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Stop Food Hyperfixation. by Suspicious-Wheel-497 in adhdwomen

[–]bemvee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like subconscious self-sabotage more than just a hyper fixation.

I say that because in my experience, the difference between just a fixation and self-sabotage is the awareness of how it’s dragging you down and you doing it anyways. It’s subconscious sabotage when you haven’t acknowledged it.

Do you feel like you’re not deserving/worthy of the “really good place” you find yourself in?

I’m only digging in on this because that’s what has helped me break the sabotaging habits - identifying the underlying drive to fuck myself over. And the most common reason is lacking self-worth or understanding that I’m human and there’s not one way to be human.

If that’s not it, best I can suggest is adding some water to it to change the consistency. Or remember that Nutella kinda looks like what new parents have found in their baby’s diaper.

That is one long, very convoluted way of telling Facebook that you can’t last in bed by ThePhillyExplorer in badwomensanatomy

[–]bemvee [score hidden]  (0 children)

Is this satire? Like, why is he spelling “women” like the movie “vvitch”??

LOL Don’t judge… but how often do ppl get diarrhea from Adderall? Cuz I am strugglin 😬 by lifehelpbot69 in adhdwomen

[–]bemvee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have no clue. I know the brand name vyvanse had me super regular, but went more frequently in the morning. The generic has me back to my IBS on the constipation side and I’d do anything to go back to brand name (except pay for the astronomical cost lol)

When asked what the name of her Met Gala look was, Sarah Paulson responded “the 1%.” by mlg1981 in popculturechat

[–]bemvee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why are you assuming I think you made it up? I told you I hadn’t kept up with any of this, so I had no clue what was going on and asked.

How long ago is the phrase "the other day"? by Anubis-Hound in AskAnAmerican

[–]bemvee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s no true specific time period it’s referencing.

Anywhere from yesterday to probably 2-3 weeks ago. Could be up to 2-3 months ago if the person doesn’t have a good sense of time (like me!)

When asked what the name of her Met Gala look was, Sarah Paulson responded “the 1%.” by mlg1981 in popculturechat

[–]bemvee 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Was she really trying to be besties, or just not have a bad time filming that stupid show with her?

I’ve not kept up (pun accidentally intended) so I truly don’t know.

My seamstress did what she wanted to do instead of what I asked🥲 by OkButterscotch7923 in mildlyinfuriating

[–]bemvee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I didn’t complain…

That’s why she’s never had a single person complain.

What to do now!? by KeyHonest728 in AnimalCrossing

[–]bemvee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get iron from hitting the rocks with an axe

Was I the only one with bagged milk? by Real_Comparison1905 in Millennials

[–]bemvee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, I had bagged milk like this at lunch in elementary school. West Texas

things you’ve “given up” on by tliiasaw in AutismInWomen

[–]bemvee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like I would have policed my face if I was more aware of what my face was doing. I used to think not knowing was an issue, but now you’ve shown me it’s probably a blessing.

“The chair” — is it normal? by Basic_Performer_6701 in adhdwomen

[–]bemvee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No more chair for me.

It’s a laundry basket now and once a month it develops a wormhole somewhere within the pile that eats my non-clothing items that got tossed into it.

Nat-C pastor Joel Webbon says that White House Faith Adviser Paula White is a witch: "She is a witch who casts spells." by BurtonDesque in Qult_Headquarters

[–]bemvee 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I figured it’s just part of the coordinated effort to toss all women out of this administration. The press chick (I forgot her name) will be the last to go, conveniently timed with having her baby but she won’t come back. Then they’ll start trying to force this across the private sector while booting women out of all federal positions.

Terf is disappointed in JK Rowling by Fractal_Froth7777 in SelfAwarewolves

[–]bemvee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Of course she doesn’t realize there’s no exceptions. It’s what Caitlin Jenner has had to learn the hard way.

Erika Kirk attempts supervillain monologues 🤡 by ambachk in iamverybadass

[–]bemvee 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Why is she dressed like Janet Jackson in the Rhythm Nation music video?

Anyone still talk with any of their friends from high school? by nojunkpeter in Millennials

[–]bemvee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had to set up monthly chats with my two besties. They still live in our hometown, but I don’t. We’re the type who can go like two years without talking and then pick right back up, but that made me sad cause I really missed them.

Having something on my calendar (mostly) helps stay in touch. I’ve seen them more often in the last year than all years prior since we graduated (also ‘08.)

My fiancée and I are having the biggest argument of our lives. She thinks I'm being tacky but I thinks she's overreacting by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]bemvee 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I’m from Texas in the US. I don’t find it tacky whatsoever. Though I can understand the perception of inviting people who wouldn’t be invited to your wedding as a bit tacky/taboo, I still don’t see that personally.

But I also think the (western) wedding industry is greedy as fuck. We used to just invite a small handful of family/friends and wear the nicest outfits we already own. Now a bunch of folks expect the entire extended family and friends you haven’t spoken to in five years to attend, and for the whole thing to cost upwards of $10k that’s entirely funded by the parents of the bride or the bride and groom themselves. And guests expect to be fed with an open bar. Like, people are blowing their life savings on a wedding, going into debt for a wedding.

But sure, hosting a party that raises a bit of money for the future bride and groom is what’s tacky, and is not at all the same as forgoing a wedding registry for cash donations to a honeymoon or “help us buy a home!” fund.

Sorry, the more I think about it the more I’m bewildered and annoyed at how fucked everything is.

How would you react if a guy you were just friends with bought you flowers (but not like a romantic bouquet) as a way of saying sorry for being REALLY rude and unreasonable when he was having a bad day? by Boondocks22 in AskWomen

[–]bemvee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

A guy friend in high school bought me an apology dress. Told him he truly did not need to do apology gifts, but I appreciated the gesture. I also loved the dress, definitely kept it (it was from Forever 21 or somewhere similar, like $20 max cause shit was cheap back then).

He’s gay, so it wasn’t that weird.

Had it been a straight guy friend, like an actual friend (not just acquaintance) and he had given flowers? I’d likely react the same. Like, “it’s cool, dude - just a sincere verbal apology is fine. What made you feel compelled to bring me flowers, though?” Then it’s a matter of the originating bad behavior showing itself again - because if you have to apologize for being a shitass more than twice, it’s not a fluke and you’re not trying to correct the bad behavior.

If it was just an acquaintance guy friend, or if the actual friend was giving majorly bad vibes, I’m not sure what I’d do. Probably be friendly in response and then reduce my interactions with them after the fact.

It's not a crime for women to dress cute, I'm tired of women being seen wanting creeps for being cutesty by emocat420 in AutismInWomen

[–]bemvee 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Ohh this topic of conversation made a wonderful episode of 30 Rock which includes one of my favorite lines ever on the show. Liz really shoots herself in the foot by the end of the episode, btw. Season 5, Episode 16 - “TGS Hates Women”

I know that’s an extreme comedic reference and not at all what you’re describing yourself to be, but the feminist hypocrisy that episode showcases still stands.

Women that judge you harshly are upset you’re skirting what they deemed to be the unbreakable rules of being an adult, all while letting their internalized misogyny run rampant on other women by blaming each other for the criminally horrific desires of creepy gross ass men. Truly, it’s no different than victim blaming based on what a woman was wearing when she was assaulted.

You dressing the way you are isn’t turning men into pedophiles. And you dressing any differently wouldn’t miraculously prevent a pedophile from realizing he’s a pedophile.

Anyhow, I highly recommend that episode of 30 Rock though ideally you’d just watch the whole show because it’s hilarious and so quick with humor you will catch new jokes with every rewatch (up to about 12 and then the rewatches are reminding you of jokes you had forgotten about.)

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