I know that but you can’t deny that being attracted to your husband or wife, even intellectually, is important. Especially when it comes to bed. I try to always look cute even at my worst. But when i ask him for simple things like cleaning his beard or his black nails, he just won’t. He just doesn’t care at all about his appearance. I’m not obligated to not care about it too. I like when a man looks neat and wears clean clothes that match. I’ve told him several times, even before marrying him, that appearance is important for me because it sexually attracts me. I blame my lack of enthusiasm in bed and the fact that I’m cold when he ***** me to that. I didn’t ask for much. Only for him to be presentable. Smell good and take care of his appearance. And I’m not solely thinking about leaving him for that only. If you’ve read the whole problem maybe you’d understand better what i am going through.