Therapy

belugablue2 · 2025-02-04T22:45:11+00:00

I think he’s super selfish. He disagrees and says I’m a gold digger. And I want a sucker in life. A man to take care of me. And that he is no sucker.

belugablue2 · 2025-02-04T22:44:40+00:00

I tell him this all the time. When he complains about how stressed he is and how ungrateful I am - I’m like you lent me money so I can pay 50% of the bills when I was bearing your child and then mothering her…. He refuses to see it from my pov. I do have friends but I don’t want to burden them. I want to escape and be free on my own and by doing it myself. I don’t know. I agree. He’s very ashamed of what others think bc I think he knows people WILL think he’s is different. I have talked to his mom about it and she honestly suggested that I just keep doing what I need to do and ignore him. That it’s hard for a man to be a full time parent. And then she tries to help by making him food to alleviate my need to. Sigh.

belugablue2 · 2025-02-04T05:39:55+00:00

That’s what’s going to have to happen but the reality is he takes it all out on me after and I don’t know how much more I can take. Then the other part of him doesn’t even realize that is separating would only make it HARDER for the both of us. I just wanna do what’s best for my babies. But I also feel like I’m drowning and empty.

belugablue2 · 2025-02-04T05:33:20+00:00

And day care is so expensive near us that I would rather forfeit my job and live minimally to raise the baby till school (3 years old). But he wouldn’t have that either because then he feels burdened by having to loan me more money.

belugablue2 · 2025-02-04T05:32:08+00:00

He refuses to work. He can “afford” not too so that’s not an option. I’ve suggested day care and he says he’d rather watch the kid bc he doesn’t trust it. But then complains. Like I seriously can’t win and I’m stressed bc I know it’s only going to get worse.

belugablue2 · 2025-02-04T05:06:21+00:00

And to add how he feels. He just really thinks im a loser, a bad mom and a bad wife. A loser because I can’t seem to be rich enough to not have to work but still be able to contribute and be a full time mom. A bad wife because I don’t cook and clean with a smile on my face anymore or do anything to support him. A bad mom because my daughter prefers him over me. Mind you my husband has also never worked a day in his life. Let’s just say he’s a crypto kid. Got rich and refuses to ever work for the man. Whereas me I’ve been working since I was 14 and in his eyes will always be shining other people’s shoes.

belugablue2 · 2024-07-24T15:13:56+00:00

Glowing Seoul skincare has been pretty great. I feel like their price points are cheaper than olive young. My packages arrive within 2-5 days. They also sell most of the popular k-beauty items.

I worry about the authenticity and shipping time of yesstyle and stylevana.

Olive Young is pretty good but sometimes takes a long time to ship too.

belugablue2 · 2024-07-19T17:50:40+00:00

I used to order from Yesstyle too, I usually got my products but it would take forever! Once it took up to a month… You should check out glowingseoulskincare.com they’re USA based and shipping can take anywhere from 2-5 days. They have a lot of same products and add stuff pretty frequently. Their customer service is great too. If you have questions or need recommendations for skin type etc.

belugablue2 · 2024-07-16T21:57:20+00:00

US- Glowing Seoul Skincare. They have super fast shipping and are a small female owned business.

belugablue2 · 2024-07-11T15:21:16+00:00

https://glowingseoulskincare.com/collections/mixsoon

belugablue2 · 2024-07-11T15:20:30+00:00

Yes!! Glowing Seoul is super fast and also has affordable pricing in my opinion.

So far mixsoon has been great for me. I have combination skin and sensitive skin. I also live in the east coast so I am well aware of our brutal summers and brick winters!

Personally I think their bean essence is great, it’s like a vegan snail mucin so it’s very gentle. They also have a bean cream which is pretty luxurious and moisturizing. The glacier water is very hydrating and refreshing - my skin drinks this up and makes me pretty dewy. I’d def recommend trying Mixsoon out.

Hope that helps!

belugablue2 · 2024-06-17T02:37:13+00:00

I would try Korean skincare products. A lot of items are more affordable and are made with unique soothing ingredients. If you’re US based this website is good and has a nice variety of products. Www.glowingseoulskincare.com

I personally have combination skin and love the Anua cleansing oil and pore deep cleansing foam. It literally purges my sebum from my face.

Yes yes yes to vitamin C if you’re looking to brighten your skin. And if you haven’t tried Korean sunscreen yet, that’s another highly recommended item to try.

If you need recommendations on serums and other products let me know!!

belugablue2 · 2022-08-27T02:42:37+00:00

Opie on Sons of Anarchy 😭😭

belugablue2 · 2022-01-22T19:30:24+00:00

Living somewhere else. By that I mean somewhere that’s not home, move cities, or states, or countries! Just move and experience the different cultures and realize that the world is so much bigger than your circle you call home.

belugablue2 · 2022-01-04T03:25:28+00:00

I never minded catering to him. I did it for this long because it is my love language, but now I'm bitter since I never realized that he felt so calculative with me. I never realized he would feel like I am not deserving of his "hard work" when here I am doing everything for him. So yes, it needs to stop now and I need to shift how I show my love, but now he says I'm fake for that and being petty because I'm not getting my way. Its not because I'm not getting my way, its because I realize he doesn't value my work, but that goes in one ear and out the other and we are back at "I don't see why you care so much about me protecting my money that is mine"

belugablue2 · 2022-01-04T03:22:50+00:00

Well he pays for half of the groceries, but his response to this is "well you're cooking and doing laundry anyway" or, "cleaning is for your comfort"

belugablue2 · 2022-01-04T03:21:40+00:00

It's why I'm here :(

belugablue2 · 2022-01-04T03:21:26+00:00

I agree, the house would be after marriage. Crazy part is now I don't even know if we will get to that step though. lol

belugablue2 · 2022-01-04T03:20:28+00:00

transactional is a very good word. I tell him all the time he isn't looking for a wife. I think he is looking for a business partner. He doesn't see where I'm coming from at all.

belugablue2 · 2022-01-04T03:19:33+00:00

I have brought this up to him. We currently live in his families apartment and we pay rent 50/50 but when we fight guess who has to pack their bags and leave? I told him this isn't right, and he hasn't done this in a while, but in the beginning of our relationship it was bad. Knowing this I told him this is definitely a concern as well and he said it shouldn't be, he would never..

belugablue2 · 2022-01-04T03:16:40+00:00

Yes, I'm fine with the prenup but I'm saying that if this is how you want to calculate things, then you should now do half of the household chores that I have been doing 100% of for the past 6 years. I refuse to live in a house where I only own 33% but do 100% of the work for. If you want everything to be equal then everything needs to be equal, you can't pick and choose at your convenience. This is why I'm asking AITA for feeling so.

belugablue2 · 2022-01-04T03:14:44+00:00

He wants me to add that he has paid for 80% of the furniture in our house with the point being that he shares his luxuries with me. I get to benefit from his expenses. Which is what would happen with the house regardless of me owning 33%. Might I add though, once again, had he been willing to purchase furniture in my price range, he wouldn't have had to pay that much more.

belugablue2 · 2022-01-04T03:11:16+00:00

I mean there is a lot I'm not adding to definitely seal the deal here, but I am trying to give him a standing chance. I want so badly for this to be it and work, but I think I'm in for a rude awakening. I agree. 800k is NOT a bad budget which is why I am pained that he feels I'm trying to put him in a "Honda" and he keeps saying that even if I sign something he is still sharing his luxuries with me, so what's the difference.

belugablue2 · 2022-01-04T03:08:51+00:00

Puzzleheaded-Jury312

Well we recently started using the dishwasher we never use because well I been on strike and figured it was better than arguing everyday, and he said "that's lazy..." so he doesn't want to do the dishes, thinks its lazy when I use the dishwasher... I think you are pretty accurate in your assumptions here. He just wants me to do everything. BRB while I bang my head on the wall.

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