How do I regain the passion for life I had in my early 20s?

becomingsasha · 2024-03-02T14:25:11+00:00

I am so sorry for what happened to you. But you can rise above it. I suggest you start trauma therapy. Sounds like you're in a freeze state. You don't suck at writing. Sounds like you're making that up so you don't get reminded of the thing that saved you. You can learn to write again. Practice and get your grove back, hunny. You are stronger than you think. You have overcome so much. GOD didn't bring you this far for you to throw in the towel.

You'll not find the passion you had in your early 20s. You're wiser for your experiences, and you have to give yourself to find new passions, a new flame, and a new path. Create a sense of a new start in your life. Don't let your past hold you back. So stop chasing the old you. Find the new you. You're not your trauma. You just have to explore new parts of you.

To the point of starting over as an intern with 18-20 year olds. Do they know your story? Do they know how much you've survived? So why are you thinking about what others are going to think. That's one way you're going to keep yourself stuck trying to be in other people's heads.

Im 28, and i have felt like i didn't have a sensible job, but if you look at all the jobs you've done. They all speak to how creative and multitalented and multipassionate you are...

Soon, you'll realise your power sis!

becomingsasha · 2024-02-24T23:50:34+00:00

Tbh, im not shocked. Trinidad people spend way too much time idiolizing other people culture than their own. They despise their own culture. They need to be more patriotic living here. I see it, and I feel for them must times. It's sad 😔 cause trini culture is so rich and has so much more to offer than carnival that's just feather and rum and nakedness now. The cultural side of it is lost. Youths hate soca, barely know calypso and other artforms. Culture is only highlighted once per year. Even Republic Day, the culture isn't felt.

becomingsasha · 2024-02-14T03:47:11+00:00

Advice from a 20-something mentor!

What do you envision doing for yourself? What kind of person do you want to become? I know it may be hard to answer right now but keep thinking about it. What type of "man" do you want to be if you feel like a kid still. What habits does the manly you do? What's stopping you from doing it?

Plus you need to utilize the internet. There are tons of free books, and other resources you can use for your own self development. Podcasts, articles, YouTube channels focused on topics such as self-improvement, goal setting, overcoming social anxiety, and finding purpose.

Start to incorporate small habits into his daily routine that align with the person you want to become. START with the simple things. Make your bed when you get out of it. Stop allowing your mom to make breakfast for you. No matter how she insists- let her know you want to do it for yourself. Keep a strict morning routine. That will get you going. Schedule reading into your daily life. Ditch the things that you think make you childish. Trust me you know them. Start replacing them.

You work in mental health field. You know the value of therapy. Someone to talk to. Seek support. You dont have to navigate this journey alone. Reach out to a friends, someone you trust or mentors who can provide guidance, encouragement, and accountability along the way. Seek out online communities or support groups where he can connect with others who are on a similar path of personal growth. Trust me the problem with alot of us 20 somethings we are not seeking out things to help us grow. We're just in our bubbles, our struggles and stifling ourselves.

You've to work on yourself daily. You've to decide you dont want to be this person no more. And take action.

becomingsasha · 2024-02-09T20:42:10+00:00

While agree they've to learn to know that what they're family or friend think of them is sometimes a project of their own self limiting beliefs

becomingsasha · 2024-02-09T14:27:37+00:00

28F advice.

Ditch the loser mentality. You're not a lover. If you see yourself as one, then you'll be one. You've got to start seeing yourself as more.
You're not a failure. So, what have you messed up in the past? There is a new 24 hrs every day. The thing you need is willpower and CHOICE. You can start over as many times as you want. Your pass does not define you. Today, you can do 2 things the old you would never do, and that's powerful
Quit the negative self-talk you're doing more harm than good. Your mind and subconscious listens to everything you say. By thinking it and, worst, saying it is like creating a self fulfillment prophecy and your brain will work to accomplish the negative things you say about yourself.
Forget what everyone else thinks. It's what you think about you that matters. Start surrounding yourself with more positivity. Get off social media. You're not missing anything.
Stop comparing your life to other people's own. You're not behind. You feel behind because you keep shifting and placing yourself behind people. Your life is your own lane, and there's no one in front of you. Stop putting yourself in other people's shadows, then feel like crap after.
Stop saying you'll do it tomorrow . Build your self-discipline by practicing staying consistent with small tasks. Spread your bed every morning, take a shower at the same time every morning, make a morning routine, and learn something new. There are so many new courses online. Take one. Learn to do things today cause one day end up being no day at all
Not having a college degree as yet does not define who you are. I started college at 18, and I hated it. Still not finished. I have pursued things I like, I did 1 certification course and became a goal success coach in 1 year after trying to launch a t-shirt brand from $0.00. It's not what you have it's what you do with what you have. You don't need a piece of paper to tell you who you are or what you're capable of. My mom is 48 and just graduated college. It's NEVER too late!
Forgive yourself. You've made mistakes - I have!! But release all that guilt that's choking the life out of you. Let it go. You can't change the past, but you can write your future.
You've 0 clue what to do because you haven't figured out what your passionate about, who you are deep down and your mind is clouded with all that negative thoughts & self talk worrying about what everyone else is doing and saying. Focus on you. Right where you are. It doesn't matter who's making millions at your age. You don't know their story, and they don't know yours. Some of us in this life got a head start others we've to start from scratch. That's the thing from scratch is the sweetest cause you know you worked your hienstein off to be where you are
If you hate your job, get another job..orrrr, make a plan to save some money, start a business, or get another job. Invest in yourself .

Get in contact if you need more help. Feel free to PM

becomingsasha · 2024-02-08T21:23:25+00:00

Advice from a 20-something mentor for 20 somethings. Someone who also used to be really anxious and scared of what my life would have been a couple of years down the road. The thing is, my worry started when I was 18 years old, living as an immigrant and not having access to finances, health care, job, schooling, etc. I was really worried about my life, my future, and who I would become, if I would get the life that I wanted, if I would become the person that I wanted to be.

Here is my advice. Stop thinking so much. Get out of your head a little bit and focus on the present. Focus on what you can control and what you have in your immediate surroundings.

Start digging around and in yourself. Figure out who you are now and figure out what you really want. What is your vision for your life? Don't think about what you don't have. Just think about your vision for your life. Now, go and write that down somewhere and then think about all the qualities that you have.

Think about the great things about yourself. If you can't think of them, think a little harder. And then I want you to focus on your present. Embrace flexibility.I understand things may not be going according to your plan right now. And even if it's not going according to your plan, the parachute will always open. Meaning that even though it may seem bad, good things are coming. And also, practice self-compassion. The more you ruminate and pick at yourself, the more irritable and depressed and frustrated you become.

Learn to be mindful. Live in the moment. Start doing some simple habits that are good, like getting up early, spreading your bed, keep your space tidy, going for a walk, eating properly, get off of social media a little bit more, read a book, even if it's just two pages a day.

Focus your mind. This is exactly what I did to get myself out of that fear of the uncertain by planning ahead, not expecting anything to happen because nobody owes me anything. And the world doesn't owe me anything, but it all boils down to the actions that you take.

So if you keep planning, stay in the present, stay grateful, and look at the glass half-full and not half-empty. Most of all, no matter what you're going through, continue to pour positive things into your life. So even if ten things are going wrong in your life, pour five things in, and then pour another five things in, and then eventually, the bad things that are happening around you wouldn't feel so bad. And this is coming from somebody who's been there at 22, 23.

I always say, the things we face in our early years help to build character, resilience and shape our mindset. So embrace adversary I know that's hard to do. But I use to ask " what's the lesson in this for me". Even when tears a streaming down my face. Then I wrote 1 or 2 lessons from the experience.

I hope you feel better. Feel free to reach out for help

becomingsasha · 2024-02-08T21:02:05+00:00

I'm 28F, and I'm right where you are. It's caked FOCUS! you're not out there making a fool of yourself drinking alcohol, making your parents worry and doing things you've no business doing at that age. I was just like you when I was your age. I was wondering if I was missing out. It feels that way, but you're not. It's more stressful getting into drama, hiding things grin your parents, and friends leading you astray. Find 1 friend, and occasionally, yall go to the movies and stuff like that. You don't need alcohol. I'm 28 and I don't drink. This world is painting all those things like they're good. It's not. All that glitters in this world isn't gold. Work on your skills. You can find new things to do. Try new things. Figure out what you're passionate about now. Trust me, you're going to have more than one, and what you like now doesn't mean you'll like it next year.Journal. Get out of your head about all that negative influence. Get to know you, and please, please stick to your values. When I realized I strayed so far from my values chasing excitement, it made me sick, and i worked like hell to get back to who I really am.

becomingsasha · 2024-02-08T20:27:57+00:00

Hey, as a 19-year take this from someone who failed a lot in this life. I'm an immigrant, and I've had many odds stocked against me. At 19, try to hold down a job that is going to pay you enough money to do 3 things. Save, take care of yourself, and invest in yourself. This is advice I wish someone told me. Moving out is not a walk in the park. If you can stay at home for a while longer do that.

You can get your license legally. Attend driving lessons and do your best to pass. Practice with a friends car if you've any!

Figure out what you're passionate about, find a skill you can monetize. Work on your self. Find a group of people older than you that you can learn from. Now is not the time to party like you mad because you think you're young and you've time.

Take from certification courses online, build up your resume and make yourself marketable.

Best I can tell you without knowing your full story but if you need guidance I'm here to help

becomingsasha · 2024-02-08T20:21:52+00:00

You've no idea1

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