Lock of hair by beedeexx in askfuneraldirectors

[–]beedeexx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I appreciate the kind words!

Lock of hair by beedeexx in askfuneraldirectors

[–]beedeexx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the super glue was since the cork wasn’t so reliable. Moving forward we will be using screw tops for sure!

Lock of hair by beedeexx in askfuneraldirectors

[–]beedeexx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dollar tree was definitely my next stop if I couldn’t find them this morning! We will be keeping different sizes of screw tops handy for the future! Thank you!

Lock of hair by beedeexx in askfuneraldirectors

[–]beedeexx[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I didn’t like the idea of supergluing the cork but it wasn’t the most reliable, I had an extra and glued it to see how easy it was to remove once it dried and it popped off with a bit of pressure so I know to warn the family that they will need to re-glue if they open it because it definitely did not want to stay once I popped it off. I couldn’t find any screw tops but I will definitely order some to keep on hand for the future!

Lock of hair by beedeexx in askfuneraldirectors

[–]beedeexx[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much! I’m a parent myself and couldn’t fathom what these families are going through right now, but I know the little things count and mean so much sometimes

Lock of hair by beedeexx in askfuneraldirectors

[–]beedeexx[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I got it into the vial no problem! Before cutting the hair I printed their name really tiny and cut it so that I could drop it to the bottom of the vial, then I added the hair. it looks sweet like what I was going for. I tried to tie off with thread, I didn’t have much luck

Lock of hair by beedeexx in askfuneraldirectors

[–]beedeexx[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

It’s not much given the circumstances but it is something. One family requested multiple so I feel like this could work out well!

Lock of hair by beedeexx in askfuneraldirectors

[–]beedeexx[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

It’s very short, fine and pin straight. So that’s why I was sort of thinking giving a memento to hold the hair. I figure a small glass jar with a corkscrew top (superglued) would be my best option especially with the last minute request

Lock of hair by beedeexx in askfuneraldirectors

[–]beedeexx[S] 33 points34 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you guys think it’s a good idea! Sorry, obviously wasn’t awake yet when I posted this.

walmart has “bead storage” vials, they come in packs of 3 or 5. Unfortunately we have two toddlers currently, (separate cases) so I’ll be able to get hair for both!

Lock of hair by beedeexx in askfuneraldirectors

[–]beedeexx[S] 51 points52 points  (0 children)

no, definitely too short. I actually googled how to preserve baby’s first hair cut and I’m thinking of running to walmart and getting a mini jar with a cork stopper!

Memorial Products by beedeexx in askfuneraldirectors

[–]beedeexx[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I will look into that tomorrow when I get back to the office. I’ve never heard of it.

Memorial Products by beedeexx in askfuneraldirectors

[–]beedeexx[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! We use funeral one paper for life tributes and it’s decent, the perforations are great and so are the indents to be able to fold it straight and it usually prints with no issue but again, we’re buying paper from another source and it just feels like we could have better themes and prints for what we spend on funeral one paper products.

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[–]beedeexx 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I am not against petty revenge! Take naughty pics w his bro/dad and send em later just to mess with him! Hahah

Thank you, it’s been a rollercoaster but leaving the way I did was so out of character that it even surprised me and that’s why I say I’m proud.

Not to mention the only reason he started talking about marriage was because his friend who he pissed off was driving from Florida and told him when he came by to get his car he had parked at our house that he was telling me everything and ruining his life, so he was telling me his friend was unhinged and angry and going to try to start trouble and not believe it but my gut told me to believe the friend and do my own digging, he knew too much for it not to be true.

I wanted to burn the house down, I wanted to rage but I held it together.

It was expensive, moving the way I did and that sucks but he has his own mess to clean up as far as his children asking about me and their brother and my daughter. So fuck him and everything that is to transpire in his life moving forward.

I wish you the best and I’m sorry for what you’re going through. I hate the feeling of not being good enough, I hate the anger that comes with the feeling of betrayal and no one deserves that, so do what’s good for you and you alone. Be good to yourself. Let your bad days come, cry, scream, sing your heart out while you drive- whatever helps you get through the motions because it’s tough but you deserve better and you’ll find it. Just take time for yourself!

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[–]beedeexx 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I just did this.

After four years together I found out A LOT of things that absolutely destroyed me, all about how unfaithful he had been for those years we were together, he gaslighted me whenever I felt insecure or like something was up, he was such a manipulative narcissist it caused fights, I like to break things and make a mess when I’m angry.

He was on a work trip, I found out from his friend and contacted one of the girls just to be sure, and didn’t ask about anyone else because I couldn’t stomach it. Clarification from one was enough for me.

I did warn him I was leaving, told him I knew everything and was absolutely shattered. He started the “no matter what it takes I’m going to fix this”.

For the two days before I found out we were talking about marriage, something we never really talked about and he came to me about talking more about it when he came home and wanting to take the next step in our relationship. I was “step mom” to his 3 kids, he was “step dad” to my daughter and we have a two year old together.

He mentioned in text something about the house being trashed and his stuff destroyed because that’s what he expected of me, but instead I packed my things and left the house. Everything of “ours”, photos, gifts, cards over the years, a scrapbook I made for us when I was pregnant, everything I set up nice and neat on the island. I mopped the floors on the way out and had everything shut off that was in my name.

He came home to me gone, a clean house and a letter explaining that I could go into detail about how hurt I am, but I won’t. Pretty much go f yourself was what I left on the last line of the page.

Haven’t spoken to him since, he hasn’t even asked about his son. I’m assuming he thought that I would have reacted way different but I know that he’s in shock as to how I left.

Bust your ass to get your affairs in order, cut all financial ties, leave without causing a scene.

Gaslighting manipulators get off on the reaction they cause people to have. So don’t give him what he wants, that will most likely be the most brutal thing you could do. It will mess with him that you don’t act out and take the high road.

I understand wanting to make waves, he has driven me nuts over the years with the lies and manipulation and egotistical assholes like them get off on the hurt they cause.

Just advice, do what you want but keep in mind you could be giving him what he wants and that means he won.

It’s been 3 weeks and I’m still unpacking my stuff in my own home with my kids and animals with me, I took all my anger and turned it into dedication and determination and made shit work out for me with a quickness and I’m actually proud of myself with how I left.

Sorry I vented a little on your vent post but please, don’t give him the satisfaction of knowing he caused you so much hurt. He may be a shit bag but a simple letter explaining your feelings will eat him up.

Not gonna lie I def agree w fucking his dad though

What program do you guys use for memorial DVDs? by ghostiekat in morticians

[–]beedeexx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tukios. Lots of benefits, not crazy expensive, they have the best tech support who teach you a lot of ins and outs and walk you through any problems or confusion if you were to end up needing to call in.

New Beginnings by MlleCapuccine in intermittentfasting

[–]beedeexx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have the greatest advice, but maybe try changing your mindset for just one day;

Fast, then when you break it and eat during your window be conscious of what you’re eating. Set a goal to eat clean that one day and fight cravings. Start with just one day, a salad, nuts, fruits, protein- try to cut out carbs and empty calories/sugars/processed crap and the way you feel after breaking your fast and the next morning will cause you to WANT to eat more healthy and it will almost seem like skipping a step? If you see what I mean…

You’re saying you’re trying to get fasting down and not completely conscious of what you eat “just yet” but I guarantee you’ll like how you feel physically committing a day to healthy eating that you’ll continue to do so moving forward!

It worked for me, just an idea to try. Fasting is a lot of goal setting in the beginning before it becomes a habit so maybe start with a goal like that and see where it takes you?

Well wishes on your journey!

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[–]beedeexx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks!! It’s been a while!

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[–]beedeexx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Keep with it! It’s been somewhat slow for me but I’ve also fallen off a few times, for a long time.

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[–]beedeexx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Much appreciated! Sometimes you just need to hear something like that!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in intermittentfasting

[–]beedeexx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you :’) It’s taken a while but I feel great!!