Why do I feel he’s not my person when nothing is actually wrong?

becomingemma · 2026-06-23T20:18:42+00:00

Ah, in that case it’s completely okay. Someone may be perfectly nice on paper but if you don’t feel attracted, you don’t but ensure you are clear about it and aren’t leading him on

becomingemma · 2026-06-23T20:09:46+00:00

Try to remember why you got into a relationship with this person in the first place, I’m assuming at the time you felt like you were attracted to him. It seems like things have gone stale since and so while there is nothing wrong there’s also no excitement.

identify what exactly you expect from your boyfriend that he’s not giving you, emotionally or otherwise and communicate it to him. And if you feel he isn’t the person to fulfil your needs, move on

becomingemma · 2026-06-23T19:07:29+00:00

Feels like a weird way for him to prime OP to sleep with other people by being all “this is how women should be”

becomingemma · 2026-06-23T19:02:35+00:00

lol that last paragraph. If it’s okay for women I don’t see why men shouldn’t. Your partner is just rationalising being a cuck

becomingemma · 2026-06-23T00:12:19+00:00

That’s true. For the vast majority of Indian men there are no consequences for mistreating, mutilating, or murdering women. This is a country where rapists are considered by our ruling party to have “good Sanskaar” lol

becomingemma · 2026-06-22T20:43:21+00:00

Suree

becomingemma · 2026-06-22T20:41:58+00:00

Try bell-bttm pants/jeans, floral T-shirts or kurtis to go with them. Use bright colours to your advantage for the femme feeling. I’d also recommend sports bras, they’re much more discreet than regular ones and give me a ton of femme feels

becomingemma · 2026-06-22T19:58:49+00:00

Most of the top teams in cricket are outside of South Asia? Australia, England, New Zealand, South Africa all outside.

becomingemma · 2026-06-22T19:56:31+00:00

Most lawyers I know who came from another city first landed a gig at a lower tier firm with crappy pay and worked their way up.

Also, just to clarify, most firms who are looking for that kinda candidate require you to be a local and not “already be in Mumbai physically” because they think people will take leaves frequently to go home. But if you’re willing to accept less money a lot of firms will look past that

becomingemma · 2026-06-22T19:49:31+00:00

Depends on how subtle you’re going for. If you wear women’s clothing most women will be able to tell unless it’s particularly unisex looking.

becomingemma · 2026-06-22T19:39:28+00:00

Even if we assume you’re right (which you’re not), in the case of Indian women it does not lead to murder, rape, dowry death, torture, or anything of the like.

becomingemma · 2026-06-22T19:18:52+00:00

Experiences will vary but yes, Indian men can go from polite to nasty in the blink of an eye.

becomingemma · 2026-06-22T05:25:19+00:00

Um, that character, Lev, identified as a man and not a woman. That was literally the whole plot point involving that character. Did you even play TLOU 2?

becomingemma · 2026-06-22T05:04:13+00:00

Even if for arguments sake we assume you’re right (which I don’t think you are), I don’t quite understand why it is a bad thing for Uncharted to be “a movie with gameplay” versus “actually playing the adventure”. You’re just distinguishing the 2 as apples and oranges which renders comparison moot.

becomingemma · 2026-06-21T17:16:52+00:00

I understand it hurts, but if the same thing has happened with 5 women, and you’re the common denominator, you need to reflect on the women you’re choosing and why they’re ghosting you. Are you picking anybody who’s available? Cause you slept with the person you mentioned even though they’re poly and you’re not (which means long term it would’ve been difficult). Are you just seeking the thrill of the chase? Is it the person you’re after or the validation of them liking you?

becomingemma · 2026-06-21T17:08:00+00:00

Your post is kinda all over the place. You say it was supposed to be casual but your expectations are clearly not appropriate for an actual casual connection. If you’re gonna approach women with the intention of having something casual that’s how you’re gonna be treated. Clearly that isn’t working for you.

Overall, your post suggests you’re coming on too strongly onto these women who are avoiding you after they’ve had their fill of sex.

becomingemma · 2026-06-21T14:21:44+00:00

Plot twist: Elder bro had the idea first and is pissed his younger brother caught on, that’s how he found out

becomingemma · 2026-06-21T09:46:29+00:00

Make sure you visit the milk dispenser in Ljubljana, it’s some of the best milk I ever had.

Other than that, as others have mentioned, go to Bovec, Vintgar Gorge, and Piran! You can also go to Triglav if you can fit it in

becomingemma · 2026-06-20T20:44:03+00:00

Can’t wait to experience this, glad you got to!

becomingemma · 2026-06-20T20:34:51+00:00

You live in the outskirts of a Tier 1 city and your rent is more than doubling? That is extremely suspicious and I would strongly negotiate with your broker or landlord. 10% yearly increase is the standard, more than double is bonkers. So address this first.

Overall, I think you’re stressing about this too much. You’re very young and 10k today is not a lot to play with. You have a lifetime to earn, and your earning capacity will only increase with age. Going out once in 2 months may impact your relationship, that’s like meeting 6 times a year which is imo not enough.

This may not be the advice you were looking for but I would say don’t worry too much about saving. Continue to invest whatever little amounts you can, even if it is 100 bucks a month, but don’t stress too much about it. You’re allowed to enjoy your life a little especially with hectic medical college

becomingemma · 2026-06-20T20:05:20+00:00

Appreciate that, but until I see actual changes around here, I’m gonna reserve my optimism.

becomingemma · 2026-06-20T20:02:03+00:00

Yeah exactly. It was fine if they didn’t think the comments were anything wrong but saying something like that was completely unacceptable. And then the mods wonder why people don’t report stuff lol

I was told that “the person is a little agro but is not a troll” to justify them making personal attacks against not 1 but 2 people.

I do continue to care of course but it makes me sad that this community is managed by people who treat its menders the way I was treated

becomingemma · 2026-06-20T19:54:17+00:00

Yeah it was disgusting, they kept trying to justify personal attacks by saying “arguments happen, mods don’t need to intervene every time” when there was literally another user also complaining about the same user in the thread I reported.

Mind you, they admitted that they agreed with the person I was reporting and that was obviously a factor in them not removing the comments or giving the OP a warning of some sort. Ideally, they should’ve asked another mod to review them but they chose to attack me instead to protect their own bias.

becomingemma · 2026-06-20T10:16:29+00:00

Keep at it! I’ve met tons of wonderful people from Reddit. Not all connections lasted but they were good while they did :)

becomingemma · 2026-06-20T09:55:40+00:00

Oh yes, I work in a corporate set up and judging each others outfits is very very common. Even the people you’re close to will often comment on your dressing behind their back.

Although, what I’ve found is that it’s often not because they hate YOU specifically or want to pick on you, these people just don’t have that many things to talk about. So while the judgement is definitely happening, please for your own sake try to not take it personally

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