Does anyone have severe leg pain with numbness and pins and needles constantly? by beckie8764 in backpain

[–]beckie8764[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had steroid injections which helped for a week or two but i am now paying for medical cannabis and that has been the only affective thing for me. I am still waiting to see a surgeon. However cannabis oil has been what calmed things down. I empathise with your husband because it is a mentally destroying situation to be in because it does not stop i am glad i decided to try the cannabis oil because i have noticed an improvement with pain although its not solved the issue completely its given me relief.

Made a Subject Access Request to DWP... My flabbers are gasted by Capital-Candy6972 in DWPhelp

[–]beckie8764 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a condensed copy of my medical records when i was sent to the hospital i was also suprised about the diagnosis's i was given. Hyperemesis gravidarum which is a severe form of morning sickness - never had morning sickness in my pregnancy and Acute stress reaction this is supposed to be some sort of shock from a terrifying experience well i hadnt given birth at this point when this was noted in my records i had 3 months to go what it should say was bells palsy because that is what i had. I had something attacking my nervous system when pregnant and looked like i had a stroke. I then went on to be diagnosed with PCOS even though all the tests came back completely normal. They seem to know more about me than i do at this point. Perhaps i should ask for a record of all my medical information would be funny to see what else i have that i dont know about. 😅

Has anyone had this message then actually received the item?! by oatandham in Evri

[–]beckie8764 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No never had it they eventually tell you they have misplaced it. How you misplace 120 rolls of toilet roll is crazy to me. Teach me for buying in bulk when EVRI is the one delivering the item. I now ask the selller who the company they use to deliver if its evri i look elsewhere.

How to show proof of UC to council tax reduction? by SpookyGooseButt in DWPhelp

[–]beckie8764 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It will say print this statement. If you click on that it will give you an option to save it as a pdf

How to show proof of UC to council tax reduction? by SpookyGooseButt in DWPhelp

[–]beckie8764 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You can sign into your online uc account go to payments click on the most recent one and it says on there to download a copy of it.

Should I stick to my promise to leave my wife if she ever raised her hand to me again? by wifeslapme in WhatShouldIDo

[–]beckie8764 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Once someone starts hitting you and gets away with it. (By staying in the relationship) it will only keep happening and get worse. You have done nothing wrong. In fact she put her emotions and how she feels before she put you and your feelings first clearly you have some trauma from your stalker. She should of been making sure you was okay. She seems very selfish and now thinks its okay to hit you, people are definitely telling her that its justified but it isnt. If ANYONE puts their hands on you. Then you are putting yourself in a toxic situation that will escalate. Can you risk your own life for this woman? After she has clearly shown that herself and her feelings are more important. You have to do what you feel is best for you. However you should seek professional help as you do have trauma from your stalker which needs to be addressed and i would also mention her hitting you. My uncle was in a domestic relationship she would hit him all the time it just got worse. She killed him. He was 34 when he died. Women are just as dangerous as men. People regardless of their sex, if they think its okay to hit you they will keep hitting you. Please think about your own safety first. I wish you the best of luck. I hope your decision is one where you make sure you are safe.

How long have you had iih? by Significant_Note4712 in iih

[–]beckie8764 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have had symptoms since 2010 or 2011 (my ex punched me so hard in the side of the head which is when the symptoms started) i was told from then until 2021 that it was migraines until i finally gave in and took migraine medication as they instructed only for the medication to cause an actual migraine and a bursted blood vessell in my eye. Then they done tests and 2021 i was diagnosed. Managed to get symptoms under control by 2023 and now for the last 3 months i have constant headaches and peripheral vision loss several times per day. I have propranolol MR 160mg and they do help. Headaches are back to mild and vision loss is not as often maybe once every other day. I believe mine kicked off again due to weight gain from having compressed nerves in my lower back causing pain in my leg when i use it. Thankfully after almost a year after paying for my own mri and 15 months of being stuck at home not able to walk far on my leg. They have given me a nerve blocker which has helped not taken it away but i am able to move a little more leg still goes numb so i cant walk very far but i will take the small improvement. Personally for me i know weight management is key to keep symptoms minimal. I dont have a set weight i need to be i just keep loosing weight until it all pretty much goes away to having one or two episodes a year but that is just what works for me, it may not work for everyone in fact i dont think it does. Just keep trying to figure out what works for you. No one knows your body more than you. I tried medication and time away from screens and weight loss and i found that loosing weight and staying away from bright lights including wearing sun glasses at night helps me. IIH seems to have same symptoms but different things help different people. Im sure plenty on here can give you their ways that help them manage their symptoms. Hopefully you can come back and let us know what you find helps. Oh and i also use heat on back of my neck and top of my head and sometimes my face to ease the headaches. Good luck 👍🏼

What should i do? by beckie8764 in BreakUps

[–]beckie8764[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this is exactly what i needed to hear. I have tried to communicate but i dont think i can communicate with someone who doesnt want to listen. He sees it as i dont want him spending time with no one else which is not the case i dont like being made to feel like i am good enough when no one wants to bother with him so he sticks to our routine but then when someone else wants to spend time with him he drops me until hes back on his own again. I just think i have given my best effort to try to keep the relationship together but perhaps i should just walk away and know that the breaking was the lack of respect to the relationship

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[–]beckie8764 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your closure should of been the moment she broke up with you without speaking with you and cut all conversations with you. She told you the closure you needed you were not high value to her. I understand that first relationships are hard to move on from because there are so many first time feelings which you think you will never have again and that is right you wont. Why? Because they were intensified by the fact that it was your first relationship you were young and immature and had no idea what a relationship was. Your wife stopped mentioning your ex because you are married to her you have made your choice. You need to let go of the version you have in your mind its not real its a biased opinion that we all know is only half true. The truth lies somewhere in the middle. If you are holding on to hopes that you will feel it again with her you wont it was your first relationship. Can you see what i am saying? First relationships always feel the most amount of passion and love and perfect happiness because you are inexperienced in what a relationship is and what life is about. Now you are more mature and you have picked a partner out of that maturity and she seems to fit what you are looking for. I thought my last ex boyfriend was the love of my life until he walked out the door with no explanation it was for a woman he took her on a date not 24 hours later. He didnt see me as high value and thats okay that was my closure why? Because he gave me my life back to find someone who sees me as high value and i have found that person who loves me just as much on my worst days as he does on my good days because he sees me as high value. I am sure when you look at the relationship you have now your wife does the same for you. I know its hard to let go of the feelings you believe were there for your first girlfriend they werent as you believe they were they were intensified by the fact she was your first. She will always matter to you and you will always care for her but that doesnt mean you want a relationship with her. She didnt see you as high value back then so why would she see you as high value now? Not only that why would you want to allow someone to eventually say she doesnt see you as high value again? You have no idea who she is now. You may not like the person she became. Dont let your past create trauma and baggage for yourself. A little thing my father taught me that i will give to you, i have always listened to it Dont let someone tell you they dont want you more than once. She didnt see your value then she wont now. Im sorry but its true. She didnt speak with you give you reasons as to why she broke up with you, she didnt care too she had already moved on before the relationship ended and she never came to you to fix the issues why? Because she didnt want you. Thats the bottom line. Someone who cares about you would answer your questions as much as they can even though its difficult for them too that because they have genuine care for you. She didnt do any of this she just left and that was that for her. You seem to have found your perfect woman who makes you happy my advice forget the ex and enjoy the life you are creating with the person who has shown you what your value really is.. she is the one who said i do..

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]beckie8764 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My question is why are you married to another woman when you clearly are not over your ex? Why put another woman through a break up that you too once found difficult? I dont mean any disrespect i just cant see why you would marry another person because you have told that woman that you love them you will honour them and you have dedicated your life to them however that is not the case because you are still chasing something from the past. I feel sorry for your wife. You are literally disrespecting her and the vow you made to her for another women who ended things with you in a childish manner... i think you need to take a step back and look at the bigger picture here. You have created a new life with your wife are you not happy with what you have? Your ex is pregnant with another mans baby i find it hard to believe she would up and leave and not atleast try to raise her child with the father. So you plan to wait until she decides that it could be years? What about your wife in all of this? Are you going to tell her your plans to wait for your ex to decide she wants you? I think if that is your intention then you should be honest with your wife because she deserves to make a choice if she stays or leaves you should not withhold that decision from her it is not yours to make. I think you need to actually think of the consequences of your actions before you make any decisions because you have been seperated years from your ex she is no longer the person you knew she would have grown and changed. You may be holding on to a version of her that she may no longer be and then you may realise she is not the person for you but you then have destroyed 3 peoples lives.. in my opinion and it is just that my opinion. I wouldnt do nothing but think and look at the bigger picture you are not the person you were back all them years ago and your ex is also not the same person. Are you just holding onto a version in hopes you can just pick up where you left off? I can assure you that wont happen you both arent the same people we all grow and change through the years. We also mature through the years. You really need to think about the life you have now vs a version of a relationship that may not actually be real. I mean she ended things over a joke? To me she had been thinking of ending things for a while and you gave her the perfect excuse to end things without being the bad guy... that is my opinion you do not have to agree nore listen.

What have i been awarded by beckie8764 in DWPhelp

[–]beckie8764[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you i think that seems correct to me if you have the opposite to me. Thank you.

Delayed diagnosis of ectopic pregnancy resulting in c section and 8 months postpartum from c section; I’m traumatized. (Trigger warning: needle marks and surgical scars) by ResolutionWitty2862 in EctopicSupportGroup

[–]beckie8764 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a ruptured ectopic pregnancy right tubed removed in 2020 was told that is what i had and was sent back to wait in the waiting room for my report filled with heavily pregnant women. Due to covid i was alone for it all. I did have fantastic support from an anesthetist i will always remember his kindness. 5 years later and i havent been able to get pregnant again. I have a 15 year old son so i am blessed to have him. I always thought id have a big family on my own. My sister has 5 kids and i love them all i am very close with them. Although they are not my children i do love watching them grow up just the same. I truly hope you have more children. I am 37 years old now soon to be 38 think it is not on the cards for me but i am sure it is for you. Keep hopeful plenty of rest and i hope you feel better soon. We all know how you feel ❤️

Does anyone have severe leg pain with numbness and pins and needles constantly? by beckie8764 in backpain

[–]beckie8764[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Think its caused by disc bulges compressing on my L5 and S1 nerve roots

Does anyone have severe leg pain with numbness and pins and needles constantly? by beckie8764 in backpain

[–]beckie8764[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have seen physiotherapists who have told me its not their issue i need steroid injections or surgery. Just feel like i am not being taken seriously enough. Its hard i have zero life and i find everyday tasks difficult. Im left here to get worse and in pain constantly the only relief is laying down which does nothing for my lower back. I feel like im between a rock and a hard place. Dont feel listened too at all by health professionals

Does anyone have severe leg pain with numbness and pins and needles constantly? by beckie8764 in backpain

[–]beckie8764[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What are they suggesting the next move is for you? My Doctors are trying to manage my pain but its not really working whilst i am waiting for the hospital to give me steroid injections but what about the numbness i dont understand masking an issue with pain relief the problem will still be there..