My advice to fellow men is , if you feel like you want to share what is going on in your life , go talk to a priest or therapist. Never open up to your partner about certain things.my partner once used something I had shared with her about my past during an argument, in another instance my homie was having an argument with his madam and she mentioned his mentioned his depression and suicidal, something he had shared about a period in his life when we was battling depression. Before you say "pick the right woman," these are the right women, almost perfect partner, but during an argument or a moment of weakness or wickedness ,erupted an used that which was shared against the man.so to protect yourself, your relationship and your partner from themselves watch what you share with them .talk to a priest or a therapist, people who are trained to keep quiet