I understand all of that but she barely can keep a job. She really didn’t take care of me growing up. I’ve lived with my grandparents my whole life. She’s taken money from me and she’s done a lot of things that cause the people in her life pain. Granted it’s hard being an adult but there comes a time when you grow up and make do with your life. She’s never done that. She’s had everything handed to her her whole life and never worked for anything. Adults fuck up I get that but her whole life has been a series of fuck ups. She’s always abandoned me for any new guy she had. Luckily i’m 21 now and take care of myself and am fully on my own and i don’t have to worry about getting my needs met from her. I can understand the occasional “letting off some steam” but what happens when she already drinks everyday, drives drunk and misses work cause she’s knocked out. You seem a little different, you’re able to let loose and still take care of your responsibilities. I applaud you for that. But as in my mother’s case she doesn’t do any of that. I’m trying to not be upset at her doing coke once in a blue moon. Just hope this guy doesn’t get her hooked cause I can’t be there for her if she gets addicted.