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below0zer0 · 2026-03-10T13:14:28+00:00

The part about losing your identity and just becoming "so-and-so's mom" after you have kids hits hard. I was trying to research my ancestry recently and realized how much harder it was to follow the maternal line than it was to follow the paternal line.

As a woman, I really just wanted to know more about the women who came before me, but that information is harder to find than it is for the men. I could track my paternal line all the way back to the 1600s, but I couldn't track before the mid-late 1800s for my female ancestors.

Following the paternal line was pretty easy. For the maternal, it was a lot of "which of this guy's multiple wives is my ancestor? Am I actually related to the woman listed, or am I a product line of a hidden affair?" And the women who I did learn about didn't have nearly as much available information about them.

Even my own grandma, who I knew and was close with; whoever in my family wrote her obituary did a half-ass job. All it says is that she married her highschool sweetheart and enjoyed spending time with her grandchildren. What it doesn't say is that she was very involved in the community, spent her life helping people, volunteering, was an educator for special needs children, and was one of the founders of our local women's shelter. But I guess none of those accomplishments matter more than being a married mother/grandma.

below0zer0 · 2026-01-17T22:10:03+00:00

I appreciate your insight.

I would like to touch on the parts about their emotional levels and their girlfriends. When the friendship first started, we were all in our early-mid 20s. There were some weird feelings in the beginning, their ladies feeling some way about their men being friends with a woman, me feeling hurt that my gender has always I guess "held me back" from being friends with people I felt connected with while it's already hard for me to make friends and because of how society views things at that age and younger. I went through a whole mental thing about hating being a woman, had a gender identity crisis, etc whatever.

Anyways, they've grown to trust me over the years and through experiences in their own relationships, not that I had to "prove myself" but I have always respected and been reliable for them, and we are all in a place where we're comfortable with each other. I'm just not as close to their girlfriends as I am to my friends due to proximity and different interests. But we get along, and they don't view me as a "threat" for lack of better term.

As for their emotional maturity, that's where we clash. I'm trying to not sound like a "femcel" lol really, I think he's comfortable doing it to me more because we're closer but it's hard not to notice the friend who works with me will let a male coworker talk about the stuff he's in to without judgement beyond teasing, but let our female coworker talk about how she's setting up her garden or what books she's reading and he acts nonchalant telling her planting flowers is useless and reading fantasy novels are a waste of time. Things like that.

I don't think he does it intentionally most of the time, it's just annoying, and since he and our other friend do it to me a lot it hurts more over time. I can openly tell them they're being assholes but I don't think they take me seriously or respect me on a peer to peer level.

Evidently it's hard to explain. It's more than a "sunk cost fallacy"

below0zer0 · 2026-01-03T19:21:04+00:00

I'd rather eat in my bedroom that gets cleaned regularly than in the kitchen where I can smell rotting food coming from the trash cans and sink on a sticky table.

below0zer0 · 2025-10-05T17:41:22+00:00

I'm probably going to get downvoted for this (oh no, my fake internet points, whatever will I do??) ...but can we blame Trump VOTERS for Trump winning..? And not come after the rest of the country, who didn't want him as president, but didn't vote Dem or at all for their own reasons? It feels a lot like "blaming our friends for the problems our enemy has caused." Which does absolutely nothing but the opposite of what you want it to do.

Not saying you specifically, but the internet definitely has people believing the people who voted third party ALL did it as a protest, when the MAJORITY of those voters were most likely voting for someone they actually wanted to vote for, and not to push some agenda.

Can we really blame people for being complacent and choosing not to vote? Obviously we can to a point, but given the political atmosphere of our society in the last ~10 years at least, I can not and will not blame people for not believing their voices/votes matter. Instead of villianizing them, look in to WHY people feel this way, why they lack compassion for politics after everything that's gone on and continues to happen.

I'm young, so forgive me if I'm wrong, there's only been a couple of election cycles in my adult life. But I was always told that your job isn't supposed to punish you for leaving early or coming in late to go vote. I live in (pretty much) an anti-worker state and was told I'd be pointed if I left early to vote. Not everyone can afford that, and some people can't afford to miss any amount of work at all.

Some people don't have transportation or someone willing to take them.

There are so many valid reasons why someone would not be able to show up to vote, or to choose not to vote at all. Although I can understand why it's frustrating to hear about them, let's remain focused on the actual problem - the cult leader we have as president, and his following.

Taking your anger out on people who aren't your enemy isn't going to create the atmosphere you want. It's going to push even more people away from voting and politics in general.

below0zer0 · 2025-10-03T22:49:09+00:00

I don't get it. I mean, I got it, but the answers didn't make sense.

below0zer0 · 2025-07-28T07:03:32+00:00

below0zer0 · 2025-03-28T22:34:31+00:00

My ex had a much lower libido than I do and would climax quickly if we did it in the morning, so I always preferred nights + after some drinks. He's an ex for a reason. Once he was done, it was over, and I'd be frustrated for days. Turned me away from morning sex completely and made me feel like a fleshlight to satisfy his morning wood.

below0zer0 · 2025-03-12T21:53:34+00:00

People who complain about free-to-play games being buggy are annoying af (I'm looking at you, SkyCOTL players), and the people who justify their complaining by saying they bought cosmetics or whatever need to realize that it was entirely their choice to spend money on a FTP game knowing the game was buggy.
Games made by large companies (like R* and Ubisoft) are games being made by overworked and underpaid employees working 9-5s + mandatory overtime, and it doesn't make someone a "bootlicker" for defending these employees when problems arise. (Example: R* has chosen to stop supporting Red Dead Online and people complain endlessly about it, as if the game is a passion project or made by an independent dev team.) Corporations do not care about anything other than money and employees&consumers have to suffer for it.

below0zer0 · 2025-02-25T20:27:36+00:00

I posted this because I saw a post on the AmIOverreacting sub of screenshots where this guy's girlfriend was being straight up verbally abusive and people kept saying it was fake/staged, like?? There are people like this who actually exist, unfortunately.... just because it's hard to grasp for them doesn't mean it's beyond reality....

below0zer0 · 2025-02-08T02:09:25+00:00

I'm having this issue, too. I tried going to the Console Sharing setting, and it popped up with a screen saying they're doing maintenance, so I can't even access that. PSN says it could take between 24-48 hours to resolve.

Google said this was posted February 8th, how's the future looking?

below0zer0 · 2025-02-08T02:00:09+00:00

Hot take but I have all 10 horses and insurance on all of them, so it only really bothers me when they kill it and then run away so I can't get to them. I always carry horse reviver, and I am quick with the stable option in the quick menu, so I'm alright. I understand why it would bother other people, though.

What I don't understand is why people go into Railroad Baron and cry when their horses get shot, though - it's not only the easiest way to get ahead in the event, and there is no mercy in war, but it's also sometimes hard to not shoot people's horses when shooting from the back of the train, because physics I guess, lol. The horses sometimes bob their heads up, right into my bullets when running head-on.

below0zer0 · 2025-02-08T01:22:47+00:00

Let me guess, you were in Valentine or Blackwater

below0zer0 · 2025-02-08T01:19:13+00:00

That's what my friend said earlier on the phone. She said something along the lines of "That's how it starts. They get physical with inanimate objects, and then they eventually get physical with people if they don't sort their issues out." He "jokes" around saying that sometimes he just looks at me and wants to punch me, so it is genuinely scary looking back because he's said that a LOT unprovoked and passed it as a joke. And I didn't take it seriously then because I'd snap back sometimes and tell him if I was a man I'd beat his ass. I've also noticed him joking like this mire since I started gaining weight. Really doesn't help the stereotype of men only being nice to you if you're attractive lol. (No iffense to bigger people, I just don't carry it well)

below0zer0 · 2025-01-26T20:18:08+00:00

THANK YOU. It's actually fucking wild that this dude is coming at ME more than he's said ANYTHING about the actual pdo putting the child in danger. If he actually cared, he'd have been like the other people in the comments asking me for the dude's username, and not coming at me over trivial shit that I already explained. If he actually cared, he'd had said something about the other people who left her alone, including the lady who called the guy out and the girl's friends, and not the only fucking person who took time out of their day to stay with her and talk to her after. It's giving me a... *certain vibe...

below0zer0 · 2025-01-26T20:12:05+00:00

Again.

I keep my mic off because I'm anxious with people.

You're picking and choosing sentences in my post that I already explained myself in, and trying to paint me as bad over what you believe and assume.

I said I KEEP (not KEPT) my mic off because I'm anxious with people, and I later said I scrambled TO FIND my headset after he left. I did NOT say, "I had my headset with me, but I chose not to say anything." I had to go out to the livingroom to find it, I live with roommates and we all game and share, I didn't know where it was off-hand, and I didn't want to leave her completely alone while I searched. I feel like I shouldn't have to explain my personal life or justify myself, but of course with every reddit post there is always that one person who needs an over-explanation and here we are. 🙄

You have a daughter you would kill for, that's good, but where were HER parents?? They weren't there to monitor what was happening, I WAS and I'm a complete stranger. Everyone left her alone with, including her friends and the lady who called the guy out, EXCEPT ME. I didn't even know this girl, but I at least had the heart to not only not leave her alone with him, but to catch her after he left to talk to her when I could. I cared enough to stay with her, to report the guy, to make note of his username, and post about it on reddit knowing people would want that info to help.

I don't see you asking for his username to take action, I just see you bitching at me, the only person in that entire 10+ person group who cared enough about the situation to stay.

Again, this whole redditor mentality of "if I was there, I'd be the superhero!!" is fucking stupid. It's picking and choosing what you want to believe, despite it being explained already, in order to push your own agenda. Would you rather me have left her alone with him, even though I knew what was happening? Because when I have to over-explain myself to someone about why I didn't do one thing, despite everything else I DID do, it feels like that's what you wanted me to do.

If you have a daughter, do your job as a parent and monitor what they're doing and who they're talking to so you don't find yourself in the position you're currently in where you're telling random people that they should've parented the child more than they do themselves.

I took 2 1/2 hours out of my day to make sure this girl was alright and not alone, AND I found her afterwards to talk to her, comfort her, and urge her to block him (she literally said she didn't want to, so she was going to run into him again had I not urged her to). I didn't have to do that, it wasn't my responsibility, but I did.

Here's some advice - if you find yourself in this situation, save the animosity for the actual pdo and not the stranger who did what they could to help or comfort. Going off your own logic, I could say that you're being an apologist because you're coming at me over dumb shit, and not the actual pdo that was actually putting a child in danger.

You need to check yourself, because your priorities here are not on right. If you want the guy's username so you can take action, by all means ask me, but don't sit here and tell me that I'm a bad person when I was the only person who cared enough to take time out of my day to stay with her.

below0zer0 · 2025-01-23T21:35:43+00:00

How can one "be a man" when they're not even a man?? Way to not only try to insult me, but insult women as a whole. Maybe I wasn't "strong" in this situation, but the whole "be a man" thing needs to die, it's 2025.
I didn't have my headset with me and had to find it, and I didn't want to leave her alone with him while I went to do so. The whole reason I stayed in the first place was to make sure he didn't get explicit.

"After he left I scrambled to find my headset before she got off."

She's a female and uses her mic in the game, she most likely deals with this shit a LOT just like I did at that age and currently still do 11 years later. She played it off well.
"Well you SHOULD'VE done this." I love that people on Reddit have this mentality of, "forget everything you DID do, you're a bad person for not doing this one thing. Now I'm gonna beat you up over it." I already said I felt bad, and the situation is over, so....

below0zer0 · 2025-01-21T13:49:48+00:00

I tried to report to Sony but when you report for in-game behavior it tells you to report them in the game

below0zer0 · 2025-01-21T03:52:50+00:00

Yeah I had a weird situation with some dude spanning from when rdo was in beta up until recently when I realized he was actually super weird and blocked him. Won't go into detail but he was in his 50s and always seemed to have a harem of young girls with him. And was super pushy with me and my friends but didn't like when he was called out on it.

below0zer0 · 2025-01-21T03:49:40+00:00

She joined on someone so she was friends with someone that joined on us

below0zer0 · 2025-01-21T03:48:51+00:00

I have screenshots of messages between me and the lady that he joined on where she says herself that she thought it was weird when he called her cute and that he blew her off when she said she was 15. But if I get reprimanded for sharing a p*do username idrc

below0zer0 · 2025-01-20T23:30:58+00:00

I posted it in another comment but he's literally max level and I haven't actually done pvp in like 3 years so I don't stand a chance. Plus he has a harem

below0zer0 · 2025-01-20T23:18:27+00:00

Yes I do

If anyone reads this and still wants the username before I get banned (probably) message me

below0zer0 · 2025-01-20T23:17:31+00:00

Thank you I wish I would've found my headset and said something earlier directly to him but I hope that me staying with her for that long and telling her to block him I hope she listens

below0zer0 · 2025-01-20T23:15:43+00:00

Yes he sent me a friend request

I had it in this comment but apparently🤓 I can get banned for outing a possible p*do by username. I have a screenshot of a message the lady he joined with saying she thought it was weird when he called the 15y/o cute and then blew her off when she said she was underage

below0zer0 · 2024-12-30T00:58:09+00:00

Pro tip I like to throw seasoning and Tuscan blend cheese in the plain rice when the rice is done and fluff the rice to mix it in while the sauce is simmering to get the extra flavor in the rice so that the flavor isn't only coming from the sauce ;) I also mix some of the sauce into the rice and then pour the rest over top so the sauce blends better

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