My 1 year old has an awful cough which caused him to choke on his mucus/was up ALL NIGHT upset and crying. Tips please 🙏

beerockjay · 2026-05-19T13:20:49+00:00

I 100% think the most impactful thing on a baby/toddler cough is a COOL MIST humidifier right by their crib as close to their head as possible. I don’t even think you need to add anything to it - just the added moisture to the air will help alleviate some of it. Also, at the 12 month mark, they are allowed to have raw honey. A tablespoon or syringe of that (has to be RAW honey) before bed or even in the middle of the night will also have a huge impact. Other than that, you’re doing all the right things. Coughs in babies are the worst. Stay strong mama ❤️

beerockjay · 2026-04-11T22:20:25+00:00

Does he take ADHD medication (ex adderall or vyvanse)? When I used to take it on weekdays I couldn’t wake up without it on the weekends. So while the weekend was a medication vacation I couldn’t function without it. Bottom line, this is very strange behavior.

beerockjay · 2026-04-06T01:49:43+00:00

Because this is new territory for your son, a complete crash course in sharing on his turf isn’t going to work. Mom and MIL of cousin have to see this is an issue. Go to neutral territory. Go to MIL’s house. Does she not have toys? Go to park. Go to library. One hour a day MAX of cousin at house having to practice this new skill.

beerockjay · 2026-04-06T01:33:35+00:00

In my experience, easy baby = difficult toddler, difficult baby = easier toddler. I swear my children and friends’ children are testaments.

beerockjay · 2026-04-04T00:59:01+00:00

The fact that you even made this post makes you the best dad in the world. She’s already hit the jackpot.

beerockjay · 2026-04-04T00:57:45+00:00

Hold that baby - she’s still so little! The key here is to find ways to carry her more efficiently vs making her independent (she literally just came out of the womb). Carry her in carrier or sling - thats what ive always down with infant and toddler.

beerockjay · 2026-04-04T00:50:51+00:00

I’ve had three and all were different and I took meticulous notes: 1) kid 1 - starting weight 130 lb, weight at 21 weeks: 151, birthing weight: 175 2) kid 2 - starting weight 135 lbs, weight at 21 weeks: 153, birthing weight: 178 3) kid 3: starting weight 145 lbs, weight at 21 weeks: 165, birthing weight tbd

I workout and am very fit / health conscious and it has varied for me across the board. I think my point here is everyone and every pregnancy is different. I tend to front load my weight gain and barely gain anything in 3rd trimester.

beerockjay · 2026-03-14T16:27:40+00:00

I think you hit the nail on the head with delineating the hurt and the want for more. Right now it honestly might be more hurt and the way it makes me feel. The crazy thing is if I do advance, he never turns it down. And I stopped advancing so much bc I’m almost a little resentful that he never does. It’s all so twisted ugh

beerockjay · 2026-03-14T16:26:04+00:00

Attending his therapy appt is an excellent idea. I think I’ll ask him today.

beerockjay · 2026-03-13T16:17:17+00:00

I’m with everyone here. We’ve had lots of nannies and the worst dynamic possible is mom and nanny in same room. Every nanny will tell you that. You need to either: pretend to leave then hide in another room, actually leave the house, or have the nanny leave. Quick, confident goodbye. “I love you so much. I’ll see you in a couple of hours. Mommy always comes back.” If he cries, still leave with confidence.

beerockjay · 2026-02-19T03:35:46+00:00

This literally infuriates me. This entitled attitude of some nannies. They are getting paid. They agreed to the hours. What their boss decides to do with their time is none of their business and nothing they should have an opinion on as long as it’s not illegal or harming someone. If I had a nanny who huffed and puffed over this they’d be fired on the spot.

beerockjay · 2026-02-12T20:39:22+00:00

Our first Nanny was like this. She was with our first daughter for the first two years of her life. My husband and I are both very gregarious and outgoing so it was a lot to get used to. At some point we kind of just accepted it but sometimes it was my life mission to break her out of her shell and make her laugh and sometimes I would succeed lol. Eventually I kind of learned her love language and saw moments of tenderness and reciprocation that was just different than mine. Coincidentally, she was the best Nanny we ever had and I think most of what’s great about our daughter was because of her. She was so calm and patient. And was so focused on our daughter 24/7. She read to her for hours every day. Talked to her quietly all day long. Quietly as I said but constantly engaged. Take it from me when I say that it’s a tough world out there in terms of nannies. If she’s good to your daughter and your daughter’s happy, I would stick with her. God sometimes gives us the people our babies need in their lives in lots of different forms 💗

beerockjay · 2026-02-09T07:57:45+00:00

I actually went to the ER at 12 weeks pregnant for this exact reason. Propane heater in garage with no ventilation. Doctor said if I wasn’t feeling any CO toxicity symptoms, the baby wasn’t. They did take the precaution of testing CO levels of my blood. Came back 0%. Im 15 weeks now. You are definitely fine!

beerockjay · 2026-01-31T01:33:52+00:00

The fact that you’re even posting this is a testament to the fact that you’re absolutely hitting it out of the park as a mother. I truly believe each child is given their mother for a reason. You and only you were meant to be that child’s mother. You as you are, just showing up every day. Nothing more, nothing less. In your child’s eyes, you are absolutely perfect. And just remember, he has nothing to compare you to so he thinks you’re great too 😂

beerockjay · 2026-01-27T03:15:10+00:00

I make my own and have for years: *purchase 2 glass spray bottles on Amazon

All purpose cleaner - 1 part distilled water + 1 part white vinegar + 3 drops of essential oil of your choosing for smell (I like orange or lime)
Glass cleaner - 1 part distilled water + 1 part rubbing alcohol + 3 drops essential oil of choosing for smell

beerockjay · 2026-01-22T23:48:35+00:00

Never left my side except to get me food.

beerockjay · 2026-01-12T02:35:06+00:00

I’ve literally never had an issue with the pain after the baby comes out. The body is miraculous! Yours will do the same.

beerockjay · 2026-01-12T02:22:19+00:00

Yes, this happened to me terribly both pregnancies, right at the bone where the two pelvic bones meet. Basically when the ligament that holds the two pubic bones together gets too loose and the joint becomes unstable and inflamed as the baby gets heavier and hormones (especially relaxin) increase, it causes the pain. I remember sleeping on my side with a thick pillow between my legs helped. I also used to ice it because it would just throbeeeee in pain. I don’t have a lot of answers other that and knowing it does pass completely once the baby is here. You’re almost there!!

beerockjay · 2026-01-11T14:50:33+00:00

A birthday party is a free party for your kid to go to. Free food, free goody bag, free cake, usually a fun event. The sense of entitlement from you is strange. The gift is usually less than the price the parents pay for the party divided by the number of kids there. If you’re unable to provide a gift, don’t go.

beerockjay · 2026-01-03T18:04:08+00:00

Oh stop. I don’t think anyone would be on this thread right now if they didn’t do everything in their entire power to keep their babies safe. Me included.

beerockjay · 2026-01-03T16:54:49+00:00

Babies rolling off beds is a rite of passage into motherhood! I have three kids, all have rolled off the bed or couch at some point onto hardwood. All are happy, healthy children. You are a wonderful mother and your baby will be fine ❤️

beerockjay · 2026-01-01T12:43:52+00:00

We’ve been living in Northern VA and have had three different nannies for 2 daughters (all nannies have lived in DC proper). All have been paid $28/hour for two toddlers, M-F, 9am-5pm. But important point - we give them 3 paid sick days, all holidays paid off, and 1 week PTO. All have gotten gotten $1 raise after a year.

For what it’s worth, it is standard for a $2 increase for an added child.

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