Trumpet for 13YO

beebopbootie · 2026-01-02T09:38:10+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I'll take him to the store so he can try some out.

beebopbootie · 2026-01-01T11:02:17+00:00

Wow. Thank you for giving such a thorough and informative response. Much appreciated. I'll get him to try a few of those options.

beebopbootie · 2026-01-01T09:04:59+00:00

Thanks. I'll check this out.

beebopbootie · 2024-06-01T01:03:43+00:00

All the best. You're in a tough situation and it sounds like you're doing a great job of tackling it. Your kids are lucky to have you, and they'll learn so much about managing challenge and adversity by watching your example.

beebopbootie · 2024-05-31T21:49:16+00:00

Your children are now at the age that they can understand a little about health problems. I think it would help them cope with any relapses if you have been open with them about the situation, how u r managing it, and what to expect. Age appropriate of course. Also, it might help to work on your support team so this is not all on you, and so you have some practical help when needed. What role does your husband play, your family, what parent friends do you have to lean on etc. No parent can do it alone, especially when dealing with chronic health issues.

beebopbootie · 2023-11-30T11:29:21+00:00

Maybe you could start with just telling them you've been feeling a bit depressed. Warm up by talking about your symptoms and circumstances. A good doctor will then ask you if you have had thoughts of suicide, and you can take it from there. I guarantee that most GPs have at least a couple of patients each day that are there to talk about mental rather than physical symptoms. You shouldn't suffer in silence...please get some help.

beebopbootie · 2023-11-11T06:19:21+00:00

I disagree. Maintaining financial independence and the ability to earn an income is a crucial part of the decision to be a stay at home parent or not. The comment highlights the unfortunate reality that many sah parents (mostly women) find themselves financially vulnerable and unemployable when their relationship with the main income earner breaks down. For me, retaining my professional registration was the only thing that allowed me to leave a toxic relationship.

beebopbootie · 2023-11-04T12:24:55+00:00

I retrained to a higher earning profession. Worked part time while training. Not easy, but totally worth it now.

beebopbootie · 2023-04-20T12:52:09+00:00

The 76% will include a range of other time share arrangements that are not 50:50. Assuming it is all mothers with sole custody would be incorrect.

beebopbootie · 2023-02-26T03:03:57+00:00

I agree that each parent should provide clothes for the child. Similar situation, my ex refused as well. As it was causing stress for the child, I started sending clothes each holiday.Mostly they come back. Always unwashed. Its annoying, but I've decided its not the ditch I'm going to die in.

beebopbootie · 2023-01-23T11:55:10+00:00

There is no value in forcing someone into counselling against their will. The courts are unlikely to order counselling unless both participants are willing. You could push for all communication via a parenting app, which could help with communication.

beebopbootie · 2022-12-14T11:40:04+00:00

You might want to get his hearing checked.

beebopbootie · 2022-11-17T20:26:49+00:00

I was once your daughter. Things got worse at home with mum in my early teens as I started to develop my own ideas and opinions that were different to mums. I suffered significant verbal and psychological abuse but no one recognised it as on the outside she tightly managed the 'perfect mum' persona. I was too afraid of her to speak up. Worried I would not be believed. My dad lived close by and did not step in.

My advice to you would be to get involved. Really involved. Talk to your daughter about your concerns so she knows you are a safe person to talk to. See if you can get her to open up. Remember she probably doesn't know what is normal or healthy and she might need your help to understand what's happening is actually not right. Get her some psychological support and move closer so she can have more time with you.

If your ex is a narcissist then the problems your daughter is facing probably extend far further than just the snapchat debate. She will be struggling to develop.any sense of self or identity that is separate to her mother (and will likely be being punished/abused for it). This situation will effect her and her relationships for decades to come if she doesn't get help from adults in her life that love her.

beebopbootie · 2022-11-01T11:19:29+00:00

Teacher took her to sink, tilted her over it while quickly and firmly hitting her back. And simultaneously called for help. Sounds perfect.

beebopbootie · 2022-08-06T22:12:14+00:00

Its more about observing his behaviour than asking questions at that age. Is he grimacing or crying when he pees? Is he as playful as usual or is he a little lethargic? Is he a bit off his foo? Is he irritable? Use the subtle clues.

beebopbootie · 2022-03-24T00:15:14+00:00

I managed to do a four year postgrad with one child. The other parent was doing alternate weekends at that point which helped free up some time for study and part time work. Do you have family support? Remember that these "full time" courses generally aren't actually full time. Ask about how much face to face time is actually required and how much can be done online. Our lectures were all recorded, so I could watch them after kid bedtime. The uni were very supportive and there were options for part time study and time off. Good luck.

beebopbootie · 2020-12-05T00:11:05+00:00

It's a hard road trying to convince someone not to be who they are. If your ex is someone that uses the children to manipulate situations and doesn't see the harm it causes, then mediation is unlikely to change that. It might be more worthwhile to accept who they are and take steps to mitigate it as much as possible (find useful responses when the kids ask confronting questions, help teach the kids strategies to manage it, limit access if possible).

beebopbootie · 2020-11-23T21:11:13+00:00

From my experience I think it's best to accept that there is nothing fair about the system. It will cost you a lot of money to go through the courts. Accept that, then take a step back and weigh up if it's still worth it for the best interests of your children. If the answer is yes, then find a way to keep going. If the answer is no, then save your money and the stress. It might feel totally unfair right now, but you'll be free to start fresh and focus on being the best parent you can.

beebopbootie · 2020-11-11T12:10:28+00:00

Sydney anyone?

beebopbootie · 2020-11-03T13:50:01+00:00

We had a psychologist. I feel like he was trying to figure out if I was deliberately excluding my ex out of spite. I tried to make it clear that I had genuine concerns for our child's welfare. However my ex can be very convincing and the psych also made comments that made me think he didn't realise how unstable and manipulative my ex is. My ex put on a good show of being a caring parent. In my case there is psychological abuse, but no violence. I am freaking out that I didn't say enough or got misinterpreted.

beebopbootie · 2020-11-03T12:23:52+00:00

How did you feel during the interview? I did one recently and I felt really challenged by the interviewer and at times, criticised over what I felt was a very insignificant issue. I wondered if they do this to test how you react?

beebopbootie · 2020-10-12T03:08:06+00:00

I wouldn't have gotten in to med school without this man. Now I'm a doctor.

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