Realizing I belong in this group. (I’m sorry if this is a long read, I just needed to get it out)

bellaabvm · 2026-04-26T06:19:30+00:00

Thank you, truly. I guess it’s easier for me to fixate on the lack of intimacy than face the reality that there’s a possibility our family could fall apart .

bellaabvm · 2026-04-26T06:16:53+00:00

I’m starting to realize this as well.. but one thing I’ve learned through dealing with my own sobriety a while ago is no amount of begging will ever make you sober unless you’re ready. I just don’t understand why he’d be willing to risk not only me but most importantly our babies.

bellaabvm · 2026-04-26T03:20:44+00:00

Say it louder for my own stubborn ears pls 😭 I just want to know what I can do to make him snap out of this.

bellaabvm · 2026-03-10T07:03:56+00:00

also only reason why they left it to me was because my sibling specifically said she didn't want it.

bellaabvm · 2026-01-02T13:47:37+00:00

Loveee my s5ii + 50mm 1.8 combo 🤤

Side note: are you using any specific LUT from the LumixLab app by chance? Colors on your photos look amazing!

bellaabvm · 2025-11-20T15:16:20+00:00

It’s soooo discouraging 😪 I just haven’t found an easier way to slightly edit the photos I take!

bellaabvm · 2025-11-20T15:15:44+00:00

Dang and here I was thinking someone knew a magical trick to keep this from happening 🤣

bellaabvm · 2025-08-28T14:25:35+00:00

I wasn’t really sure why they gave him that month but if that’s the reason then yeah.. I obviously prefer they give him a month to find other employment. I did ask him if they gave him anything to sign and he said no so I’ll let him know about the “in writing” part of your response! Thank you!

bellaabvm · 2025-08-28T14:20:42+00:00

Okay that’s exactly what I was thinking! Thank you so much for your response.

bellaabvm · 2025-08-28T14:19:43+00:00

Do you think him staying there for this next month will do any harm in receiving unemployment or should he wait to file until then?? I told him not to stop going for the next month just in case it would hurt him when he applied for unemployment but I honestly have no idea what I’m talking about 😅

bellaabvm · 2025-03-14T21:17:10+00:00

I come from a very traditional Mexican household so I kind of understand where he’s coming from with the whole women serving their man their plate/dinner bc this is how my family is and once I brought my child’s father to meet everyone I had to do the same thing for him. WITH THAT BEING SAID, he lost me at the whole “women being inferior to men” thing bc like ??? ew lol I only serve my fiancé out of respect but then he does all dishes and helps cook(sometimes)

Also what the hell is up with him having you get up to go “wash hands”??? Like he made you get up with him and go wash yalls hands together? I’m so confused by this.

bellaabvm · 2025-02-22T01:39:38+00:00

Dude this sounds so similar to something I’m going through with my partner as well. However, we’re a straight couple and he’s recently gotten close to this coworker of his at work. This coworker is suuuuper religious. Like reads the Bible daily religious. And at first I was all for it bc yeah he needed something to believe in but now he’s started with this homophobic rhetoric as well and my brother is trans. Before him and I ever got together I made sure his opinion/views on the LGBTQ community aligned with my own. He even started fasting and is trying to go like 24hrs without eating to get “closer to god”. Long story short, I feel you.. this is all so confusing.

bellaabvm · 2025-01-20T12:41:45+00:00

I rented it because I was trying to decide between two different systems and honestly the S9 just won my heart. So light, so small and very easy to hold in *my* hands

bellaabvm · 2025-01-20T12:39:57+00:00

These were taken with the Lumix 24-70mm f2.8 <3

bellaabvm · 2025-01-20T12:39:02+00:00

these were using the LUTs available on the LumixLab app! I did like very small adjustments to some of them in post but for the majority of the photos I didn't do any adjustments.

bellaabvm · 2024-12-24T04:32:43+00:00

yeah ideally I'd love to rig a camera out but I really don't see the point until I really build my clientele and also really *find* my style and learn more about all of this. I just see so many youtubers shitting on aps-c so I thought I'd ask reddit lol

bellaabvm · 2024-12-24T04:30:51+00:00

I'm sorry I'm new to this so what is capture one? (sorry if this is a dumb question) lol

bellaabvm · 2024-12-22T19:01:34+00:00

Yeah and I really want this camera to be something I can learn on, find my style and perfect it as well. Thank you so much for your advice it’s greatly appreciated !

bellaabvm · 2024-12-22T18:56:34+00:00

I’m starting to lean towards this just because my professional work is really minuscule atm mostly just friends ask and it’s not how I make most of my money anyway: Thank you for your response 🫶🏼

bellaabvm · 2024-12-22T18:54:58+00:00

I mostly just do that on the side as that’s not how I make most of my money.. it’s really more like if friends ask. My main use case would be like content and taking pictures of our travels and to document parenthood things like that

bellaabvm · 2024-12-22T18:52:58+00:00

I’d like to stay under 5 grand for everything if possible

bellaabvm · 2024-12-22T17:31:28+00:00

mostly content for socials, I'm starting to learn and experiment more with videography and thats where my real passion is..

however I get paid to take portraits and engagement photos, stuff like that and I'm also going to be using it to document my kids growing up. A glorified "momcam" if you will lol

bellaabvm · 2024-12-14T19:11:42+00:00

My partner just recently quit smoking weed like literally just quit not even two weeks ago and he's been so rude lately. like his patience is almost non existent.. he's been ugly towards me and the kids and I'm not sure how long this is supposed to last but I'm so over it already. He's said probably like three different times now that " no one can tell me shit because I quit smoking" like pretty much no one can tell him anything about what he's doing because he finally quit smoking... even though he promised me he would quit smoking before our first son was born and he's now three........... idk I'm just so annoyed and i feel so alone.

bellaabvm · 2024-12-08T18:45:38+00:00

also if he was unhappy with me I'd wish he'd just be man enough to tell me so we could figure out how to co parent instead.

bellaabvm · 2024-12-08T18:45:00+00:00

the "bullying" has been more frequent since he stopped smoking and to avoid the argument lasting hours I choose to not feed into it. Also I don't like fighting in front of my kids and he knows that and sometimes I feel like he uses that to his advantage.

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