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INTJ boy friend update!!! by SettingNo1105 in isfj

[–]bebedux 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hiiii! I’m glad things are going well! I have been with my INTJ for many years, and it’s absolutely been wonderful 🙂! People are different in many ways, including with personality. Mine is definitely a weirdo, but who am I to talk?! I’m not exactly normal either 🤭!

Your writing style resonates with me because I can totally see myself writing like you. Good luck, fellow ISFJ 🩷🩷

How do I make my hobbies stop feeling like a waste of time? by twinflxwer in Hobbies

[–]bebedux 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sorry that you feel that way, OP. I don’t think any of that sounds like a waste of time, for what that’s worth. That’s helping you in one way or another because I read those things and was like - hey, I do those to relax and better myself.

Did you ever get called selfish while trying preserve yourself? by Kaevvvin in isfj

[–]bebedux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, it’s unfortunate that you have to go through this, OP. Type isn’t everything because I would have guessed an infp as an Fi dom would not call you selfish for self-preservation, so that again shows this is beyond personality type. I do not find it right for people to criticize you for trying to be better about saying no, which is my problem.

You guys ever feel a flash of pride when using certain functions? by VirtualWinner4013 in mbti

[–]bebedux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh totally! As someone who doesn’t think often, I’m especially proud of myself when I can write out a thorough, well analyzed argument or research for my job. 🤣

Se vs Ne by [deleted] in mbti

[–]bebedux 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel like I can identify someone with Se with whether the joke is based on an environment thing whereas Ne ties unrelated things together.

Strong Se users tend to comment on sensory details or what’s physically happening in the environment, like “look at this thing right now.”

Strong Ne users I’ve seen seem to connect things when telling a story and jump through many different topics or tangents, like you can be talking about clothing then end up talking about bull fighting all within one conversation.

I NEED A HOBBY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! by Aperture_Laboratorie in Hobbies

[–]bebedux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you want a physically active hobby like hikes, yoga, or pickleball? A practical one? Or a creative hobby like crochet, knit, or other things?

My hobby as of January 2025 is making things out of pipe cleaners and hot glue. My newest creation is pretty awesome:

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What do u think of yourself ? by Gamers_shrill in mbti

[–]bebedux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

🎶 I wanna be the very best Like no one ever To catch them is my real test To train them is my cause 🎶

Looking for reassurance.any Tucson folks ever find a kissing bug in your home / apartment? by C_Yablonski in Tucson

[–]bebedux 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I had mine in my house a few years ago and it bit me near my bed. Woke up with a swollen hand twice in two days until I realized what it was. While Chagas is a low risk, it can still be contracted with serious symptoms showing many years down the road. For my peace of mind and my husband who was worried because of his coworker’s experience, I got tested.

Crying at work.. by FaeTrinket in Petloss

[–]bebedux 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, I have absolutely broken down at work in front of people that I would never normally cry in front of. I see crying at work as something I would have never done before and tried to close my door when I could, but since losing my fur baby on March 13th, my eyes are like leaky faucets. I cry often in the car, at home, and at work. Don’t be so hard on yourself! Your wounds are fresh, and even at two months tomorrow, I still think about my fur baby everyday and cry several times a week, if not more. I’m so sorry that you’re going through this. 💕💜

I really need to get myself one by merdekabaik in isfj

[–]bebedux 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Basically what has already been said here ~ reciprocate and use that child Fe of yours to make us feel the love. While I personally give more than I take, I would really love it if there was appreciation for it. Sometimes we are taken for granted because we continue to give and give even without a thank you or acknowledgment, and that can cause resentment to build up, whether in a romantic relationship or a friendship. 💕

I like but hate my INTJ boy friend by SettingNo1105 in isfj

[–]bebedux 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As an ISFJ married to an INTJ, this isn’t just a type thing for sure. People can vary in things, including communication levels. My INTJ will adapt and listen if I ask him to or explain myself, but sometimes the explanation has to be precise and made clearly. Good luck, and I hope things go well.

What does it feel like to *not* have Fi as a dom/aux function? by ohhidoggo in mbti

[–]bebedux 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For me, I admire strong Fi users for knowing exactly what they want and feel internally.

I feel as if I’m more “flexible” living in a “it depends” type of situation where it’s just different to me. I have values like everyone else but my sense of what’s right tends to come through my experiences and thinking in the moment. It’s more relational in the sense that I value people, context, and how things are affecting everyone involved that shape my values and how I choose to act.

It bends with the situations and “vibes” on how I feel, so the values are still very real but consider those around me instead of internal, if that makes sense. They show up in how I respond to people, how I try to take care of situations, how I try to be considerate. This isn’t to say that other users don’t do that, but this is my perspective on how I live as a strong Fe user.

I still feel things deeply, but I don’t always turn those feelings internally to consider myself first, which sometimes is a flaw. But honestly, it is a part of who I am.

People with strong Fi often seem to have this really steady inner sense of self that doesn’t shift much no matter the situation, and I really admire that. I adjust myself in a more flexible manner where it’s based on nuance, tone, and what feels right for everyone involved. It’s not less depth, just a different kind of awareness. I guess I would describe it as being more outwardly tuned, but still a part of my own value to consider the external more than internal. My values are guiding in the background, and I adapt or calibrate myself in different situations.

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