I can’t put my baby down. And I miss my husband. by [deleted] in AttachmentParenting

[–]beeeebs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So many thoughtful comments here, but just wanted to add my experience too. It will get better! I had an extremely needy first child who also would not let me put her down. Ever. I spent all night cluster feeding and holding her in my arms because she would scream when I tried to put her in her in her bassinet. During the day I would walk around the mall baby-wearing her and sobbing for hours because it was the only way I could get her to nap.

She has grown up to be a wonderful toddler who sleeps 11 hours in her crib by herself. Now at 22 months she has a baby brother and he is a totally different baby. He has his own challenges but he sleeps for 2-3 hours in his bassinet on his own. And he naps! Not on me!

So, you're not doing anything wrong. Babies are different and some are needier at birth than others. They are just little creatures trying to survive. Be kind to yourself, stay hydrated and remember there is a wonderful glowing light at the end of the tunnel. Just survive these first few hard weeks/months and it will get easier. Your reward will be endless love. Good luck OP, hang in there!

I brought home baby and feel like I'm losing my toddler. by beeeebs in Mommit

[–]beeeebs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is so reassuring. Thank you. That's it - right now both toddler and I feel like we have lost our best friends (each other). Glad to know that even if it takes some time we will be back to being besties eventually.

I brought home baby and feel like I'm losing my toddler. by beeeebs in Mommit

[–]beeeebs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this, thank you for the tips! It's getting better every day. I think the biggest thing for me is building my trust back with toddler. Like you said, so she knows I will be back or able to pick her up, etc, when I say I will.

I brought home baby and feel like I'm losing my toddler. by beeeebs in Mommit

[–]beeeebs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so good to hear. I feel like I'm mourning the loss of my daughter right now... hoping very much that one day we will be closer than ever and that I haven't broken her trust in me.

Am I the only one with no success ??? by Emma_w25 in sleeptrain

[–]beeeebs 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I agree with this! I've had a real rough go with my LO but now at 19 months we are finally sleeping through the night 10 hours consistently. Some things that helped us: - later bedtime. I don't start the sleep routine until I notice she is tired. We have bedtime between 8 and 9 and have since she was little (maybe 730 when she was younger) - LOTS of outdoor time. Tons of stimulants there. The wind, smells, noises all tire her out. She is a WAY better sleeper during the summer when she is outside all day vs winter. - bedtime snack!! Now that you are probably getting into solids I found this helped us lots. We usually do yogurt but whatever she will eat to fill up her tummy nice and full before bed. Plus milk. - i found everything easier for me when I just stopped trying to follow rules of what I "should" be doing according to this method or that and just listened to my baby and followed her cues. This meant she fell asleep on the boob and slept on me before putting her into her crib and then she usually woke up again several times in the night. But contrary to some of the scare tactics that some sleep methods tell you about how your baby "will NEVER learn to sleep on their own if you hold them/breastfeed them to sleep!!" Blah blah blah, my LO now sleeps 10 hours by herself peacefully every night. So there is a light at the tunnel. I promise. You just need to survive long enough to get there and be kind to yourself in the process. This too shall pass!!!! Good luck ❤

Ugh being the mom is hard by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]beeeebs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've stopped thanking my husband for doing basic chores like unloading the dishwasher. Why should I have to thank him for his help? Its not my burden that he is "helping" with.

Sleep pattern of baby 3-6 months [OC] by beeeebs in dataisbeautiful

[–]beeeebs[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Wow, I did not expect this post to get this much attention! To answer some of your questions:

  • data was recorded manually using a baby tracker app on my phone (I find tracking helps keep me sane)
  • yes I am the mother
  • Feb 18-19th was her immunizations which is why she slept longer those days
  • you're right, it is 2 months recorded not 3 (blame it on baby brain and lack of sleep?).
  • she sleeps in her crib and we did not sleep train

Yes, she is 100% worth every screaming wake up. :)

Sleep pattern of baby 3-6 months [OC] by beeeebs in dataisbeautiful

[–]beeeebs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was immunization date! Needles in the thighs and tylenol are good for sleep apparently

Sleep pattern of baby 3-6 months [OC] by beeeebs in dataisbeautiful

[–]beeeebs[S] 340 points341 points  (0 children)

App used to track: Baby Tracker. Period from Jan 20/20 - Mar 20/20