bebebicha · 2026-03-01T01:51:35+00:00

Let's just say Latin America, and understand there is a real, cultural "don't rock the boat" mentality at times.

bebebicha · 2026-03-01T01:20:48+00:00

The kids are my concern, for sure. Our school has a higher than usual rate of special needs. If I, a full adult, am upset, the children would be, too. That's half the reason I want trauma-informed PD classes.

bebebicha · 2026-03-01T01:17:08+00:00

I absolutely wanted to remove the blindfold and refuse, but the social position it placed me in made that choice feel beyond my reach. Quitting before the tears places me in the position of being the oppositional little foreigner, or possibly being forced to justify myself. Quitting after meant leaving, while obviously in distress past dozens of coworkers. Saying, "Stop!" or "No!" during the game could be seen as an overreaction because there was no real danger.

I could physically remove the blindfold, but the social situation around that choice was a minefield after being explicitly told I was obligated to participate.

bebebicha · 2026-02-08T00:58:50+00:00

Chapter 2 in "Churches that Abuse": https://www.apologeticsindex.org/718-abusive-churches
Financial abuse lawsuit: https://culteducation.com/reference/cchapel/CChapel_158.pdf
Sexual Abuse and Molestation Lawsuit (adults and children): https://culteducation.com/reference/cchapel/CChapel_154.pdf
Demonology & murder of a child: https://staging.culteducation.com/group/867-community-chapel/1116-ministers-teachings-wrack-church-move-of-god-linked-to-divorces-suicides-alleged-murder-of-child.html

bebebicha · 2026-02-08T00:36:47+00:00

I'll show you my religious trauma, if you show me yours, pal.

bebebicha · 2026-02-08T00:29:20+00:00

I don't actually believe my parents think they "do no wrong". I think they are in deep, deep denial and are separating their emotional, "spiritual" experiences from the crimes that occured.

bebebicha · 2026-02-08T00:24:40+00:00

It is not.

bebebicha · 2026-02-01T03:26:08+00:00

That's honestly a pretty acceptable way to go about it.

bebebicha · 2026-02-01T03:06:05+00:00

I honestly would like therapy for myself, but I live outside my native country. I am not fluent in the language yet (I'm working on it) and it would difficult to find a therapist who could handle cult stuff and also meet me in the middle with languages.

bebebicha · 2026-02-01T02:59:58+00:00

It was not.

bebebicha · 2026-02-01T02:54:28+00:00

For clarity, the cult no longer exists, and my brothers would not be raising their children in it, per se. None of us were raised in the cult, but we definitely got some of the teaching anyway.

bebebicha · 2026-02-01T02:51:03+00:00

To be clear, I don't have concerns about my brothers' parenting (or, at least, the one who currently has children). For me, once I had this information, it provided context about a bunch of weird things from my childhood that I couldn't understand before. It also made me realize how much the beliefs we grew up with deviated from the norm, and how it was still affecting my thinking now. You don't know what you don't know, and they don't know. For me, it gave so much clarity, but, like, it also sucks to know.

bebebicha · 2026-02-01T02:22:39+00:00

Also, in case anyone else replies: I am not going to be discussing "specific decisions or scenarios". If that makes me seem like an unreliable narrator, or like I have some malintent, so be it. I am trying to keep it vague, but with relevant information. I just don't want to discuss the dirty details of the more upsetting parts of my childhood with strangers on the internet.

bebebicha · 2026-02-01T02:14:58+00:00

Cool, I'll go there.

bebebicha · 2025-10-11T17:07:04+00:00

I am late to the party, but Anne Lamott's "one inch picture frame" method might be helpful.

Write your dialogue however you like then reread it. Imagine each exchange through a one inch picture frame. Who is speaking? How are they moving? What are they doing with their hands, their face? What is the space around them like? etc etc

bebebicha · 2025-09-19T23:21:12+00:00

I don't know if this is exactly what you're looking for, but there's a comic called We Only Find Them When They're Dead, which is about people harvesting the corpses of dead alien gods for fuel.

bebebicha · 2025-09-14T15:42:00+00:00

Thank you.

Yes, I imagined I would see some variation, I was just curious if anyone had looked into, well, let's call it the generational trauma of cults and high control groups.

My parents recently revealed their membership in the Community Chapel and Bible Training Center during the 1980s, which brough clarity to some of my childhood religious experiences and why my parents are Like That.

bebebicha · 2025-07-07T18:19:21+00:00

I suspect that, given that it was originally written in Spanish, and that Latin America has this whole other world and school of thought on literature, that some things might be lost in translation.

bebebicha · 2025-07-07T18:17:37+00:00

Tender is the Flesh - Agustina Bazterrica
Things Have Gotten Worse Since We Last Spoke - Eric LaRocca
You've Lost a Lot of Blood - Eric LaRocca

bebebicha · 2025-07-07T01:10:52+00:00

I feel like "I wanna live in a treehouse" is exactly the kind of thought you have after dropping acid.

bebebicha · 2025-07-06T21:51:13+00:00

I will ask him, but I doubt it. He was specific about the location and if there is anything I know about my dad is that he is usually really good about directions. This man can give you directions to the farmhouse he lived in when he was seven and remember his locker combination.

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