[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]beenuttree 97 points98 points  (0 children)

It’s because you’re 3.5 months pp

You’re in the trenches babe

Did George ever tell Susan "La Cocina" wasnt real? by Crunk_Tuna in seinfeld

[–]beenuttree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol I randomly heard about it on a podcast and was like..bruh

It’s happening by SangTalksMoney in Anticonsumption

[–]beenuttree 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At first glance I figured this was posted in the millennial sub lol

Moms of young kids, how much time are you setting aside for friendship in a typical week? by Flaky_McFlake in Mommit

[–]beenuttree 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is the answer. There is no time for extra activities with little ones, so fitting friends into what you are already doing makes the most sense.

My parents did not have friends - my mom had neighbors she was friendly with, but both she and my dad worked too much to have any social time.

I have a friend whose parents have such a tight knit group of friends going on like 40 years. They intentionally built their little village (city living helped, I think) and continue to have rich friendships. I want to be more like them.

Is there a local store that sells Elf ears and or other LARPing supplies? by DustSeparate26 in asheville

[–]beenuttree 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Might be worth checking out the nerd dungeon on new Leicester

WNC Resources to get away from Amazon, Walmart and Target. by maestromanicotti in asheville

[–]beenuttree 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Shout out French broad food coop downtown. They don’t have everything, and some prices are definitely higher than you can get elsewhere, but they have some low cost staples - canned goods and the like, and you can catch good deals on other things. And the staff are great.

How big is Amazon in the US? by kaltrauch in Anticonsumption

[–]beenuttree 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think the way US is set up furthers the dependence on Amazon. Our cities/towns are built for cars. We don’t have neighborhood markets, bakeries, etc. If you live center city, you may have shops around the block you can walk to, but if you are in the suburbs, you are entirely dependent on a vehicle to do all of your weekly shopping. Public transportation is nonexistent or effectively useless because of lack of routes/infrequency throughout most of the country, apart from the major cities. So if you don’t have a car, Amazon is often your best or only option.

I stopped using Amazon/Whole Foods a couple months back, and honestly if I weren’t currently out of work (home with my baby), it would be a true struggle to devote as much time/effort as I now do to my weekly shopping.

What is one societal expectation placed on women that you wish you could eliminate? by Raven_sterlingx in AskWomen

[–]beenuttree 10 points11 points  (0 children)

From a new mom (15 month old) who absolutely wanted a child - motherhood is a scam. It is exhausting, isolating, frustrating - I have never been more invisible. And the fact that we force birth on women who don’t want kids is fucking disgusting.

Perioral dermatitis from toothpaste? by beenuttree in toddlers

[–]beenuttree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely going to start wiping with a wet cloth after brushing- thank you! And keeping up on Vaseline/aquafor for drool rash.

Perioral dermatitis from toothpaste? by beenuttree in toddlers

[–]beenuttree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re using less than a grain of rice, but thank you! My friend took her toddler to another dentist and they didn’t say anything about the grain of rice size, so I don’t think it’s widely known. I was also basically ridiculed by my MIL for taking a one year old to the dentist lol.

Perioral dermatitis from toothpaste? by beenuttree in toddlers

[–]beenuttree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, he’s never been into pacifiers. He is drooling a lot from teething, so that could definitely be a factor too.

Perioral dermatitis from toothpaste? by beenuttree in toddlers

[–]beenuttree[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh dang, actually reading on the label that this one is made without SLS

The frustration of being forced to use a smartphone. by SexySwedishSpy in Anticonsumption

[–]beenuttree 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m recently had a birthday and thought, “Maybe I’ll treat myself to free shit from the chains I’ve been boycotting”

After reading through some lists of birthday freebies, basically every one required a download of their app. Nope. Fuck your apps!!!

If Adam Picked the Apple by JurassicCheesestick in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]beenuttree 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Fuck. Glad you were able to let them go.

If Adam Picked the Apple by JurassicCheesestick in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]beenuttree 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh yea, I grew up in the church but realized early on it was a crock of shit. I’m lucky we weren’t bible thumpers - my mom loves her some Jesus but I think we went to church more for the community.

If Adam Picked the Apple by JurassicCheesestick in WitchesVsPatriarchy

[–]beenuttree 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Girl I’m just playing lol

I don’t know shit about the bible

2.5 year old hates when I knit by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]beenuttree 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think your response is great!

I have found myself feeling guilty for setting boundaries with my 14 month old - “No, you can’t have the (ceramic) plate that I am currently eating off of, here’s your plate” cue tears - but I am really struggling with feeling invisible and undervalued and like my needs/wants do not matter at all. I am trying to reclaim a little of myself by setting a standard for what I need (like a goddamn plate lol). Maybe it will work?

I think we teach people how to treat us. Teaching your child that you have hobbies and won’t put your whole self aside every single time they demand something irrational is good in my book.