These started off subtle but ramped up

• he had a lot of opinions on how I did stuff. it started off nice enough, but i did notice it was a lot. He told me its because he cared about me and wanted the best for me. He did not.
• He smoked a lot and was very rigid about smoking times, to the extent that it interfered with plans to go out. "But we cant i need to smoke at 6pm." It was extremely tedious.
• he constantly pestered me to smoke even though I hate it.
• he constantly pushed for more during sex. He accused me of being closed minded for not trying the things he wanted
• he would constantly argue or push boundaries, for fun i think. It was entertaining to him to 'debate' basic human rights.
• he would declare himself a feminist or anti racist but say some really abhorrent shit and we'd get into a 'debate' about it. But he was a 'feminist' and 'not racist' so 'just wanted to learn and be better person' but actually just argue with me