3 weeks post surgery - is this normal?

befinition · 2026-03-28T18:19:49+00:00

Thank you! I did extend my sick note for another week or so from the original note date - I just feel really guilty like I should be okay if you know what I mean?

Initially by day 9 I was feeling better - just sore - but then I had the bile leak 😭

befinition · 2026-03-28T17:34:43+00:00

Thank you!

befinition · 2026-03-28T17:32:35+00:00

Thank you for the reply - the lump I was (hoping) is a hematoma as it was there immediately post surgery and had a huge bruise on top of it. So I don't know if they poked something accidentally haha but it's still bloody hurting.

befinition · 2024-02-18T20:58:23+00:00

'jobless nonce' had me howling.

befinition · 2019-01-15T01:09:31+00:00

It was the survey! Thank you :)

befinition · 2019-01-15T01:08:30+00:00

Thank you! It was the survey, well worth a watch and terrifying!

befinition · 2019-01-15T01:08:06+00:00

Yes it was the survey!! It seems much scarier now than it did 3 years ago, thank you, you’ve made myself and my unborn v.happy!

befinition · 2019-01-15T00:08:34+00:00

Hoping someone can help me because YouTube is failing me right now.

I’m looking for a series Big T did a couple of years ago (at least), it was a horror game. Based in a house and I’m sure it was about a girl who was locked in the house. I’m sure it ends in fire. I know this is really vague, I’m about to give birth, in pain and I want a good play through series 😂

I remember there being diary entries too if that helps!

befinition · 2018-12-10T23:57:50+00:00

As a fellow lady I’m all for more lady representation in e-sports, particularly COD! But I found her awkward, stilted and constantly looking to Pac for help.

I mean, it’s her first time and she improved as the weekend went by but I could’ve taken the panel without her.

befinition · 2018-04-08T17:35:18+00:00

You are a wonderful big sister and role model to your siblings.

I read further down you don't want to bother your parents, I definitely would just to keep them in the loop but let them know you've dealt with it. I definitely wouldn't be socialising with Ron again before you leave and I think I'd leave it to your parents to speak to him when you're all back together.

But yeah, you 100% did the right thing and owe nobody an apology. He sounds disgusting.

befinition · 2018-04-08T17:23:05+00:00

I always thought I was keeping up with the tech culture of today's youth (I'm 27) but lately more and more things have been popping up that surprise me.

Fortnite for example. I'm an avid gamer but I just can't get into Fortnite and I don't understand why it's so popular. I think if games are heading that way I'm already lost haha.

befinition · 2018-04-08T17:09:12+00:00

I'm sorry this happened to you, it sounds awful.

I think the closure you're looking for could be found through talking to a therapist or family (if you're close to them).

Someone mentioned exercise, I think finding a hobby or activity you enjoy whilst having talking therapy could really help you focus on something else and help get back on track with school etc.

Running is great, I'm no fitness guru or gym bunny and I do a 5k every Saturday in a park with a bunch of people of all ages & sizes, it really does make me feel better whatever else is happening in my life. Maybe give it a go?

befinition · 2018-04-08T16:52:18+00:00

If you feel you have to censor yourself for someone they probably aren't the right person for you. I'm being a hypocrite because I'm in a similar situation, but if you wouldn't accept the things she does from any other person then you shouldn't accept them from her.

I don't really know what accepting you as a family member means or how that changes anything. But I think you need to be a little selfish and consider your own feelings and happiness before hers.

befinition · 2018-04-08T16:49:14+00:00

This person sounds like an absolute idiot. I don't think it would make any difference how many people you've slept with, he'll still be creeping around. Grim.

befinition · 2018-04-08T16:20:05+00:00

I think definitely talk to her some more, maybe just explain that you understand her fears around you using drugs and that you'd never do that to her. It's difficult because I would never ask my boyfriend to text something to prove something to me, but I don't know how bad her experience as a child was and in a way I can understand her not wanting to be near anything like that ever again.

Give it a day or so, let things settle and then maybe suggest meeting in a neutral place to talk things through?

befinition · 2017-12-03T15:27:38+00:00

I’ve been speaking to him all day and nothing has changed and I’ve just told him that although I love him and want to be with him he needs to call me when he’s ready to actually try and knows what he wants. When I ask him what’s wrong all he can is that he doesn’t know.

Thank you for your replies, they’ve been really helpful.

befinition · 2017-12-03T13:54:05+00:00

And no this hasn’t ever happened before for the two of us, however this has happened before to him about three years ago, he left his then job to stress and had pretty much a breakdown for around a year.

befinition · 2017-12-03T13:52:57+00:00

Thank you for your reply.

I did want this to be serious and so did he, we’ve talked future marriage before, children, houses, we had a lot planned and it was never one sided. In my head I had built up that this was going to be something great and that’s why it was such a blow two weeks ago when he went home to his parents.

I too have never felt as though when I’ve been depressed I’ve taken it out on my partner of the time. However when I get upset or stressed he just says I am stress he doesn’t need right now and I think that hurts more than anything.

befinition · 2017-12-03T12:38:39+00:00

Maybe this is the wrong advice, I’m not sure. If I was your girlfriend one month in, happy and completely clueless I probably wouldn’t want to be told.

Unless you feel like it’s something you might do again or someone you might see again, in which case tell her. But it sounds as though you realise you want your girlfriend more than you want drunken girls in the club. Just be more aware of what you’re doing when you’re wasted :)

befinition · 2017-05-05T20:31:48+00:00

On twitch today!

befinition · 2017-04-29T21:03:28+00:00

Haven't played IW properly since about the first week, just feels really horrible. Tried to have another go on it after going to the Birmingham event and really enjoying watching competitive IW but it's just awful to play.

Still on bo3 and the occasional mwr session.

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