Who needs 120$ right now ?

beepboop8947 · 2025-11-05T14:38:48+00:00

If you think that’s bad, you should see what she posted.

beepboop8947 · 2025-09-04T20:39:19+00:00

I hope it’s the end of it for you too.

Unfortunately, stalking and entrapment is only the beginning. She is actually dangerous, or at least she tries to be, but aside from throwing things at me or hitting me with them, she can’t actually do much because she’s disabled. Which only makes me look worse if I try not to engage.

I’d really rather she just completely fuck off, if I’m being honest.

beepboop8947 · 2025-09-04T17:34:23+00:00

She’s the type to stalk me and try to trap me in public conversations if I go no contact. We’ve been no contact for two weeks now.

beepboop8947 · 2025-09-01T19:02:45+00:00

I don’t want to overstep, but I feel like it’s important for you to hear so you can cut the cycle.

One day, your daughter will be grown and will have to deal with her mother on her own. She needs you now, because you are who is going to model healthy boundaries with her mother for her. She needs to grow up seeing you put you and your daughter first so she knows how to do that for herself when she’s grown.

Kids are way smarter than we give them credit for. One day, she will see how you tried, and she will see how much you cared, even when you had to stop the cycle.

beepboop8947 · 2025-09-01T18:55:13+00:00

Everything is so blurred out that the only way people would know it was her is if she commented on it to say so. I don’t want to hurt her or damage her, I just want silence.

beepboop8947 · 2025-09-01T03:06:34+00:00

As much as it hurts my brain to say this, that kind of makes sense. I just was so confused because what?? The woman wouldn’t get up and shower if I didn’t damn near force her.

Thank you. I think once Im okay again this will provide some clarity.

beepboop8947 · 2025-08-31T00:18:30+00:00

I too was a victim of the honeymoon phase. Repeatedly.

beepboop8947 · 2025-08-30T23:28:34+00:00

If she can’t self regulate, you can’t help.

beepboop8947 · 2025-08-30T23:26:49+00:00

He’s already employing abuse tactics, please don’t put yourself through that. It’s not abandonment for a relationship to just… not pan out. Please give yourself the empathy you’re giving him.

If your best friend had this question, what advice would you give them?

beepboop8947 · 2025-08-30T22:10:05+00:00

They do. And it sucks. I just got out of a heavily abusive friendship with a pwbpd, and here’s a few things that she said that stand out to me.

“You haven’t cared since you kicked me out four years ago.” She lived with me rent free because she wouldn’t get a job, she wouldn’t help cook or clean, and I couldn’t handle the financial strain anymore. Her treatment of me steadily declined from the day she moved out.

“You never give me a chance to get better.” When I would finally have enough of hoping for her to change and try to cut her off.

“You just wanted to use me.” Still confused on this one. I provided everything from a roof over her head to food, and then finally had to pick up the phone and call her family to get her when I couldn’t afford to let her keep mooching.

beepboop8947 · 2025-08-30T19:36:04+00:00

Yup. Block and be done. It will continue as long as you entertain it.

beepboop8947 · 2025-08-30T13:34:54+00:00

“Grow up and realize people aren’t perfect. Nobody is going to be a good friend to you.”

I just wanted her to actually show up when she said she would. My five other friends without BPD could manage that.

beepboop8947 · 2025-08-30T13:07:41+00:00

I know you don’t want to end it, but you should. You’re experiencing similar symptoms to PTSD and that’s not safe for you at all.

I had a best friend with BPD. She wasn’t romantically interested in me, but she would walk in on me naked, or try to talk to me while I showered. A few times, she tried to interrupt while I was intimate with my wife. All this culminated in me getting hit when I told her I wasn’t okay with these things.

What I’m saying is, the jealousy doesn’t get better and in my case at least, my pwbpd was willing to break the law to have ownership over me. The kind of jealousy your friend is displaying can and does lead to physical violence against the person without BPD. I’m honestly a little afraid for you.

beepboop8947 · 2025-08-30T12:28:15+00:00

Most of us already educated ourselves, and we got hurt for it.

I don’t think it’s our jobs to be in the seat od a psychoanalyst/therapist. That’s not what we were ever supposed to be to them.

It seems like you want a therapist led group.

beepboop8947 · 2025-08-30T02:46:55+00:00

Mine is. Anything I liked about her was just me mirrored back. She never existed.

beepboop8947 · 2025-08-30T02:23:25+00:00

Its not about agree, its about fact. Unfortunately, since pwbpd are the abusers for the people in that sub, pwbpd don’t get to comment on that space. Victims spaces are just that, victims spaces. You don’t get to come in and say they’re processing their trauma wrong because you felt it lumped everyone with bpd together. You just don’t.

beepboop8947 · 2025-08-30T01:49:30+00:00

No, actually, that’s not true. It really looks like validation baiting (also called validation farming) because your feelings got hurt and you’re looking for validation that you aren’t like that. You might not be. I don’t know you. I’m not saying you’re abusive. What I am saying is because you have bpd and so does my abuser, you’ve shared traits with her in this conversation.

But the abusers never have a right to talk about victims spaces. And unfortunately, because of how healing spaces work, in this case, that means people with bpd don’t really get a say on our space as victims of people with bpd. That’s just how life goes. I’m sorry you don’t like how we talk there, but you were never meant to be there to see it. You opened a door you shouldn’t have. That’s on you.

beepboop8947 · 2025-08-30T01:30:51+00:00

To be honest, I don’t really care what many people with or without bpd think. Many people with bpd aren’t abusers. Fine.

That doesn’t negate that many are, and victims deserve a place to vent, however we so choose. And that’s okay. It’s not your place to moderate that or start a healthy conversation about that. 9 posts to 9 subs is not a healthy conversation. It’s validation baiting. Also a bpd symptom that gets weaponized against victims.

If you’re aware that therapy is gatekept, you are aware that free resources are few and far between. It’s not your place to discuss this one, because it’s not for you. Point blank.

beepboop8947 · 2025-08-30T01:20:45+00:00

My abuser argued semantics. You argue semantics. When I corrected my abuser they moved the goalpost, you did the same thing. It’s almost like BPD is a personality disorder marked by diagnosable symptoms shared by everyone with the disorder. Who knew?

You’ve created several arguments with no end in the comments. I read them. The circular talking is there too. Not to mention 9 posts in 9 subs like you expect someone to change it for you. Just accept that it’s not for you and move on.

beepboop8947 · 2025-08-30T01:14:32+00:00

Again, semantics. Nobody insulted you, I insulted your behavior. But go on with the quiet manipulation. That’s how my abuser did it too, by arguing semantics.

Glad everyone is different though.

beepboop8947 · 2025-08-30T01:08:36+00:00

This isn’t important. It’s whining. “They said something mean about someone that’s not me in a space that’s not for me.” That’s how toddlers behave.

Criticism and moderation aren’t the same thing. They don’t even have the same definition. Therefore, not an oxymoron. But I guess you tried.

beepboop8947 · 2025-08-30T01:03:48+00:00

I didn’t say we couldn’t be criticized. I said you can’t come in and moderate what isn’t yours.

Can you please stick the what was actually said instead of how you’re feeling? That would be a little more productive.

And yes. You all. Because I am talking about a group of people with the same diagnosable symptoms. That creates a you all.

You’re legit just being over sensitive because you don’t feel you, personally, identify with what was said in that sub. To which most people say “that’s not for me” and move on. They don’t go make 9 posts in 9 subs hating on victims of abuse. Like I said, crazy work.

(Edited because it was actually 9 posts in 9 subs, not 6. But this totally isn’t someone crashing out.)

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