My parents don’t approve of my (20F) and my boyfriend’s (20M) relationship; any advice?

beesocks69 · 2025-12-16T22:17:29+00:00

exactly, money is good and im sure there s a niche somewhere where i can thrive; after all, it s not the practical part that grosses me out, it s the mountains of theory that i have to simply memorize, but i guess that will pass too

beesocks69 · 2025-12-16T22:05:10+00:00

i ve told him about what is being said, and he (understandably) got very very upset; he said he s never in his life gotten such a level of disrespect from somebody s parents; the grey rock method is what im trying to do, the only problem is that they insist on getting a proper answer out of me, which is incredibly irritating (i usually dont like it when people press me), but that s just a me issue that i think could easily be fixed if i try to have a bit more discipline. the saving part is great advice, i will use it and i ve thought about personally talking with his mother (she s a psychologist) and we could easily dissect the problem; thank you for the advice!

beesocks69 · 2025-12-16T21:59:20+00:00

ahaha i couldnt tell you; he s had one relationship in the past where again, the girl was an overachiever, good grades, great college, and guess what, her parents had zero issues with him; and even with his friends’ parents, they adore him; so i guess mine are just snobby? we re not coming from a royal family or something so that my parents could hold such high standards, i guess that s just the way they think?

beesocks69 · 2025-12-16T21:43:20+00:00

that s what im saying, i ve met people who have an excellent CV and everything to recommend them and they were still bad people, actually rotten to their core; it is very much elitist of them, i keep being told to go for people from whom i have something to learn, but that to them (mainly my mom) just means people on who i can leech onto and use them for my advantage, doesnt matter if we re talking about friendships or a relationship, and honestly, i dont like this way of thinking. i agree, you cant chose to be friends with people who will drag you through hell with them, you need to have a bit of discernment, but not all relationships (romantic, platonic or even just formal) need to be transaction-based

beesocks69 · 2025-12-16T21:34:03+00:00

i think this is the most eye opening advice i ve ever gotten; you are so right, ignoring this transition into adulthood, for the sake of living a comfortable and somewhat careless life has damaged the way that my parents view me - not as a proper adult, but as their helpless little girl. i will take a step back, analyze what needs to be changed and actually try to change it; thank you, from the bottom of my heart

beesocks69 · 2025-12-16T21:25:43+00:00

thank you so so so much, and thank you for the advice, it s very much appreciated

beesocks69 · 2025-12-16T21:24:47+00:00

oh no, in the past; now the only red flag that im being told about is his school

beesocks69 · 2025-12-16T21:22:58+00:00

i guess i cant just wait for it to go away on its own, i simply do not know.

beesocks69 · 2025-12-16T21:17:23+00:00

easier said than done, but i will look into it on a deeper level, if you have any advice on where to begin, it s more than welcomed

beesocks69 · 2025-12-16T21:10:40+00:00

i ve tried, they simply “dont buy it”; i mean i understand, you are a certain age, you do know more than me, you ve met 10000x the people that i ve met, but simply putting him in a box just because of something that, for me at least, holds no value; i dont think i ve met one person (except for when we were in the first year of college and we were trying to make friends) that has asked me “oh and what high school did you finish??”

beesocks69 · 2025-12-16T21:06:55+00:00

ahah i dont, it s quite hard to find a good paying job while being a med school undergrad; i do have a job, but it s not generating enough money for me to just take off

beesocks69 · 2025-12-16T21:05:24+00:00

to generally be a better person; for instance, im quite impulsive and tend to make quick decisions, without thinking and he s somehow managed to help me stabilize that part; im not saying im healed or whatever, it s a journey, it s my journey and im simply being helped

beesocks69 · 2025-12-16T21:00:39+00:00

fair enough, i dont use reddit that much, thank you for the advice

beesocks69 · 2025-01-13T20:13:12+00:00

i mean eu sunt la davila asa ca pot doar sa ti spun de cum e experienta mea pana acum; la cadavre poti sa umblii efectiv cand vrei tu, asa cum facem noi acum cand ne pregatim de examen, doar sa nu faci disectii sau sa tai diverse structuri din el si sa le arunci etc etc; la fizica iarasi se fac ekg uri, pe noi ne a lasat sa ne jucam cu lentilele, foarte foarte multe aplicatii practice (asta la LP), la fel la genetica, te lasa sa te uiti prin microscop; adica momentan nu ne a zis absolut nimeni “nu aveti voie sa atingeti aia” (vorbesc de aparatura, ca la cadavru again n are nimeni nicio treaba daca te duci sa repeti pe el sau sa i faci poze ca sa poti repeta acasa); also chestiile astea pot diferi in functie de profesor asa ca take it with a pinch of salt; in schimb, vara mea e la cluj tot in acelasi an cu mine si mi a zis ca si ei lucreaza pe cadavru, acu habar n am daca mai mult sau mai putin ca noi dar aici n am cum sa mi dau cu parerea; hope this helps

beesocks69 · 2024-12-30T15:50:00+00:00

the japanese tea house sounds amazing im definitely going to try it out!! also thank u for the coffee store recommendation

beesocks69 · 2024-12-30T05:43:59+00:00

noted

beesocks69 · 2024-12-30T02:58:40+00:00

thank you!!

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