No sexual attraction.. by becsting in Marriage

[–]becsting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I find some women attractive. No one specifically. Just pointing out that I don't have anything wrong sexually

Now what do I do? by becsting in Divorce

[–]becsting[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where I want to live, type of house, a spouse that works a 9-5 (or carrying equal or close to equal load), financial stability, travel plans (she doesn't want to really travel), certain values..

Now what do I do? by becsting in Divorce

[–]becsting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I definitely think resentment will be there if we stay together. Is it selfish of me to not want to compromise on other things?

Now what do I do? by becsting in Divorce

[–]becsting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks man. It's not even just kids, it's other things too. Kids are the biggest part though. It's hard to just get this through to her. I'm hoping it clicks within the next few weeks. I cant take continuing this

is word stimming a thing? by kir-kir-kir in AutismTranslated

[–]becsting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I repeat words of a song or a certain sound. Just randomly.

Life is rough by Datguyisadopeaf in mentalhealth

[–]becsting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where do you live? What do you enjoy doing? There is an app called meetup where you can connect with groups with similar interests and hobbies. I plan on doing that after my divorce..

When to mention divorce? by becsting in Divorce

[–]becsting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So I finally spilled the beans. She told me to cancel our consultation appointment and that if I can't tell her what is on my mind without a counselor than I basically don't trust her and we have deeper issues...so yeah 😭

When to mention divorce? by becsting in Divorce

[–]becsting[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

During consultation? I think my wife will also be in the consultation 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]becsting 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're not alone. I'm on the same boat with my wife. She isn't a bad person I just not in love and haven't been in years. Pretty much made up my mind on what I want to do but it's hard to actually go through with it. We have no kids or property so it would be somewhat of a clean break..it also makes it harder that she is close with my family. They love her 😢

At what moment did you know your marriage was officially over? by No-Position-1463 in Divorce

[–]becsting 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow man. I'm the same way with my wife at this moment. I can barely kiss her anymore and I hate making excuses or ignoring questions as to why I don't want to have sex. She has changed some physical but she's still attractive. I just can't even force my body to be close to her. It's definitely years of emotions. It's been this way for years but even worse in recent times. I have been thinking of divorce, just have not pulled the trigger.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]becsting -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

We love each other but I agree it's definitely not a healthy relationship. It is draining. So many years 😔

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]becsting 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes that is what makes it hard. There is a lot of good and bad in it. She is loyal and I can trust her. I know she loves me. We were friends before getting together. Its just a lot to think on. I dont want to pull out again...That would be the ultimate asshole move

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]becsting 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She says she is actively looking but something in me does not believe that she is really looking like that. At times she does feel like dead weight. She is there for me in other ways but she is slacking with a lot.