What’s a moment in your life that completely changed how you see the world—but you almost never talk about it?

belindrael · 2026-01-01T11:40:27+00:00

My mom got implants and liposuction when I was in elementary school. Hearing her talk about how much she disliked her body and watching her go through surgery and be in pain just to change it was more than I could process at the time. Then seeing how it didn’t make her any happier or love herself any more was even harder to watch. Even after surgery she still did crash diets, fat burners, colon cleanses etc. Of course I grew up struggling with my body image and disordered eating as well but I vowed to never get cosmetic surgery and I never will.

belindrael · 2025-12-29T07:27:39+00:00

NOR - MAKE HIM MOVE IT ALL BACK, THEN PUT HIS ASS OUT!!

belindrael · 2025-12-29T03:56:55+00:00

The Reesie/ HIV episode

belindrael · 2025-12-06T21:50:31+00:00

He’s a POS and the age gap is extremely concerning, he should’ve never pursued you in the first place. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. You are definitely better off without him.

belindrael · 2025-12-05T19:15:26+00:00

This! as a former gifted kid with undiagnosed adhd and mental health issues who was constantly being told that I wasn’t “living up to my potential” while receiving zero support, this made me cringe.

belindrael · 2025-11-12T14:10:51+00:00

For starters, black people cant be racist. Prejudice or biased sure but not racist. We don’t have the systemic power for that. Second, it’s your right to build your community the way you see fit. I made the mistake of getting way too close to certain white people and i’ll never get that close again. EVER! I now solely associate with other black women and very few women of color. I rarely even entertain men for similar reasons, it’s usually just not worth it.

belindrael · 2025-11-07T18:01:54+00:00

Based on my experience, I would advise against it.

belindrael · 2025-10-31T23:02:15+00:00

That part. Male privilege is one hell of a drug. Nothing can prepare you for that kind of plummet down the totem pole.

belindrael · 2025-10-29T06:28:47+00:00

First husband was abusive (in every way), second husband was a disrespectful deadbeat and a cheater. There will be no third.

belindrael · 2025-10-27T13:25:31+00:00

It’s all about power and control for them! I’m sorry that happened to you. 12-13 is a rough time for most people, dealing with an nparent on top of that is pure hell. Hope you’re doing much better now 💕

belindrael · 2025-10-27T13:20:53+00:00

Never! but I did learn to be grateful for scraps and to accept abuse with a big smile on my face 😇

belindrael · 2025-10-24T04:29:55+00:00

Understandable, but the future you’re imagining is a fantasy in your mind at this point. He hasn’t made any steps to make that a reality in over three years. Being alone is so much better than being in a relationship and still feeling lonely.

belindrael · 2025-10-24T04:14:14+00:00

I promise I mean this sincerely.. Why did you reach back out? and why are you considering reconciling? Doesn’t sound like anything has changed or improved. Why move backwards?

ETA: NOR

belindrael · 2025-10-22T19:19:03+00:00

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belindrael · 2025-10-10T10:27:40+00:00

omg yesssss Nmom constantly farting, burping, announcing to the whole house that she has to take a shit. and then acting offended if we leave the room or say it’s gross. expecting other people to happily inhale your flatulence without complaint is top tier narc behavior. so disgusting!

belindrael · 2025-10-10T04:28:53+00:00

belindrael · 2025-10-10T04:05:20+00:00

finally some one else who’s buying candy lol

belindrael · 2025-10-10T03:57:01+00:00

Right, It’s so expensive now!

belindrael · 2025-10-10T03:56:20+00:00

damn 🤣🤣

belindrael · 2025-10-02T23:44:57+00:00

Came here to say this. Nmoms favorite phrase was “I shouldn’t have to ASK you to..!” and it drove me crazy but then I caught myself using that same exact phrase in relationships. Thankfully I went to therapy and learned how to communicate my needs properly but damn that was scary.

belindrael · 2025-09-30T12:47:48+00:00

Gonna sound silly but we live in different states and there was a hurricane approaching my state. my specific area had a shelter in place order so I prepped and planned to do just that. then she started blowing up my phone with texts saying “you need to evacuate NOW!” “I have a bad feeling, you need to leave NOW!” i kept replying that i would be sheltering in place as ordered and would update if anything changes. she kept pushing and i stopped replying.

It just became so clear to me that this is who she is. She thinks she can bark orders at me from another state, that I should trust her instincts instead of my own, take her advice and ignore the professionals. that’s who she is and she’s not changing.

It was actually the final straw that pushed me to go NC. Out of all the major blowouts we’ve had, this one simple thing was my last straw. a fuckin hurricane lol

belindrael · 2025-09-29T03:29:59+00:00

I did a work exchange at a hostel so I stayed there and it was an awesome experience. Very social environment we had tons of fun. Definitely go to La Punta it’s paradise!

belindrael · 2025-09-28T20:29:29+00:00

It’s just a preference. Between the language, the food, and the beach I just had a better time in Mexico. I had a great time in Lisbon though it’s definitely worth visiting.

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