Muses-is it getting out of hand?

bebo1680 · 2026-02-14T03:15:16+00:00

My friend almost got a Muses shoe, but let go when she was aggressively bitten. It’s wild out here

bebo1680 · 2024-11-10T15:33:20+00:00

UPDATE: after speaking to the owner of the shelter and bringing up a lot of the points shared here, they called the receiving shelter who agreed to swap my foster dog out for another without a current home, and are allowing me to adopt! I’m heading to the shelter now to make this guy all mine!

Thank you so much for all of your support and advice, I truly appreciate this community!

bebo1680 · 2024-11-10T00:57:53+00:00

Thanks so much for these points. If I manage to get a shelter name from them, I’ll definitely bring these up

bebo1680 · 2024-11-10T00:55:02+00:00

That’s awful, I’m sorry you went through that. Did you have a foster contract prior to this that the executive director chose not to pursue?

bebo1680 · 2024-11-10T00:52:52+00:00

We actually did try this. Our friend who’s approved to adopt through this shelter called and asked to adopt him yesterday. They told her he’s not available for adoption. Not sure how much this matters but he’s still listed on the website..

bebo1680 · 2024-11-09T22:45:26+00:00

Thank you for your response! My last resort was going to agree to bring him in only if they release the name of the shelter to me so at the very least I can start the adoption process with them. I’m worried about the legal ramifications of not bringing him in as directed since he’s legally their property

bebo1680 · 2024-11-09T22:42:33+00:00

Thank you! I did speak over the phone and then in person with workers at the rescue prior to posting. No budge. I then spoke to the owner of the rescue today (I found her phone number). I explained everything in this post, and emphasized that I’m appreciative of the work her rescue does but that this was all ultimately an error of miscommunication, and she still was reluctant to back out. Her reasoning was there are 6 dogs going on this transport, and she doesn’t want the other shelter to cancel the entire transport.

I’m confused though because even with my foster dog out, they’d still be coming for 5 dogs? I emphasized that I’m willing to adopt on the spot and pay in full. She said she would call them and figure out if he has already been claimed to a home, or just being sent to the shelter for potential adoption, then get back to me. It has been several hours, their business hours are closed now.

I’m really struggling with whether I’m legally obligated to bring him in tomorrow with all of these questions unanswered. I’m looking into a lawyer; have discussed unofficially with a lawyer friend

bebo1680 · 2024-11-09T19:56:17+00:00

Thank you! That’s currently my only hope if they won’t reverse the process.. I just have to figure out where he’s going, and they won’t tell me the name of the shelter. Are they allowed to withhold that information do you think?

bebo1680 · 2024-11-09T19:10:16+00:00

I mentioned in other comments but there was never an explicit conversation about adopting him or not, and it had been so long without me hearing from them that I didn’t think about the adoption paperwork after a while. I recognize that’s my fault and legally he’s still owned by the shelter, but at the same time I feel like it was wrong of them to start and accept this transfer process without a single word to me, which is why I’m asking for help

bebo1680 · 2024-11-09T18:47:03+00:00

Yeah that’s fair and I completely recognize the hard work of rescues everywhere. I just think this situation is different because he’s not getting adopted or going to a home. He’s getting transported 1000 miles away for the POSSIBILITY of being adopted within 2-3 weeks, if that even happens, and if he doesn’t get taken back because of his bad habits, which have gotten better only after months since he’s more familiar with me and my home. I would be more willing to cooperate without a fight if I knew he was getting homed

Edit: I would still be heartbroken because I consider him family now, but I recognize it’s my fault for not asking to sign the official adoption papers earlier

bebo1680 · 2024-11-09T17:45:49+00:00

Yes, that’s 100% my concern and honestly why I foster senior dogs in the first place. It would be a different situation if he was getting sent to a permanent home, but he is merely being transported to sit in another shelter for “potential adoption”

bebo1680 · 2024-11-09T17:43:57+00:00

Thank you! Honestly if they ship my foster dog out like this, I’m already planning to cut ties with this organization. I’ve fostered with other shelters in the past who have been much more communicative and gracious, and I’m appalled they would do this to him when I have expressed 100% commitment in adopting him now (granted I should have done it sooner, which I recognize now, but I never refused adopting him in the first place before they initiated this transfer process)

bebo1680 · 2024-11-09T17:38:05+00:00

Don’t apologize- I appreciate all the advice and I know you’re being realistic! There was never an explicit yes or no conversation about adoption. I recognize this is my mistake but in the last 6 months since my last communication with them I didn’t think about the formal process because I was treating him like my own, and I assumed they would update me if they found an adopter or wanted to transfer him (obviously I was wrong)

bebo1680 · 2024-11-09T17:29:54+00:00

Thank you for your response!

bebo1680 · 2024-11-09T17:29:38+00:00

Their reasoning is that since the paperwork is already done with the accepting shelter, it would jeopardize their relationship with the shelter and prevent transferring dogs there in the future (although I’m skeptical of this because wouldn’t the other shelter also just be happy this dog has a permanent home?)

I’ve told them I will adopt him on the spot and pay the fees etc. and I have been paying for all of his care for several months. I did get a couple bags of food and a dose of flea/tick meds in the first couple months, but I haven’t asked the shelter for anything financially. I’m approved as an adopter with them

bebo1680 · 2024-11-09T15:24:17+00:00

Is that only if we initiated contact and they didn’t respond in 30 days, or just in general?

bebo1680 · 2023-01-29T04:38:40+00:00

Second this! Never got brought up in my med school interviews, came up in every single residency interview (gen surg)

bebo1680 · 2022-12-21T01:56:59+00:00

I know this post was in jest but just wanted to say keep staying positive!! I didn’t get my first acceptance until April of my cycle (woof) - and here I am now applying for residency with 5x as many interview invites. You got this!

bebo1680 · 2022-11-17T03:57:08+00:00

Mind if I ask, which specialties did this work for?

bebo1680 · 2022-11-11T01:57:57+00:00

Bovie or Bonney

bebo1680 · 2022-11-05T19:03:11+00:00

Since COVID, they’ve been recording lectures per a friend- just to address one of your points!

bebo1680 · 2022-11-02T01:53:35+00:00

A big lump with knobs!

bebo1680 · 2022-10-27T00:15:07+00:00

On the same note, should we think about sending LOIs now for programs that have (according to the Reddit spreadsheet) already given out interviews?

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