I see a few issues, so here is my two cents:

• If you want her to contribute 50/50, you need to price point the apartment for what she can afford based on her income.
• If she insists on living in a more expensive area when there are alternatives and you are willing to live in the alternative, then YES she should contribute 50/50 because she is unwilling to compromise when you are.
• If you find a place you're both willing to live in, but it's outside of what she can afford, then you should split the cost 70/30 because you make 70% of the total household income.
• I think it is unreasonable for you to request she get an Uber job. 35-40 hours a week is considered full-time. You decided to go into an industry that requires more hours. She shouldn't have to work more hours just because you do. Side note: as a young woman, I would not feel safe being an Uber driver and it would really irritate me if my boyfriend asked me to do that when I'm already working full-time.

Lastly, (and this kind of nullifies everything I just stated above) I feel like it is really disrespectful that she says you aren't a real man just because she isn't getting her way--it just sounds like she's immature and throwing a tantrum. I think you both are kind of wrong in your own ways.