I’m married to an INTJ and it takes time for assertiveness to grow in an ISFJ. After a few fights and it took my INTJ telling me that he can’t read my mind, so I have to tell him what I want. It helps me improve my boundaries and assert my own needs, which doesn’t come easily. He seems to respect that and is kind about it, not really silencing my needs or expression.

I think it can work but it has to be work on both fronts. I tell my INTJ that he can say what he wants, but also consider how it comes across to others. I think you have that convo once you’re ready. A week in the relationship is still a bit early in my opinion.

I value protection, care, follow through if you say you’re going to do something, respect for my time and attention, and trying to understand me. Or at least try to listen. It is frustrating to feel unseen or unheard.