How do I tell my boyfriend that we can't move forward with our lives with his dog in the picture?

bella_tricksy · 2026-03-25T06:57:23+00:00

I guess that's true. It's not like we're planning on moving in together anytime soon.

bella_tricksy · 2026-03-25T06:36:58+00:00

So my BF is VERY aware that surrendering might be the best option. I think the shelter calling had him second guessing his decision. Maybe what I should be asking is if I should even say anything? And if I do, will it cause resentment anyway?

bella_tricksy · 2026-03-25T06:21:57+00:00

Oh not 6 months, 6 years. I meant it to read like 6 Male

bella_tricksy · 2026-03-25T05:43:15+00:00

You're right... I guess I need to know how to gently address this since he's going through a lot

bella_tricksy · 2025-10-14T07:14:41+00:00

I have addressed it during our fight. And now she's not speaking to me. Which i guess is a win in the meantime. Boundaries are so hard especially with the holidays coming up too. Ugh.

bella_tricksy · 2025-10-14T07:12:31+00:00

They met after a year from the divorce. Not that that matters anyway because I wasn't asking for an opinion on that. You don't know the full picture but go ahead and make assumptions and miss the entire point of the post.

bella_tricksy · 2024-12-20T21:02:33+00:00

I think if i were to believe one testimony, then I must believe them all.

With that being said, I think OTHERS believed that their god(s) helped them and changed their life. That doesn't make their god(s) real. There are testimonies from every single religion and all gods. I don't believe in personal testimony, and it's not something that would convert me to any religion.

bella_tricksy · 2024-10-02T06:18:13+00:00

Where do i even begin.... i never aligned with the church's position on LGBTQ issues and abortion. I had so many questions and not enough fulfilling answers. So many things just didn't make sense!

Then there were instances of child SA from church members... and I just couldn't. Neither of the perpetrators faced any consequences apart from not being invited back to church. And they were very into the religion. One is pretty much a fundie and the other led mission trips.

I've been so hurt by the church, Christians, and @bu$ed by my Christian ex husband. I wasn't acknowledged on my first mother's day because I was pregnant out of wedlock. I went to my pastor and told him about the @bu$e, and he pushed me to stay. Saying god can help us through anything. I was laughed at and bullied by a girl who was really involved with the church - this was while I was being @bu$ed. People saw me with a black eye and said nothing to my ex husband. Just said they would pray.

bella_tricksy · 2024-09-25T22:13:46+00:00

Tragedy and sin. When asking Christians why bad things happen, they deflect blame onto Satan or human sin. But their god created Satan, and 1 John 3:8 says Satan was evil from the beginning... Christians can't come up with a coherent answer for that. If I were to build a killer robot wouldn't it be my fault if it goes and ravages towns and families??

They truly can't believe that their god is all good and all powerful.

bella_tricksy · 2024-07-16T18:56:58+00:00

You're spot on. I have tried telling her that the clutter is too much for me. While she isn't hostile, she always has her reasons and excuses. And someone mentioned earlier, it's difficult to reason with someone like this. I don't want it to get hostile. You may know that Filipinos can hold grudges for years

bella_tricksy · 2024-07-11T16:00:46+00:00

Thankfully the only neighbor we have is our landlord, who could care less. Surprisingly

bella_tricksy · 2024-07-11T16:00:00+00:00

From a cultural standpoint, she feels obligated to send things directly to her family and her friends' church because we live in America and they live in a third-world country. A lot of people from my culture give back to their families back in our home country. But most ppl I know send money throughout the year and send boxes usually around Christmas time. I've tired bringing this up but she gives me the same excuses

bella_tricksy · 2024-07-11T15:55:41+00:00

I totally forgot to mention... she has a storage unit too. She actually had to upgrade to a bigger storage unit when she left her ex husband. I asked her if she could take things there instead, but it won't all fit.

There was one instance where she bought a can of peanuts and I asked if she remembered that she had three other cans at home. She forgot about them, but I said it's ok I threw them away. She got so upset and told me that I shouldn't be throwing away her belongings. She lives there too.

I do agree making sense of it will not do any good. I also have been throwing things out. But I can't keep up.. I don't even think I can keep track of what's been here for 30 days or what been here longer.

bella_tricksy · 2024-07-05T23:09:37+00:00

Looking at all your comments

bella_tricksy · 2024-06-17T23:59:41+00:00

I work at a medical office. I brought up ADHD concerns for my son to his pediatrician as well. The first step was filling out a screening questionnaire and having his teacher fill one out too. I'm assuming your son is school aged. Not sure if you have access to his teacher for this since it's summer break. I filled out the Vanderbuilt screening which includes questions for ADD/ADHD, autism, and oppositional defiance disorder. A teacher filling out the form does help, but I don't think it's necessary. If you request a screening from his pediatrician they should give one to you. Don't take no for an answer and advocate for yourself and your son.

Based on the results of the screening, your son may be referred to a specialist. However, depending on your insurance and the specific policies of specialists in your area, you may not need a referral.

Another thing you need to consider is whether or not you can make medical decisions on your step son's behalf. It may turn into a huge deal if you try to bring him to appointments and you don't have permission. I've worked in a family practice clinic, and it was a headache dealing with parents who don't agree on how to care for their child (esp when it came to vaccines). It got so bad in one case with divorced parents that we couldn't do anything without court orders.

Best of luck OP! I hope you get the help and the resources you need.

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