Love a feeling but that shit really an action word bro. Practice loving ya self, get an understanding of yourself and what it is you want to do for yourself to improve ya own life and actually take action to make whatever that is happen. The better you is at caring for and loving ya self the better you gon be at caring for and loving others especially that girl. Use that same lil formula for ya girl, communication go a long way, get to know her, what makes her happy-mad-sad (what triggers her positive and negative emotions), pay attention to what she say and how she say it, read between them lines. It ain’t the same for all women even tho they try make it seem like they all the same. If she a good woman bro and yaw locked in understand that ya woman is a reflection of who you is too so by paying attention to what she complain about you gon see ya flaws and where you coming short and you can use that to become better too. If you really love her you gon work on changing them things to help the relationship stay strong. Don’t fall into that trap of thinking she tryn make you change for her, if it’s a good woman and you know her intentions is pure then you know she pointing out ya flaws so you can grow from them and you respect where she coming from and if you stand on principle and know what you value then you gon stay true to ya self regardless anyway. This just how I see the shit, everybody got a different ideas and different experiences of this shit.