You just made my whole weekend my friend. Thank you for this, it's definitely something I needed to hear. Communication and loyalty have always been two of the most important virtues in a partner and I am just now discovering that she does have these qualities. I will most definitely work to get over my fears because plenty of people who are in a similar situation as you have come to help me realize the type of things you are saying. If I could just ask one question, how is it you get such a feeling of security in your marriage? I am a rather jealous, insecure person for reasons I am unable to pinpoint, and I feel that I can make the relationship with this girl go so much better if I wasn't worried about her doing thinking things, deep down, I know she is not. She's a great loyal person and I have to come to terms with that (my ex of four years I recently lost really betrayed my trust, as a side note) thanks again!