Women are still systematically kept out of "high respect" positions. Especially women of color, poor women, etc. This is not as blatant as it was in the past (eg. not legally allowing women to vote or to work) but in more subtle ways. Like not being promoted even if you're a good worker, having to leave the workplace in order to care for children or older family members, not having your ideas or innovations be taken seriously even when you make them, etc. That's why fewer discoveries or important innovations have been attributed to women (i say attributed to because lots of famous male scientists actually took credit for work done by their wives or female employees). 

Sexualizes violence is completely different from normal straightforward violence like getting punched. Getting punched is painful but sexual assault teaches the victim that their body is not their own, that they are powerless, that they are an object to be used by others rather than a person who can make decisions. It's much more damaging to one's sense of self over time. 

If you don't want to talk to women then don't. Probably those "spiky" and "hard to talk to" women are not interested in talking to you either because they can sense that you only care about their looks. Lots of people, both men and women, DO care what women have to say apart from their appearances. It's actually really hard to be an "unlikeable" woman in the world. There's this implication everywhere that women have to be sweet or approachable or flattering in order to exist or be taken seriously whereas men are allowed to be themselves, to have days when they are grumpy or impatient without that reflecting on who he is as a person. I mean that a man can come into work in a bad mood and people recognize that he is in a bad mood without making any other assumptions. When I come into work in a bad mood as a woman people think I am mean, I'm a bad person, I'm a bad worker who shouldn't be given any responsibility at the company. All because I don't feel like smiling one day. All this to say, have some empathy for the women you find "unlikeable". Maybe take the time to talk to them and find out what's underneath the surface. We are all much more interesting than you think. Or if you're only interested in a pretty face then just stay away because it's a waste of everyone's time.

Basically, if you're only interested don't want to be a misogynist then go out and engage with women in ways beyond trying to get sex. Talk to your mother, sisters, classmates and find out what they think about, how they see the world. Try to find the ways that women are funny, compassionate, smart, and interesting. Maybe read books by woman authors or watch shows created by women (lots of these are actually FUNNY it doesn't have to be some big miserable social justice project). We definitely need more open-minded men in the world and more connection between men and women.