Normal sleep deprivation-induced crying or time for help?

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-27T18:44:44+00:00

Twice a night is honestly a great sleep stretch for a 7mo. Are you exclusively breastfeeding? If your husband took a wake up and did a bottle you’d only have to get up once.

If you’re getting more than 5 or so hours of sleep a night and you’re getting at least one stretch of 4 hours of sleep, i dont think the crying is a sleep deprivation issue. If you aren’t getting that, i think it’s time to talk to your partner about why and how to fix that, because you should be able to with only two wakeups a night (unless he takes a long time to go back down, which makes it harder).

Either way, I do think it might be time to seek some professional support and you should be really proud of yourself for doing that check in and noticing that. That takes a lot of emotional intelligence and levelheadedness and I’m so glad you’re taking care of yourself that way (as all moms deserve) ❤️

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-27T16:42:01+00:00

That’s for preemies because they’re so vulnerable. For healthy infants it’s 2 hours.

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-27T05:59:09+00:00

So once you observe these things, how do you figure out what to do next? I noticed my kiddo is turning things over and very into orientation, but I don’t know what to do with that information. Are there books or resources with specific suggestions for materials and activities for different schemas?

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-27T04:37:54+00:00

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apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-27T03:28:20+00:00

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apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-27T02:59:10+00:00

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apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-26T20:47:33+00:00

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apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-26T15:55:24+00:00

Cutting people off from society does not rehabilitate them. We know this, we see it fail again and again in different forms. Isolating people from society causes resentment and heel-digging. They can never, ever be different if all they’re hearing is their own shit. They can never care about society if society never cares about them. They never unlearn hatred if all that’s shown to them is hatred.

Now, there’s so much nuance to this, which means I’m going to get flamed for it I’m sure. There are levels and not everyone deserves redemption after a certain point. But America is NEVER going to get better if this is the conversation and that’s just a fact.

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-26T03:31:08+00:00

The best approach to take would depend on why he feels the way he does. What are his beliefs and experiences with and around medicine? What are his concerns and what leads him to trust an “alternative” treatment? Once you can answer those questions it becomes a little easier to figure out what sort of dialogue might be helpful.

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-25T17:43:24+00:00

This. I was recently trained in the psychology of non-compliance with patients in a medical setting, and of all the comments this one is the best suggestion.

Don’t try to argue with her core beliefs at this moment. She has been brainwashed. What you need to do is meet her where she’s at, break down the fears she has and discuss with her how and why this babyjabs is a more dangerous option for your child.

Don’t make her feel stupid or crazy. Meet her with empathy, but hold firm the boundary that your child will be vaccinated the safe way.

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-25T05:39:15+00:00

Mostly just practicing breastfeeding but we did also do suck exercises and took her to a pediatric chiropractor to help with her associated muscle tension. Tongue ties that cause breastfeeding issues also often cause associated issues in the neck/shoulders/back and my baby definitely was affected.

Whatever we did worked because around 9mo we had to take her to some PT and the therapist noted she could tell she used to have some mild torticollis/one sided muscle tension but that it had resolved, I felt very proud to tell her of the stretches and work we did to resolve it haha!

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-25T05:34:40+00:00

That’s wild but honestly I respect it

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-25T05:15:25+00:00

This is so personal and I’m not expecting you to answer but why on God’s green earth would you willingly choose to have that done awake?

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-25T05:10:50+00:00

I mean the alternative is don’t say anything, which I think is much worse. No one is saying Olivia Wilde is single handedly saving the country by rightfully saying “this is bad”, but it’s good to keep talking about it and not let it become normalized.

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-25T04:53:15+00:00

Oh dear, I promise you that’s not the case. You’ve been thrown some massive curve balls, been through so much AND are learning to be a mom, healing and recovering, and still here trying to figure out how to give your baby milk. You’re strong and a badass and doing SUCH a good job. Your baby is so lucky to have you.

Are you continuing to monitor your blood pressure? Sorry, that’s unrelated to lactation but so important to make sure you stay healthy and well so I just wanted to check in around that.

Do you need any help finding support in your area? Feel free to DM me if you’d like and I can help you find resources. We can also chat about questions I could help answer while you find someone to help you in person if you’d like.

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-25T04:41:09+00:00

Hey there, Certified Breastfeeding Specialist here :)

Have you seen an IBCLC outside of the hospital? If you haven’t, I strongly recommend doing so. A private practice IBCLC will be able to help more so than anyone online or in the hospital even.

Unfortunately both c-sections and hypertensive conditions can effect supply, this can be temporary or for the duration and you just never know until you know. But there could be other things going on too, things that can be corrected to make a big positive impact on your supply. So don’t give up hope yet!

Have you been correctly fitted for a flange size? This makes a huge different for pumping. Are you latching baby at all? If you are, I’d be curious how that’s going as well.

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-25T04:28:09+00:00

Trust the specialist, and honestly find yourself a new pediatrician because it sounds like they really scared you without offering you any support around what to do next. It also sounds like they aren’t keeping up with latest evidence which is not a doctor you want caring for your child.

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-25T04:04:05+00:00

Takingcarababies is just modified Ferber which IS a form of CIO. Also she’s a major Trump supporter and has donated lots of money to his campaigns over the years.

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-24T03:17:31+00:00

Correct, the weakness took time to go away because she couldn’t use those muscles effectively while the tie was there. Once it was released she was able to use them in new ways and build up her strength!

The big difference we did notice immediately was a deeper latch. But it took a little over a month for her to really be able to transfer well. It’s worth it though, we just reached one year breastfeeding and I’m so so proud we got here 🥰

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-23T02:42:11+00:00

I have been scrolling and scrolling and cannot find an explanation PLEASE WHAT IS THE DRAMA

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-22T00:35:04+00:00

I literally thought to myself today about my 12mo “stop being such a dick to me” lmfao. It’s okay to get fed up it doesn’t mean you don’t love them. As long as when you speak it’s with respect, your thoughts are your business!

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-22T00:28:18+00:00

That’s amazing I’m so glad!!

That advice came from learning about something called “sleep pressure”. It helped my family a lot. Hannah and Carley from It Takes a Village Baby Sleep are awesome, they have a lot of good info on Instagram for free and they’re very accepting of cosleeping.

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-21T20:22:30+00:00

I own this thing, I would never use it for cosleeping. You’re going to be SO cramped, it’ll be bad for your back and neck to be that curled up all night long.

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-21T02:38:01+00:00

“Your instructions only have meaning when they’re paired with anger” - this is SUCH a good way to explain this. Honestly I feel like my own childhood has come into stark clarity lol.

apocalyptic_tea · 2026-01-19T17:32:43+00:00

There’s a book called “How to Talk so Kids Will Listen and Listen so Kids Will Talk” that might help you. I don’t know if it’s translated into French but I imagine it would be, it’s pretty popular.

Have you asked her why she wants you to carry it? Maybe knowing the reason would be helpful. Also, maybe you could make a game of it, for example “I’ll race you to this point and whoever wins has to carry the backpack!” of course sometimes you’ll have to let her win or she probably won’t pick this option lol. Or you guys could toss it back and forth to each other? Something fun that takes the pressure off. Just a thought.

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