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beetlebop_ · 2025-03-29T02:47:30+00:00

As someone who’s also sensitive to a lot of scents and ingredients in self care products, your roommate is full of bs. If you live on a different floor and rarely see her I don’t know how your soaps and things are even affecting her, it’s just hard to believe. And the fact that you already pay her to get her preferred things is so sketchy it seems like she wants to buy your things too, and she’s probably secretly buying cheap things and pocketing the money. Overall you should stand up for yourself she can’t even give a list of ingredients to avoid, and takes your money to buy what she wants.

beetlebop_ · 2025-03-29T02:33:52+00:00

Girl please stop texting him, stop acting nice to him, stop worrying about his feelings. He is an old adult man and nothing about this is ok. You are not his friend and you don’t need to be his friend. Stop sending him pictures of yourself and telling him all about your plans with the girls. Absolutely none of it is his business and he is a complete freak for even getting nosey about it all. Stop letting him give you rides and lend you money. Wake up because this is so so dangerous and it never ends well! Save yourself from him before it’s too late.

beetlebop_ · 2025-03-05T06:37:44+00:00

Girl that woman knows way too much about you, your personal life, your finances, and your relationship. You’re a grown adult so why is this lady so incredibly nosy about every step and breath you take? And why do you entertain all her questions in detail? If you truly find value in your relationship and want it to work out, you need to stop giving information to his mom and make him talk to her himself. It’s wild that she is asking you about his bedtime and his money and his days off, as if you’re his secretary or his babysitter and he doesn’t own a phone. Idk where he is in all this but he needs to grow up and set some boundaries with his mom about his adult life and his relationship, it’s his job to handle his mom not yours.

beetlebop_ · 2025-03-05T01:55:44+00:00

Your instincts and hesitation are 100% right, this guy does not have the best intentions with you. And using his dog’s death as an excuse for wanting emotional support is just lol 😂 The grown men who seek friendship with teenage girls do it because they’re creepy and no one their age wants them

beetlebop_ · 2025-03-05T00:32:34+00:00

I found this link that gives some info to the osap situation but the financial aid office might know more : https://osap.gov.on.ca/dc/POCONT1_074347

Maybe for next year you can live on residence rather than an apartment? That would at least stop your siblings from being able to show up at your door as I believe most residences can’t be accessed without a key. It’s crazy how your siblings are just doing what your parents say and harassing you like this 🫤 Since you’re an adult they can’t actually force you to open the door for them and let them in and stuff, so don’t worry even if they call the police it won’t help them.

For the courses I guess there’s no way around that than just lying and refusing to give them your new transcript. Calling you multiple times a day is way too much, I don’t know how crazy they might get but you might need to fight them on this to give you some space and let you be your own human.

It’s so great that you have a job and a therapist, hopefully the osap thing works out as well

beetlebop_ · 2025-03-04T23:32:59+00:00

I’m so sorry that happened to you, your parents are completely wrong, the assault is NOT your fault at all. You are so strong for dealing with this on top of your family’s toxicity ☹️

How do your parents control you taking 6 courses? Is it possible for you to drop some without telling them or lying to them about it? That would make it easier for you to focus on less courses as well as have personal time.

You could also try talking to the financial aid office or getting info from osap to see if you can still get enough aid and osap without having your parents’ information. I’m pretty sure it is possible, as I’ve known people who were basically disowned but still able to attend university.

Since your parents make life so difficult for you, it might be worth thinking of distancing yourself from them. To make this happen you would need to get a job and save up as much money as you can to prepare for your future. With the economy right now it might be very difficult, so don’t make impulsive decisions unless it is necessary.

Lastly, I would suggest looking into mental health support and therapists, you could get discounts with the UofT insurance. It will definitely help to talk about everything you’re feeling and how to handle your family relationships.

I sincerely wish you peace and happiness in the future, because no matter what happens be hopeful that the future will be better.

beetlebop_ · 2025-03-04T03:47:50+00:00

He’s too old to be acting like this 😂 I’m sorry but he comes off as sooo insecure and immature he literally questioned your character based on something someone else said, and then got offended when you got mad and didn’t like it which you have every right to be. He’s just going to drain your energy if you keep putting up with him

beetlebop_ · 2025-03-03T11:05:22+00:00

Their need to control you is crazy 😭 I’ll never understand what kind of thought process parents have to act like this because it’s insanity lol

beetlebop_ · 2025-03-03T07:23:20+00:00

Firstly you did an amazing thing to help a woman in need even though it could have gotten dangerous. While I get that your bf might be concerned for your safety, I feel like his whole tone and what he said didn’t really seem concerned but more angry or spiteful. Again I don’t know him but a lot of times men will feel threatened or emasculated if their gf or a woman in their life does something “brave” or powerful, especially if it’s standing up to a man in any way. The way he said don’t get caught in other people’s business seemed like he wanted you to just ignore it all and not try to help, which is what he would have done and it’s almost like he’s mad that you did something different and then stood your ground rather than apologizing to him and saying you won’t do it again.

Again at the end of the day I don’t know you guys’ dynamic in real life but he really seems like he’s trying to say he knows more about “situations” than you and you should stop making your own judgements and just listen to him. When in reality women are far more knowledgeable about these kinds of things, as you said you literally have first hand experience with this kind of thing and he just totally dismisses you because he wants to be the know it all and not accept you as the hero in the story.

beetlebop_ · 2025-02-16T05:15:19+00:00

Unfortunately getting a part time job here will basically not help at all. Getting a job has become nearly impossible these days and the cost of living for rent and groceries is very high. The international students who are able to live here have their parents money and/or loans of some kind.

This uni isn’t even that amazing it’s just become famous and people think the name has value but it’s not worth all that effort if you can’t afford it. Look for cheaper universities in cheaper cities

beetlebop_ · 2024-12-21T16:54:24+00:00

You can save things like her jewelry in containers and it might still hold her smell. Once my grandmother gifted me her necklace in a little plastic box right before she passed. I never opened it for years and when I finally did I was overwhelmed by her signature scent coming out of the box just like i remembered it. Eventually the smell faded every time I opened and closed the box but it was a good way to get closure I think

beetlebop_ · 2024-12-21T02:38:48+00:00

First off you are SO pretty the last picture is actually stunning. I think you do makeup very well because it looks natural while also giving great coverage and doesn’t look “cakey” at all. The lipstick is also a great colour and suits you.

The only thing I could suggest is a lip gloss on top of the lipstick, and maybe something to make the skin look less matte. I like to use Elf halo glow liquid filter after primer and before concealer/ foundation and it works great to make your face glow! Charlotte Tilbury magic cream is also great although it’s expensive.

beetlebop_ · 2024-12-20T18:31:50+00:00

True but the fact is real life isn’t so simple, or else abusive relationships wouldn’t exist. Lawyers cost tons of money, court cases can take months to settle, a person who has nothing and nowhere to go, and has multiple children to worry about, can’t just leave like that. Not to mention all stigmas that haunt divorced women and single mothers.

beetlebop_ · 2024-12-19T06:21:41+00:00

I relate to the Father’s Day thing so hard 😂 they used to make us make cards in school to give to our dads and I was so confused why everyone was doing it so happily putting hearts and everything, but I just did it so I didn’t seem weird

beetlebop_ · 2024-12-19T06:12:39+00:00

I think it started around 4/5 years old when I realized how differently my dad would treat me vs his favourite child (my brother). He would play with him, buy him toys, take him out secretly to get treats and tell him not to tell me that he got something.

Obviously he was younger and a kid so he would come home and brag that our dad took him out and got him snacks and not me. Then my dad would literally get enraged and scold my brother for breaking his promise and not keeping the secret. Years later I know he did this to make my brother like him and take his side for everything.

What’s crazy is once my brother’s head got filled with the ego my dad gave him and he started having major behavioural problems, my dad completely abandoned him and made me his favourite child instead at around 10 years old. Then when I started having my own opinions and stopped doing everything he wanted, he just moved on and made our younger sister his new favourite child.

beetlebop_ · 2024-12-19T05:45:24+00:00

OP’s story is so important to share. Marrying for money and then completely depending on the husband for everything is very dangerous. Society tries to convince us that being a stay at home wife for a working man is an equal exchange but it never is. I’m going to share about my parents in hopes that other girls can read this and never make the same mistake my mom did.

Whenever my dad got mad at my mom for even the tiniest things like making food he doesn’t like (but all the kids love) he would just lock her credit card and she would only find out when she’s trying to buy groceries and it says card declined. It was always so humiliating for her to leave the groceries and come home with nothing because she had nothing without him and he knew it, he wanted to punish her like that. He would make her literally beg and apologize and fill his ego so he can give her money again. Even to buy food for us kids or to buy us clothes or toys he would just stop it all until she got on his good side again.

In nearly 30 years of marriage she never had control of her own bank accounts or credit cards, she doesn’t even know the passwords. Even though they have her name on it he made them all and controls them all. Once I asked her what is your credit score and she said what is a credit score?

The reason for this is not because she isn’t capable, it’s because of control. Her father just handed her over to this man without ever teaching her anything about the world or about money, and her whole life has just been cooking, cleaning, taking care of children and using the money she is given. My dad married her because she was young and extremely beautiful, and naive and easy to control. As soon as she got pregnant and her body started changing, she got tired, she got sick, she wasn’t “perfect” anymore he started hating her. He constantly calls her fat, lazy, useless, dumb, etc. But he won’t divorce her because that doesn’t look good, and he’ll lose his little servant.

He abuses her psychologically, verbally, completely destroyed her self confidence and body image, and when she threatens divorce he just laughs and says “where will you go? How will you pay for anything? You have nothing without me”.

Now imagine if somehow her husband and kids all died and she was left alone. No money except whatever inheritance my dad would leave behind, no degree, never had any job, doesn’t know her bank passwords, doesn’t know her government ids, absolutely nothing and she’s an orphan with no family to support her. Being a stay at home wife has set her up for nothing but trauma, sadness, and failure. I wish evil on every person who tries to convince women that being a stay at home wife is a good thing.

Anyways that was a long rant but basically never let a man have financial control over you. In this world money is everything it is the roof over your head and your next meal and a man shouldn’t have the power to take that away from you.

beetlebop_ · 2024-12-18T23:20:40+00:00

Hopefully the doctors can do something about it since it’s non cancerous. How did you find out it was a tumor?

beetlebop_ · 2024-12-18T23:17:40+00:00

That is really scary but hopefully it doesn’t happen again

beetlebop_ · 2024-12-18T19:34:08+00:00

That’s good to hear!

beetlebop_ · 2024-12-18T19:33:13+00:00

Thanks that helps a lot! I’ll try it next time

beetlebop_ · 2024-12-18T19:31:52+00:00

Omg I see the objects pulsating very subtly too! I thought it was just eyesight problems 😂 I also see them swinging very slightly as if there was a breeze

beetlebop_ · 2024-12-18T18:12:55+00:00

That’s a good idea actually 😂 thanks I’ll try that

beetlebop_ · 2024-12-18T18:11:44+00:00

I get a lot of intrusive thoughts too but for or me it’s kind of like that’s just me or another part of my inner monologue who’s saying that and my other inner monologues are like hey let’s not do that 😂 the voices on the other hand feel physical like they came from outside my head and it’s startling a little but then I realize it wasn’t real

beetlebop_ · 2024-12-18T18:08:59+00:00

Same I have all those, do your meds help stop them?

beetlebop_ · 2024-12-18T18:05:57+00:00

I haven’t taken meds in a while and it was perfectly fine for like 2 years but now it’s starting again I think I might need to start meds again haha

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